In this podcast, we’re going to look at the crisis behind why so many men are struggling to get into relationships?

Are men the problem? Or maybe women are the reason why men are single or is it society or maybe dating apps?

Who’s fault is it and can we rescue relationships? Should we rescue relationships and you are probably thinking, what’s wrong with being single?

Back in January, my son and I were testing for our next tae kwon do belt. I had just started tae kwon do 2 months earlier after quitting 30 years ago, so I was excited to do it with my son. Long story short, my ex, who had picked him up from school, texted me and said he didn’t want to go to my testing because he was tired and had a long day. I was incensed by this. I told her she wasn’t teaching him the right thing about how to support a family member, that we were making memories together. I insisted that he come with me. She said she was surprised how selfish and narcissistic I was being. She later said to me, do you know how much he is in engaged in tae kwon do to make you happy?

If you’re anything like I was early in my Nice Guy recovery, you have a hard time setting boundaries. Especially with women. We tend to let a pretty woman walk all over us, afraid if we set boundaries she will walk away.

Over the years, working with hundreds of Nice Guys, I’ve noticed they struggle with boundaries too. I used to think boundaries were negative, that they made you rigid, and that people with boundaries were just selfish.

Then one day, I heard Dr. Glover say, “Boundaries are an act of love.” This threw me because I couldn’t see how love could be rigid. But he explained that boundaries show others what you will accept and what you won’t. Without boundaries, there’s no love, especially for yourself. And if you can’t respect yourself enough to have limits, how can you truly love others?