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  • How a King Initiates His Queen: From Fighting Him to Receiving Him

    How a King Initiates His Queen: From Fighting Him to Receiving Him
    Jun 5 2025

    In this intimate and fiery episode, Courtney and Mike dive deep into the process of how the masculine initiates the feminine — not through dominance or control, but through presence, responsibility, truth, and devotion.


    They unpack what the uninitiated feminine looks and feels like — the blaming, the spilling, the disconnection — and contrast it with the initiated feminine, who is radiant, relational, and deeply embodied.


    Courtney vulnerably shares how her own feminine has been invited into queen energy, not by being coddled — but by being met. Fiercely. Lovingly. Clearly.


    Mike opens up about the internal process it takes as a man to initiate the feminine — and what it means to do so in a way that builds intimacy, trust, and alchemical connection.


    Stay tuned until the end as they explore how the masculine’s sexual desire is not a threat… but one of the greatest invitations to the feminine's full awakening.


    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relating

    01:51 Understanding the Uninitiated Feminine

    13:18 The Initiated Feminine: Traits and Responsibilities

    22:27 The Masculine's Role in Initiating the Feminine

    33:42 Practical Examples of Masculine Containment

    41:04 Trust and Challenge in Relationships

    41:40 The Role of the Masculine in Building Trust

    44:22 The Dance of Masculine and Feminine Energies

    48:09 The Process of Initiation

    49:03 Techniques for Calling Out the Little Girl

    56:25 Double Initiation in Relationships

    01:01:11 The Juicy Invitation: Feminine Energy

    01:06:51 Sexual Desire as an Invitation

    01:11:31 The Power of Penetration and Trust

    01:15:35 Conclusion and Invitation to Join the Community


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    1 hr and 19 mins
  • How the Feminine Transforms the Masculine from Lost & Insecure to Empowered & Clear

    How the Feminine Transforms the Masculine from Lost & Insecure to Empowered & Clear
    May 22 2025

    What does it really take for a man to rise into his power?

    In this potent episode, Mike & Courtney dive deep into the sacred process of masculine initiation—how the feminine (as life, as mirror, as love) plays a catalytic role in helping the masculine evolve from confusion and stagnation into clarity, mission, and emotional depth.


    🎯 Whether you’re the one feeling “too much” in relationship…

    🎯 Or the one feeling lost, blamed, or unsure how to show up…


    This episode is your invitation to explore the sacred alchemy of relationship.


    🧭 What You’ll Learn:

    — How to spot the difference between an initiated and uninitiated masculine

    — Why the feminine’s “complaints” are actually sacred invitations

    — Why the masculine often misreads the feminine as a threat

    — How to initiate the masculine without fixing or shaming

    — The perks of initiation: hotter intimacy, deeper devotion, powerful leadership


    This episode isn’t just for men or women—it’s for all beings who are ready to deepen in love, responsibility, and purpose through relationship.


    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relating

    00:28 Episode Overview: Transforming the Masculine

    01:05 Personal Updates and Studio Setup

    03:07 The Uninitiated Man: Feminine Perspective

    12:23 The Uninitiated Man: Masculine Perspective

    23:04 Cultural and Familial Influences

    26:07 The Role of the Sacred Mirror

    34:48 Realizing the Dynamics of Trauma

    36:04 The Uninitiated Man

    38:23 The Initiation Process

    43:42 The Feminine Oracle

    47:12 Navigating Relationship Challenges

    54:57 The Art of Delivering Feedback

    01:06:52 The Perks of Initiation


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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • From Stuck to Sacred: Majie & Shaeah on Healing Togetherness in Relationship

    From Stuck to Sacred: Majie & Shaeah on Healing Togetherness in Relationship
    May 15 2025

    In this episode, we sit down with Majie & Shaeah, a radiant couple joining us from their jungle home in Costa Rica, to share their real, raw, and inspiring journey through sacred relationship.

    What started as a dream to build a new life together became a profound opportunity for emotional healing, nervous system repair, and deeper connection.


    ✨ If you've ever asked:

    — “Why do the same patterns keep showing up?”

    — “Can a relationship still be beautiful even when it’s hard?”

    — “How do we repair without breaking?”

    …this conversation is for you.


    What You’ll Hear:

    💛 Co-creating under pressure: moving countries, building homes, and staying connected

    💛 The “invisible distance” created by repeated conflict

    💛 Somatic repair, inner child healing, and co-regulation in real time

    💛 What sacred relationship actually looks like when there’s love AND conflict

    💛 How to turn triggers into tenderness—and separation into safety


    🕒 Chapters:

    00:00 – Welcome

    01:00 – Moving to Costa Rica & Building a Life Together

    06:00 – The Trigger Cycles & Power Struggles

    12:00 – Shame, Safety, and Emotional Distance 20:00 – How They Found Us & What Called Them In

    25:00 – Inner Child Work & Somatic Repair

    33:00 – What Sacred Relationship Really Means

    38:00 – Why Couples Coaching Changed Everything

    49:00 – Life After the Work: More Play, More Love, More Sex

    58:00 – Final Reflections & Takeaways


    🎧 Listen now

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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • Why Porn & Substances Are Ruining Your Relationships (& What to Do Instead)

    Why Porn & Substances Are Ruining Your Relationships (& What to Do Instead)
    May 3 2025

    • In this vulnerable and transformational solo episode, Mike Elliott shares his personal journey through pornography, substance use, shame, and the path to sacred masculine maturity.


      He unpacks how these often-hidden coping mechanisms:

      • Sabotage intimacy and emotional availability

      • Keep men stuck in immaturity and isolation

      • Block the deeper soul gifts of love, leadership, and purpose

      You’ll also hear about his upcoming community for men: The Initiated Man.


      🕒 Episode Chapters:

      00:00 – Welcome to the Podcast 00:54 – Episode Introduction and Apologies

      01:36 – Exploring the Impact of Porn and Substance Abuse

      04:19 – The Root Causes of Coping Strategies

      12:02 – Personal Journey and Early Exposure

      20:42 – The Role of Shame and Emotional Needs

      22:49 – Substance Abuse and Emotional Regulation

      28:08 – The Importance of Co-Regulation and Mature Relationships

      34:45 – Healing and Moving Forward

      40:14 – Understanding Dysfunction in Relationships

      40:36 – Core Roots and Emotional Needs

      41:20 – Self-Soothing and Addictions

      42:39 – Inner Child Work and Healing

      43:47 – Building Safe Connections 46:22 – Directing Energy Towards Partners

      47:41 – Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships

      49:01 – Personal Growth and Fulfillment

      50:47 – Overcoming Coping Strategies

      53:00 – Finding Purpose and Mission

      01:07:21 – The Initiated Man Community

      🎧 Listen now


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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • Choosing Each Other, Again and Again: Michael & Robin’s Story of Enduring Love

    Choosing Each Other, Again and Again: Michael & Robin’s Story of Enduring Love
    Apr 1 2025
    What does it take to stay together—not just through the good times, but through unimaginable grief? In this deeply moving episode, Michael and Robin open up about their 30-year journey of partnership, from early friendship and blended family life to the devastating loss of Michael’s daughter.With raw honesty and hard-won wisdom, they share how they rebuilt trust, leaned into personal growth, and stayed connected even when everything around them was falling apart. Along the way, they offer powerful tools for communication, reflection, and healing that have helped them sustain intimacy over three decades.Whether you're in a long-term relationship or navigating love after loss, this episode is a testament to what's possible when two people choose each other—over and over again.00:00 – Intro: Love, Loss & LongevityWelcome to the episode and a brief intro to Michael & Robin’s 30-year journey of partnership and healing.02:11 – The Early Years: Friendship Before RomanceMichael and Robin share how their relationship began as colleagues and friends—and how the spark slowly turned to love.05:45 – Becoming a Couple: Learning to Trust AgainNavigating early fears, family blending, and the pivotal moment Robin said “yes” to moving in.09:30 – A Marriage Formed by FireThey recall the early days of marriage, co-parenting challenges, and the emotional work required to stay committed.14:12 – Tragedy Strikes: The Loss That Changed EverythingMichael and Robin open up about the devastating loss of Michael’s daughter and the grief that nearly tore them apart.18:40 – Choosing to Stay: Healing in the Hardest TimesWhat it meant to stay together during grief—and how their marriage became a container for healing.22:30 – Tools That Transformed Us: From Reactivity to RepairThe couple shares a favorite communication tool that helped them transform conflict into connection.27:15 – Growing Up TogetherHow their individual personal growth work influenced their relationship—and how they learned to grow together.30:40 – The Power of Perspective: Seeing Each Other ClearlyThey discuss the gift of being truly seen by your partner, and the “long game” of intimacy.35:20 – What Keeps the Spark Alive After 30 YearsMichael and Robin reflect on how they continue to nurture intimacy, play, and connection over the decades.39:55 – Final Thoughts: Love as a PracticeClosing reflections on what love looks like now, and their hopes for other couples navigating love and loss.How healthy is your relationship? Take the FREE Relationship Quiz and find out. https://couples.solutions/ Want to learn a couple of tools to upgrade your connection? Attend the two-hour Introduction to True Love. https://couples.solutions/intro/ Partner reluctant to participate? Transform your relationship on your own. Social Handle: instagram.com/couples.solutionsOnline Community Link⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠Instagram@MikeElliott.RelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠ 15% off with PROMO CODE: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    1 hr and 25 mins
  • Toe curling Spiritual Sex Series- Part 1- Why Isn't She Into It?

    Toe curling Spiritual Sex Series- Part 1- Why Isn't She Into It?
    Mar 6 2025

    Episode Summary

    In the first episode of the Toe Curling Spiritual Sex Series, the hosts dive deep into the role of emotions and vulnerability in sexual intimacy. They debunk common myths that both men and women have been told about suppressing emotions during sex and reveal how true sexual alchemy emerges when emotions are embraced rather than repressed. The conversation explores how the masculine can welcome the feminine’s full emotional expression, while the feminine learns to trust the masculine’s presence. Through personal stories and intimate experiences, they demonstrate how emotional honesty in lovemaking can lead to deeper intimacy, profound healing, and "life-activating orgasms." Listeners are encouraged to cultivate sexual alchemy by embracing the full spectrum of emotions, creating a space of surrender, pleasure, and connection in their relationships.


    Chapters

    (00:00:17)Introduction to the Toe Curling Spiritual Sex Series(00:01:28) Debunking the Lies AboutEmotions in Sexuality

    (00:02:21) The Role of Emotions inSexual Alchemy

    (00:03:12) Parenting, Distractions,and Intimacy

    (00:04:08) The Feminine Experience:How Suppressing Emotions Kills Desire

    (00:05:51) The Masculine Experience:The Pressure to Perform

    (00:07:42) Why Avoiding EmotionsCreates Sexual Disconnect

    (00:10:12) Embracing Vulnerability inSexuality

    (00:12:52) The Masculine’s Role inHolding Space for Emotions

    (00:15:19) The Body’s Wisdom: How theNervous System Reacts to Pressure

    (00:17:00) Personal Story: HealingShame Through Sexual Connection

    (00:20:04) The Shift from Performanceto Presence

    (00:22:34) The Feminine’s Invitationto the Masculine

    (00:25:06) How Feminine ExpressionGuides Deeper Intimacy

    (00:30:08) The Masculine’s Invitationto the Feminine

    (00:35:49) Practical Ways to BuildSexual Alchemy

    (00:42:40) A Profound Sexual HealingExperience

    (00:49:54) Expanding Passion Beyondthe Bedroom

    (00:55:31) Closing Thoughts &Invitation to the Community


    Online Community Link

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    1 hr and 1 min
  • Awakened Woman-From Frustrated and Unmet To Loving Fiercely

    Awakened Woman-From Frustrated and Unmet To Loving Fiercely
    Mar 4 2025

    Courtney goes into the journey of the "awakened woman" and the importance of the feminine energy in sacred relationship, including the need to work through anger and frustration to cultivate a fierce love that can initiate and call forth the masculine. She emphasizes the importance of the feminine developing a strong relationship with her inner masculine, as well as being willing to be fiercely loving and truthful with the outer masculine partner. The speaker also addresses common hang-ups for the feminine, such as spilling emotions without discernment and struggling to hold space for the masculine's vulnerability. She encourages the feminine to practice assuming their partner has wisdom they cannot see, and to be open to being initiated and grown by the masculine. Courtney invites listeners to explore these themes further through her upcoming women's community.

    (00:00:17) Welcome & Introduction
    (00:01:28) The Power of Community
    (00:02:21) The Feminine Journey & Why It Matters
    (00:03:11) From Anger to Fierce Love
    (00:03:57) Strengthening Our Inner Masculine
    (00:04:33) My Personal Relationship Journey
    (00:06:23) The Power of Relational Mirrors
    (00:07:32) Honoring the Feminine Blueprint
    (00:10:14) Sacred Rage: Catalyst or Destruction?
    (00:14:14) Fiercely Loving the Masculine
    (00:18:17) Working with Emotion: Not Just Spilling
    (00:24:27) The Masculine in Vulnerability
    (00:35:38) The Inner Masculine: Our Foundation
    (00:47:10) Dreaming with the Masculine
    (01:02:02) Seeing the Masculine’s Wisdom
    (01:04:56) Final Thoughts & Community Offerings


    Online Community Link

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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • Needy, Reactive and Controlling- Reparenting Yourself Into a Sexually Charged Connection

    Needy, Reactive and Controlling- Reparenting Yourself Into a Sexually Charged Connection
    Feb 17 2025
    This episode explores how to move from needy, reactive, and controlling behaviors in relationships to sexually charged connection. It covers three key points: understanding young parts and how they can destroy relationships, recognizing when young parts are present, and learning how to get to know your wise adult self to cultivate sexually charged connection.Key Topics:Young Parts and Relationship DestructionYoung, unmet parts from childhood can lead to needy, reactive, and controlling behaviors in relationships.These behaviors deplete sexual charge and intimacy, often leading to relationship breakdown.In past relationships, the speakers experienced this pattern of their young parts taking over, leading to demands, criticism, and emotional distance from their partners.Recognizing Young PartsEmotionally charged expectations and demands on your partner are signs that young parts are driving the relationship.Young parts are based on unmet needs and wounds from childhood that get triggered in the present.The speakers share their personal journeys of learning to recognize and work with their young parts.Cultivating the Wise AdultThe key is to develop the capacity of the wise, mature adult self to hold and tend to the young parts.Practices like somatic work, journaling, ceremony, and men's/women's circles can help develop this wise adult presence.When the wise adult is online, it allows for more sexually charged, alive connection with a partner, as they can take responsibility for their own needs.The speakers share how this journey has transformed their relationship, allowing for deeper intimacy and aliveness.(00:00) Welcome & Episode Overview(01:13) Needs, Young Parts & Wise Adult in Relationships(02:13) Longing for Connection in Early Marriage(02:52) Sexual Charge & Working With Inner Child Parts(03:43) Relating to Your Partner vs. Relating to the Child(04:33) When Needy, Reactive, and Controlling Patterns Emerge(05:26) Emotional Distance & Grieving Intimacy Loss(06:11) The Trap of Expecting a Partner to Fix Your Needs(08:05) Emotional Abuse, Blame & Gaslighting Dynamics(08:59) When Young Parts Drive the Bus(10:01) How Control Patterns Kill Sexual Polarity(12:11) Coping with Emotional Overload Through Numbing(13:04) Enabling vs. Empowering: Why Fixing Doesn’t Work(13:44) What Are Inner Child Parts?(16:07) Implicit Memory & Reacting from the Past(17:42) Separate Lives vs. Sexual Closeness(19:20) Discovering the Inner Child Through Mentorship(21:44) Bringing Vulnerability to Your Partner(23:10) Boundaries vs. Codependence in Conflict(27:38) Recognizing Emotionally Charged Expectations(28:25) Adult Communication vs. Child Part Reactivity(29:57) Learning to Parent Yourself First(32:20) Turning Towards Inner Parts for Real Intimacy(39:47) The Power of Men’s Circles & Inner Work(42:58) Wise Adult vs. Inner Child: What It Feels Like(48:14) Why Owning Your Parts is Sexy(53:06) Sexual Charge Through Personal Maturity(53:51) Couples Healing Success Story(55:59) Temple Nights & Sexual Polarity Practices(58:09) Real-Life Chemistry as Parents(58:45) Gratitude & The Notebook Realization(1:00:31) Join the Together Community(1:01:22) Closing Invitation to ConnectCommunity Linkhttps://www.sacredrelating.com/Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠relating@courtneywren.comWebsite⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠Instagram@MikeElliott.RelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/ 15% off with PROMO CODE: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDShttps://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/allPromo Code: Together15
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    1 hr and 20 mins
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