“I’m not gay, but…”

This week, we’re diving into the wonderfully chaotic world of queer-coded behaviour before we knew we were queer.

From playing as the opposite gender in The Sims, to lurking in gay chatrooms “just out of curiosity” to watching certain videos a little too often, we reflect on all the ways we unknowingly tried to suppress or test our queerness.

We also chat:

• Compulsory heterosexuality (comp het) and how it shaped our early experiences

• The fear of same-gender intimacy going “too far”

• The lack of queer representation growing up, and how that impacted our identity development

• And the moments we look back on and go: “Oh...”

It’s tender. It’s hilarious. It’s extremely gay.

And if you’ve ever had a “wait… am I?” moment, this one’s for you. 🌈💻💋

Where to find us:

Instagram: @taylormadetraining.pt & @vbthept

It’s been a big couple of weeks for birthdays: Toria just hit 30, Lucy’s nephew made his grand entrance (on their late dad’s birthday, no less) and we’re feeling reflective as ever.

In this episode, we dive into life updates, healing journeys and how our relationships with training, food and identity are evolving.

Toria’s officially cleared to play rugby again post-ACL tear, but not without navigating the mental side of recovery. Lucy opens up about shifting away from bodybuilding to prioritise health and how that’s impacted their sense of self.

We also explore:

• The messy post-bodybuilding prep phase and erratic goal chasing

• Experimenting with beliefs instead of blindly accepting them

• Food rules we’re still unlearning and the progress we’re proud of

• Why creativity is the antidote to all-or-nothing thinking

This one’s part therapy, part birthday party. Grab a cuppa (or a slice of cake) and settle in 🧠🍰🏳️‍🌈

Where to find us:

Instagram: @taylormadetraining.pt & @vbthept

In this episode, we unpack the recent UK Supreme Court ruling on the legal definition of 'woman' and the EHRC’s interim advice — breaking down what this means for the trans and gender-diverse community. We explore the wider conversation around how sex and gender are conceptualised in law and society, and dive into the ripple effects this has already had in sport, from football to cricket.

We also reflect on the realities of navigating the fitness industry as a marginalised person, and why creating truly inclusive spaces is more important than ever.

To wrap up, we share thoughts on how to stay grounded and supported in the face of rising hostility — from finding your people and engaging in queer joy, to the role of allies in showing up, speaking out, and redistributing resources.