0:00 Unfortunately, we've been, we've been victimized by "respect", way too long. We've been victimized by this word, "respect", which is actually not what they're using it for, I don't think. I don't think it means what they think it means. 0:11 Welcome to the life against the green podcast. I'm your host, Nikki Marie, a wife, mother, mental health advocate, and generational wellness coach, 0:35 if you are ready to redesign your life according to your desires and your morals, but you feel trapped by the constraints of society and inherited beliefs, then you are in the right place. I want this podcast to serve as a safe space to explore, evaluate and envision your own blueprint for life. So let's get into it... 1:13 Hello, hello, hello. Come on in, take off your jacket and stay a while. I'm your host, Nikki Marie, and today we will be diving into a classic. It's an oldie but goodie, Respecting Your Elders. In today's episode, What Respect? Respect this Bish! I could understand how we came to that conclusion of respecting your elders, because you don't want to disrespect someone's knowledge and experience that have came before you, and are here to try and help you learn so that you can grow, right? That is a perfect example of where respecting your elders should come into play. But unfortunately, most people do not use the "Respect your elders" as a thing, because they want to make sure they're getting respect the same way they're giving it. In my experience, I've heard the term "Respect your elders", when I questioned something that I didn't feel was right for me. But somebody else was telling me to do it and since they were older, I had to "respect them". I also had those moments where an older person was there berrating and disrespecting me. And if I stood up for myself, I was told, respect your elders. And I'm here to tell you guys, you already know you're ready. Now. Fuck that noise. All right. The idea of respect is you give what you get. You don't have to be disrespectful and crazy, but you will give respect when it's given to you. Respect is not an automatic thing Respect is earned. And in a split second, you can lose that respect. So on both parties, it's important. It's super important to respect on both ways. If you don't want someone to come and treat you this way make you feel this way, then why are you projecting that onto others. So respect, in my eyes, is something that you give when it's given to you. Not something that can be used by someone else who wants to control things in their life. And they're using it to oppress you. To oppress your intuitiveness to oppress your questioning, to oppress the way that you protect yourself. Unfortunately, we've been, we've been victimized, by respect, way too long, we've been victimized by this word, respect, which is actually not what they're using it for, I don't think I don't think it means what they think it means. So to say it loud and clear. Again, my number one biggest belief about respect is that you will get it when you give it other people pressuring you into stuff that you don't want to do is not them giving you respect, therefore, your respect is not required. And there's going to be a lot of Mad people listening to this podcast, especially people who have children. And they're going to be like "what what do you mean? My kids have to respect me I fully understand that. Definitely teach them to be respectful humans in society, but also teach them to keep themselves safe because not everybody's intention is meant to help their lives. Sometimes the intention is just to get somebody to do what they want. And in the name of respect, it's happened way too much. 5:00 In life, and we need to change it. We don't have to start disrespecting people, we just need to let people know that in order to vibe with me on the right plane in order to connect with me and to keep that connection, I need to know that I'm safe with you, my mental state is safe with you, my, my physical body is safe with you, my thoughts, my feelings, that everything is safe with you, just like you would want it back in return. And that's what we should strive for when we are teaching about respect. Another thing that I believe about respect wholeheartedly, is that you need to respect yourself. First, you need to respect yourself worth how you feel about yourself, what you allow from others. And you also have to respect what you believe in. If other people are trying to deter you from what your you believe. And inside your body, you know that that is not, that is absolutely not how you feel and it doesn't feel right. It is okay to question it. And no, that is not disrespectful. That is self preservation. And that's you owning your worth, because you're not going to step into something that can harm you. Because you're worth more than that. And my biggest thing that I want everybody to know is I'm not telling you to go out there and become hella disrespectful with ...
