• When is it okay to be selfish?

  • Oct 1 2024
  • Length: 1 hr
  • Podcast

When is it okay to be selfish?

  • Summary

  • Summary

    In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the nuanced definitions of selfishness and selflessness, challenging societal norms that label selfishness as negative. They discuss the importance of self-care and the need for individuals to prioritize their own needs to be able to contribute positively to the world. The conversation delves into childhood conditioning, the people-pleasing epidemic, and the journey from selflessness to a healthier form of selfishness, termed 'selffulness.' Liv shares her personal vows to herself as a powerful example of self-love and commitment to personal growth.


    Keywords

    selfishness, selflessness, selffulness, personal growth, self-care, childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, balance, relationships, empowerment


    Takeaways

    • Selfishness and selflessness are two ends of the same spectrum.
    • Being selfish can be a form of self-care and empowerment.
    • Childhood conditioning often leads to people-pleasing behaviors.
    • Finding balance between selflessness and selfishness is crucial for personal growth.
    • It's important to check in with oneself before giving to others.
    • You can't pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential.
    • The journey from selflessness to selfishness can involve a necessary swing.
    • Selffulness is about being full enough to give to others authentically.
    • Self-love is a vital part of being able to love others well.
    • Creating a healed world requires individuals to be selfful.


    Sound Bites

    • "It's okay to be selfish."
    • "We could save the world if each individual person just stopped looking for somebody to save them."
    • "You can't give something you don't have."


    Chapters

    00:00 Defining Selfishness and Selflessness

    05:51 The Importance of Self-Care

    11:51 Cultural Conditioning and People-Pleasing

    19:31 The Swing from Selflessness to Selfishness

    27:17 Finding Balance in Relationships

    33:45 The Role of Basic Needs

    39:19 The Power of Selffullness

    51:23 Liv's Vows to Herself

    59:12 Outro



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