Episodes

  • How To Effectively Negotiate With Your Kids and Partner Featuring Former FBI Hostage Negotiator, Chris Voss

    How To Effectively Negotiate With Your Kids and Partner Featuring Former FBI Hostage Negotiator, Chris Voss
    Nov 19 2024
    Parents would make incredible hostage negotiators. After all, we’re negotiating all day, every day, with our kids, partners, and co-workers. Because we’re in countless negotiations (and maybe we don’t even know it), I’ve invited former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss to the show to help us effectively negotiate with our kids, partner, and co-workers. This guy is legit. He’s even done a masterclass on it. Maybe you want your kids to go to bed on time or listen to better music. Or do you want your partner to step it up at home, or do you desire a better schedule at work? Chris is here for all of it. Plus, he shares why he wants our kids to say NO. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (03:54) Negotiating and Parenting With Chris Voss) (08:39) Redefining Negotiation Through Tactical Empathy (13:50) Parenting and Autonomy (22:39) Effective Hostage Negotiation Techniques (25:38) Importance of Tactical Empathy in Negotiation (30:26) Perspective and Accountability in Communication (33:29) Parenting Strategies for Effective Communication (48:45) Tactical Empathy in Parenting and Leadership In this episode, we are diving into causes of friction in families and how minimizing friction helps move collaboration along, the power of saying no, practical strategies you can use to help the people in your life feel heard (and therefore more willing to come to the table!), and why empathy does not require agreement. LINKS: Chris’s website WATCH: “Tactical Empathy” on Amazon Prime Video PAULA’S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER Paula’s Closet Sale, which benefits the BGCA–everything is 50% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    58 mins
  • Answering Your Questions: Talking Sex and Our Bodies with Our Kids

    Answering Your Questions: Talking Sex and Our Bodies with Our Kids
    Nov 12 2024
    The moms from the Birds & Bees are back to answer all your thought-provoking questions about how to talk about sex and our bodies with our children. When should they stop bathing together? How do you talk about sex when they’re older? Should your kids see you naked? How do you have these conversations with your special needs kids? We’re leaving no stone unturned. We’re even discussing when and if you should share your own personal experiences with them. And, don’t forget to sign up for their Birds & Bees course for 20% off with the code “PAULA”. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (01:28) Talking Tough Conversations With Kids (06:13) Effective Conversations With Adolescents (09:25) Starting the Conversation About Reproduction (17:16) When to Stop Bathing Together? (20:10) Cultural Perceptions of Modesty (37:50) Embracing Shyness in Parenting (43:37) Comfortable Conversations About Sex In this episode, we are digging into why having uncomfortable conversations is best done shoulder to shoulder, meeting our kids with age-appropriate responses, how to know when your child is ready for more information, when siblings should stop bathing together when family members should stop changing in front of one another, the danger of oversexualizing our bodies, and approaching the sex talk with kids who have special needs. Birds & Bees Course: USE CODE: PAULA for 20% off PAULA’S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER Paula’s Closet Sale which benefits the BGCA–everything is 50% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    52 mins
  • Let’s Talk About Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids, Featuring the Moms from the Birds & Bees

    Let’s Talk About Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids, Featuring the Moms from the Birds & Bees
    Nov 5 2024
    I don’t know of any parent that says, “I can’t wait to have the sex talk with my kid!” So, I’m gonna have the moms from Birds & Bees on the podcast to help us navigate all that discomfort. They’re going to tell you this: you’re not alone in your dread. But they’ll also share why and how we need to take the pressure off of having ONE BIG TALK. This conversation is going to be so helpful for you and your crew. And, it’s just Part 1. They’ll be back next week to answer ALL YOUR QUESTIONS, ranging from when kids should stop bathing together, being naked around your children, and how to talk about sex when they’re a bit older. Finally, make sure you check out their BIRDS AND BEES course, which is now 20% off with the code “PAULA.” Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (00:47) Navigating the Sex Talk With Kids (114 Seconds) (06:46) Importance of Multiple Age-Appropriate Conversations (80 Seconds) (11:33) Parenting and Sex Ed Timing (32 Seconds) (15:30) Navigating Early Conversations With Children (100 Seconds) (20:36) The Role of Parents in Conversations (76 Seconds) (28:47) Parenting and Sex Education Conversations (89 Seconds) SUMMARY: In this episode, we are delving into the pressure and dread parents feel around the sex talk, why parents need to initiate conversations about our bodies and sex, letting go of the pressure to be perfect parents so we can be purposeful parents instead, and how you can give your kids good information while giving yourself the grace to try again if a conversation doesn’t go the way you hoped it would. LINKS: Birds & Bees Course: USE CODE: PAULA for 20% off Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Paula’s Closet Sale which benefits the BGCA–everything is 50% off! THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    38 mins
  • How to Talk Politics with Our Kids, Family and Friends with America’s Gov’t Teacher, Sharon McMahon

    How to Talk Politics with Our Kids, Family and Friends with America’s Gov’t Teacher, Sharon McMahon
    Oct 29 2024
    Do you think we need to agree with people in order to respect them or befriend them? Maybe you’ve been unfriended by someone who doesn’t see eye to eye with you politically, or your kid has come from school saying disparaging things about another kid’s family because of who they’re voting for. (That’s the worst…and I’ve been there.) And why can’t we have conversations about politics at the dinner table? I’ve found the perfect person to talk about this with–Sharon McMahon, aka America’s Government Teacher, who just wrote a #1 New York Times Bestselling book called “The Small and the Mighty.” Sharon is going to guide us in how to effectively talk about politics with our kids, family, and friends. And make sure you hear her phrase for those of us who only respect or befriend people with our viewpoints. We also discuss the lack of choice in terms of candidates and a possible solution to fix it. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (03:24) Navigating Political Conversations With Sharon (12:27) Teaching Kids About Politics (18:36) Modeling Healthy Conversation With Curiosity (22:08) Moral Narcissism in Society (27:08) Navigating Bias in News Sources (29:30) Evaluating Media Bias and Reliability (38:41) Inspiring Everyday American Unsung Heroes (49:16) National Primary Election Day Legislation (54:27) Journalistic Integrity and Backlash SUMMARY: In this episode, we discuss how to teach our kids to talk about politics in an appropriate and civil way, how to disagree without dehumanizing other people, how to give our children age-appropriate agency, practical ways to help our kids develop critical thinking skills, and how to distinguish between bias and lies in information. LINKS: Paula’s Closet Sale which benefits the BGCA–everything is 50% off! Connect with Sharon Sharons’s new book 1440 News (Paula’s pick) Paula's Personal Newsletter THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • Paula and John: Why Parenting in America is So Tough, with Stephanie May Wilson

    Paula and John: Why Parenting in America is So Tough, with Stephanie May Wilson
    Oct 22 2024
    John and I have a wide-ranging conversation about Why Parenting in America is So Tough. We talk about our big struggles as parents, how parenting is “hazardous to your health” per the Surgeon General, plus we check in with our friend Stephanie May Wilson (Mom and Podcaster), who recently moved from Tennessee to SPAIN, mainly because parenting in America is such a struggle. You’ll love to hear her experience of what it’s like parenting in another country, how their cultures view and support family, plus our new favorite Spanish word and how it could be a game changer for your crew. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: Listen in to learn more: * Gratitude for Podcast Topics | 0:05:32 - 0:06:13 * Parenting Struggles With Over-Structuring | 0:10:48 - 0:12:05 * Teaching Responsibility Through Ownership | 0:13:43 - 0:14:53 * Parental Balancing Act of Providing Experiences | 0:17:04 - 0:18:31 * Parenting in America vs. Other Countries | 0:20:28 - 0:21:25 * Parenting Challenges Prompt Move to Spain | 0:24:54 - 0:25:28 * School Enrollment Stress in Spain | 0:30:00 - 0:31:53 * Parental Struggles and Community Investment | 0:40:48 - 0:41:49 In this episode, we discuss stressors in parenting and raising a family, the challenge of balancing protecting our kids with growing their resilience, cultural differences in raising families, and the freedom that comes with simplifying family life. LINKS: HOW TO BUILD AUTONOMY IN OUR KIDS FAMILY CHARGING BOX TO REDUCE SCREEN TIME THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ SIGNUP FOR PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    57 mins
  • America’s record low birth rates: should we care? Featuring Sociologist Dr Jennifer Glass

    America’s record low birth rates: should we care? Featuring Sociologist Dr Jennifer Glass
    Oct 15 2024
    We’re having fewer and fewer kids in the U.S. In fact, we’ve reached record-low numbers. But here’s the question: should we care? I am talking to sociologist Dr Jennifer Glass to explain the trend and reveal the most puzzling piece about it all. Dr Glass is a Sociology Professor at the, University of Texas and the Executive Director at the Council on Contemporary Families. This is her life work. She’s done the research, commissioned the studies, looked at the trends and will break it all down. As she tells me, we have a system where “mom just picks up the slack”. But, moms are fed up and starting to say NO. We can’t call ourselves a family-friendly country if our policies don’t support the family and if money and power continue to go to those who ignore their families. So, what’s our path forward? Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: * Low Birth Rates and Family Policy | 0:00:52 - 0:02:36 * Global Concerns About Declining Birth Rates | 0:07:51 - 0:09:29 * Support for Families | 0:14:26 - 0:15:47 * Rethinking Office Metrics for Remote Work | 0:20:20 - 0:21:32 * Tax Pinch vs Social Insurance | 0:23:12 - 0:23:47 * Shared Responsibility for Family Leave | 0:26:30 - 0:27:28 * Lack of Family-Friendly Policies | 0:31:36 - 0:32:36 * American Individualism Impact on Children | 0:35:57 - 0:37:21 SUMMARY: In this insightful episode, Paula and Dr. Stephanie Glass highlight the challenges families face due to inadequate family-friendly policies, comparing U.S. approaches to those in Europe. Dr. Glass emphasizes the need for systemic changes to bolster families and the economy, offering hope through collaborative efforts and community-driven solutions. LINKS: Learn more about Dr. Stephanie Glass Council on Contemporary Families https://sites.utexas.edu/contemporaryfamilies/ THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ SIGNUP FOR PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins
  • What We Can Learn From Australia About How Supporting Families Grows the Economy with Prime Minister Scott Morrison

    What We Can Learn From Australia About How Supporting Families Grows the Economy with Prime Minister Scott Morrison
    Oct 8 2024
    I get so fired up talking about this issue. We talk a lot about how we’re pro-family in this country. But, when it comes down to it, do America’s policies actually support families? We’ve made this political.. And that’s where we’ve gone wrong because this is an ECONOMIC issue. Yes, you heard me right, this is all about the economy. As Australia’s former Prime Minister, Scott Morrison will tell us, when families are supported through family-friendly policies, the economy booms. Not only that, families are strengthened, and we close the gender equity gap. There is a lot of work to be done. But, let’s talk about where to start and why everyone wins when families are supported. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: * Evolving Australian Policies | 0:08:22 - 0:08:43 * Economic Impact of Subsidized Childcare | 0:10:46 - 0:13:19 * Strengthening Families Through Economic Support | 0:24:05 - 0:25:41 * Comparing Family Support Systems in Australia | 0:31:01 - 0:32:07 * Enriching Childcare Through Education | 0:33:47 - 0:35:05 * Supporting Families Through Advocacy and Collaboration | 0:40:14 - 0:41:16 SUMMARY: In this episode, we are digging into why childcare is an economic issue, the importance of supporting families at the policy level, the number one barrier for women in the workplace in the United States, and how it benefits employers to have family friendly policies. LINKS: Pick up a copy Scottt’s new book : Plans For Your Good: A Prime Minister's Testimony of God's Faithfulness https://amzn.to/3zOsIPn THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ SIGNUP FOR PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    49 mins
  • HOT TOPICS: Why Women Are Leaving the Workforce with Neha Ruch from Mother Untitled

    HOT TOPICS: Why Women Are Leaving the Workforce with Neha Ruch from Mother Untitled
    Oct 1 2024
    We’re talking hot topics throughout Season Three of The Paula Faris Show and one of the hottest topics is this: Women are leaving the workplace because it simply doesn’t work for them. 1 in 3 women are planning on “pausing” and nearly half are considering downshifting, to lean into family life. What’s behind this trend? And, how can we support women throughout their entire journey of kids and career? I’ve invited Neha Ruch, founder of Mother Untitled, to the conversation to talk about why women are leaving the workforce, plus how we can reframe the way we think and talk about “at-home” parents. Motherhood Untitled is the leading platform for ambitious women who are leaning into family life. Neha and I have a very honest and spirited conversation about the pros and cons of leaving the workforce and how we can put an end to the #MommyWars. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (0:00:00 - 0:03:00) Community Resilience and First Responders (0:03:28 - 0:06:28) Challenges Faced by Working Mothers (0:06:36 - 0:09:36) Reframing Stay-at-Home Motherhood (0:20:11 - 0:23:11) Navigating Career Pivots After Motherhood (0:38:47 - 0:41:47) Ending the Divisiveness in Parenting Choices SUMMARY: In this episode, we are diving into reframing the role of a stay-at-home parent, the many multi-faceted reasons a parent may choose to pause or downshift their work outside the home, the crux of the mommy wars and how we can solve them, the power of choice and advocating for better support for every parent, and the motherhood penalty women face in the workforce. LINKS: Connect with Neha https://www.instagram.com/motheruntitled/ Get Neha’s Book, ‘The Power Pause’ https://amzn.to/3zDUFsZ THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ SIGNUP FOR PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 mins