The insecurity you’d do about anything to keep hidden, the way you’re always on a 10 but still feel behind, your fear of rejection–leave it with Him. You don’t have to carry it anymore.

Links mentioned:

1. To learn more about Enneagram 3s–including what we appreciate most about you, how you can use your strengths to mirror God’s grace to your neighbors, and (for the rest of us) how we can best missionally love the Enneagram 1s we know–grab the Enneagram Neighboring Lists. Each list is available both as phone wallpaper and as a printable pdf.
2. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up HERE.
3. Read the written version of this episode HERE.
4. Guided journals I recommend: Stuff I’d Only Tell God by Jennifer Dukes Lee and Sacred Prayer by Ann Voskamp
5. For weekly inspiration, subscribe to Begin Within: A Gratitude Series.

There you are. You’re quick to see the needs in front of you, but sometimes it feels like no one sees you.

You are more than the warm, smiling face greeting us at the door. More than the volunteer we count on for an enthusiastic “yes.” More than the way you welcome both friend and stranger with the hugs we all love.

Sometimes your worth gets all tangled up in what you can do to serve others. Your helpfulness is a beautiful reflection of Jesus inside you—true. But let’s detach self-worth from all the things that require you to bend backwards or burn out.

Links mentioned:

1. To learn more about Enneagram 2s–including what we appreciate most about you, how you can use your strengths to mirror God’s grace to your neighbors, and (for the rest of us) how we can best missionally love the Enneagram 1s we know–grab the Enneagram Neighboring Lists. Each list is available both as phone wallpaper and as a printable pdf.
2. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up HERE.
3. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

To you, exhausted from trying so hard to be perfect, weighed down by feeling worthless, worrying about what others think of you–let’s take a big exhale together.

It’s time for a trade: The intrusive anxiety, the dreaded insufficiency, and the battle in your mind–for acceptance that doesn’t hinge on your perfection.

Links mentioned:

1. To learn more about Enneagram 1s–including what we appreciate most about you, how you can use your strengths to mirror God’s grace to your neighbors, and (for the rest of us) how we can best missionally love the Enneagram 1s we know–grab the Enneagram Neighboring Lists. Each list is available both as phone wallpaper and as a printable pdf.
2. Need song recommendations? Get my favorites HERE.
3. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up HERE.
4. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

Some days you get in a slump and maybe you don’t truly believe there’s a place for you. You dismiss somewhere way down inside that God would actually want you next to Him. That He seeks your presence.

Then you read John 14:2 and it hits hard: you are in the front of God’s mind. You’re not a last thought. Not unfilled potential. Not looked over in the slew of everyone else.

Links mentioned:

1. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up HERE.

2. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

Underneath my slouched posture and avoidance of eye contact was the belief that my voice didn’t matter. I left speaking up to those whose words were more effortless, less awkward. I thought that meant they mattered more.

Perhaps you can relate.

You dismiss the value of your voice because someone else can articulate it better, say it with more confidence, or couch it in more credibility. You second-guess, self-critique, self-sabotage. Because, like me, you struggle to believe, way down deep, that your voice also matters.

Links mentioned:

1. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up HERE.

2. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

We want there to be good reason for the delay.

Want to know the waiting will one day make sense.

Want assurance that God’s best will be worth all the angst and surrender.

Links mentioned:

1. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up HERE.

2. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

I think of how less light around me works almost like blinders on a horse. Blinders are the piece on a horse’s harness that blocks their vision–not entirely, but so they see only what’s straight ahead. It’s a built-in focus mechanism. One I often resist but deeply need.

Links mentioned:

1. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up here.

2. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

3. Get the playlist of my favorite worship songs HERE.

4. Get a FREE Names of God Phone Wallpaper HERE.

I was a keep-to-myself neighbor for most of my life. A scarcely-seen neighbor. A door-locked-unless-I-expected-guests neighbor.

But I was also a lonely neighbor.

I thought it was normal to drive across town every time you wanted to meet up with a friend. To close the garage door as soon as you pull inside and gaze at the ground when you walk to the mailbox. To nod a cordial hello if you see a neighbor but not step inside their house, not hoist their kid onto your knee as they stir something on the stove, not leak tears in living rooms and share meals in front yards and welcome your house to fill with neighbor kids.

You don’t know what you’re missing until you experience the opposite.

Links mentioned:

1. To get a short, doable tip in your inbox every week to help you get to know your neighbors, sign up here.

2. Read the written version of this episode HERE.

3. Get a FREE Names of God Phone Wallpaper HERE.