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Everyone knows someone who’s sick or suffering. Yet when a friend or relative is under duress many of us feel uncertain about how to cope.
Throughout her recent bout with breast cancer, Letty Cottin Pogrebin became fascinated by her friends’ and family’s diverse reactions to her and her illness: how awkwardly some of them behaved, how some misspoke or misinterpreted her needs, and how wonderful it was when people read her right. She began talking to her fellow patients and dozens of other veterans of serious illness, seeking to discover what sick people wished their friends knew about how best to comfort, help, and even simply talk to them.
Now Pogrebin has distilled their collective stories and opinions into this wide-ranging compendium of pragmatic guidance and usable wisdom. Her advice is always infused with sensitivity, warmth, and humor. It is embedded in candid stories from her own and others’ journeys and their sometimes imperfect interactions with well-meaning friends. How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick is an invaluable guidebook for anyone hoping to rise to the challenges of this most important and demanding passage of friendship.
©2013 Letty Cottin Pogrebin (P)2013 Blackstone Audio, Inc.Listeners also enjoyed...
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- Pheonix
- 04-07-22
warmly with friendship
How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who's Sick by Letty Cottin Pogrebin is warm with friendship advice from personal experience as a cancer survivor. How to act? This question might help find an option for your individual experience and your friend's needs. Also, the most important thing to know and sometimes be mindful of is what is better to avoid doing or saying.
I have listened to the Audible release narrated by Pam Ward, who has a pleasant and mature voice.
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- Linda
- 02-08-17
A Must Read
This is a vital book for everyone, sick or well, old or young. If someone you love is suffering, give them the gift of awareness, tact and kindness by learning how to relate to what they're going through, how to be of real help to someone who needs your support. Most of all, it will bring home an important truth: that staying away because you don't know what to say or do is a failure of love you will come to regret. If you are the bird with a broken wing, recommend it to those who clearly want to help and don't know how.
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- Mary Zaragoza
- 07-18-16
very helpful
The book was very insightful and helpful with stories that apply to a variety of situations.
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