While Doing Laundry

By: Emily Edwards RN
  • Summary

  • A podcast about the tough topics in parenthood no one else is talking about. Using a trauma-informed, person-centred approach to explore ethical complexities of being a parent in about 30 minutes. Just enough time to do a load of laundry. Join the community of radical parents asking questions and making change, while doing laundry too. www.thegoodbirthco.com www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco www.facebook.com/thegoodbirthco
    Copyright 2021 Emily Edwards RN
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Episodes
  • Self Reflection for Birth Workers: An interview with Cheyenne Scarlett
    Jul 16 2021
    I am so so excited to welcome Cheyenne Scarlet to the podcast  She has a particular interest on how childbirth affects the mental health of parents, and in turn their relationships with their children Let’s talk about Baby Planner  Baby Planner came about after doing my master's research and realizing that there's a lot of gaps, some of them being on the part of the healthcare providers, and some of them being on the part of the parent There's a go with the flow attitude towards birth, which it's good to be flexible But often, when people say go with the flow, that means I'm not going to do any research, I'm not going to learn anything about birth, I'm just going to show up and see what happens. And I feel like that approach is particularly dangerous. We do know that making a plan and sort of having an idea of what you want, maybe not even a strict rigid plan, but sort of preferences or an outline of what you would like, you know, can help you reach that or help you have a more positive experience I can support pregnant people and parents.  But that is just me, you know, saying, here's the tools to protect yourself from the fire without actually putting out the fire And at the end of the day, it is not the responsibility of the person giving birth to stand there and like, protect themselves and like be fighting off interventions and things that they don't want I am also working with the people that are perpetuating this thing My book for healthcare workers is called My Deep Dive: a self reflective workbook for birth workers It was honestly created out of a place of frustration, mostly surrounding the use of inclusive language I was really frustrated that people are feeling offended by using the term birthing people birthing person, rather than mother I, as a black woman, belong to two groups of people who had to quite literally fight in court to prove that they were a person and should be valued in society and should have rights and should be able to vote  The workbook itself is 10 chapters. And only two of them are actually about birth, like one is your beliefs about birth, and the second one is your practice as a birth worker But all the other eight chapters are about how you live in the world, how you feel about the world, how you learn things about the world It's great for anyone that works with anyone who has experienced reproduction in any capacity - a lot of things are applicable for, like childcare workers or, or people who are working with young families in general,  I'll give you an example from https://www.babyplanner.ca/about (my study): a black mom had a really, really difficult birth. And the nurse asked her, Hey, do you want me to take your baby to the nursery, so you can take a nap? And her immediate thought was, Oh, my God, I can't say yes because she's going to think that I'm incapable that I'm a bad mom, you know, she's gonna want to call CPS because I am not capable of caring for my baby. And that might be if you don't know the history, in Canada, with, with cis, taking black and indigenous children more frequently than anybody else, you might think that's totally irrational, but it actually is totally rational for black woman to think that way. And if she had, you know, gotten defensive, the nurse would be like, Oh my god, this is just a difficult patient, right? And not recognizing that connection. So it's not even always about you and what you are doing, it's about the person that you're working with and how they are viewing your interaction. It’s not your fault if you hold stereotypes or bias towards a certain group of people But it is now your responsibility to address those things and to change them Guest Bio: Cheyenne (she/her) is a researcher, educator and advocate. Cheyenne has an education background in child development and has a particular interest in how childbirth affects the mental health of parents and intern their relationships with their...
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    1 hr
  • Care Expectations Series: The Therapeutic Nurse-Client Relationship
    Jul 7 2021
    This series is focused on the practice standards of nursing staff. Particularly, we will be focusing on the College of Nurses of Ontario practice standards. Download a copy to review https://www.cno.org/globalassets/docs/prac/41033_therapeutic.pdf (here). And today's episode, we'll be diving into the core standard of therapeutic nurse client relationship, which is the document that covers the heavy hitting foundational expectations that your nursing staff are already held to.  These standards are not unique to any particular area of nursing The standards cover anyone who is a registered nurse - that includes registered practical nurses as well as registered nurses, advanced practice nurses, nurse practitioners, etc. As I mentioned, this series will cover the practice standards and other guiding documents that are behind nursing practice, particularly in Ontario  With the very specific geographical context, keep in mind all of these documents and these governing bodies exist for your area Nursing standards are expectations that contribute to public protection They inform nurses of their accountabilities and the public of what to expect of nurses standards apply to all nurses regardless of their role, job description or area of practice At the core of nursing is the therapeutic nurse client relationship - the nurse establishes and maintains this key relationship by using nursing knowledge and skills, as well as applying caring attitudes and behaviors The nurse client relationship contains five core elements: trust, respect, professional intimacy, empathy, and power Trust is critical, because as the client or the patient, regardless of the setting, but particularly when giving birth, you are extremely vulnerable That is why trust tops the list, and it is important that your care providers establish this piece above all else Respect is the recognition of the inherent dignity, worth and uniqueness of individuals Regardless of any reason that exists that another person may judge them So this in particular calls on nurses to address their own internal biases around any number of ways that they could be discriminating against clients, without even knowing it, as well as actively participating in damaging disrespectful actions Professional intimacy is a concept that you may not have heard of before You can understand and appreciate the physical closeness that nursing staff have when it comes to birth Professional intimacy also includes the psychological aspects, spiritual and the social pieces that are part of the plan of care  Having access to such intimate information, the secrets and the darkness that people carry, comes with great responsibility Empathy is the expression of understanding that goes a long way to validate a patient's experience  Birth is a triumphant experience - if the people around you are not treating it as such, it's going to be very difficult for you to engage with it as a triumphant experience Nurses are the people who keep others safe - with that power comes the ability to harm them too  We need to recognize from the get go that this relationship is always one of unequal power, and that power imbalance has so many implications We don't even collect race specific data in Canada, let alone have discussions over how we treat black indigenous people of color in this country We can look at the data in the states and know that there are alarming discrepancies between the death rate of white and black birthing people  This is not new information - we need to start talking about it because there are rules in place to prevent this from happening, and no one's doing anything about it This is what the care expectation series is highlighting that there are ways for you to enforce and reinforce your needs being met, and then hold people accountable for not reading that There's no more second guessing whether or not the way you were treated was okay or not We have...
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    27 mins
  • Am I allowed to do that in birth?
    Jun 30 2021
    Let’s talk about care expectations! You can set your own care expectations regardless of where you are on your health journey: whether you are pregnant, post-partum, planning on pregnancy or addressing any other health concern. Knowing that you have the right to set care expectations is a real game changer, so let’s dive right in! Imagine you have spent the last several months planning a huge party  You have planned out every detail right down to your favourite restaurant and your perfect hair and shoes You arrive at your party, and your friends and family are there, and then this person you have never met takes over everything This person tells you “we’re not ready for you” and tells you to go “wait over there” Next, this person tells you there is nothing left for you to eat or drink Your friends and family are there but nobody knows what to do so you just go along with whatever is happening You are defeated Obviously this scenario would never be ok in the hospitality industry Why do we not hold our birth experience to the same standard? The profession of nursing is built on the therapeutic nurse-client relationship The therapeutic relationship must include trust and understanding, unbiased support, belief in the individual's autonomy and providing informed options for that client to make their own decisions.  Somehow along the way, we mixed it up and in labor and delivery - the job and core value focuses on the baby instead of the birthing person Why is the client not treated as the expert of knowledge and keeper of the answers when it comes to pregnancy and birth?  As the client going in there to give birth, you have every right to set clear expectations about how you want to be treated and how your nursing staff and the rest of the care team is to treat you based on their own practice guidelines You are not being difficult, you are not asking for too much, you are simply highlighting that you are aware of what their professional responsibilities are It’s not your fault that the system is broken  Establishing care expectations with the background knowledge of what your nurses should be doing creates a powerful tool to be heard and to be treated the way you deserve to be treated during your birthing journey.  Download your FREE Care Expectations PDF https://thegoodbirthco.com/careexpectations/ (here). If you're interested in learning more about how to define your care expectations and have them met, don't miss next week's episode. I will be diving into the top three ways to ask for what you need. See you then! 
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    12 mins

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