
Softening the Grief
What to Say and Do to Comfort a Bereaved Mother
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Ease the Pain of Losing a Child
Softening the Grief is both a companion for grieving mothers so they know they are not alone and a resource for people who want to be caring but are afraid they will say the wrong thing.
This audiobook provides the right things to say and do.
- Learn what words will truly bring comfort rather than pain to a grieving mother.
- Understand the emotional challenges faced by a grieving mother, even months and years after the loss of her child.
- Appreciate the inability of a bereaved mother to forget her pain - ever.
- Learn how to support and comfort a bereaved mother with confidence.
- Know what to say and do without adding more pain.
Four mothers who each lost a child want to educate friends and family of those who are grieving. In Softening the Grief they write about what to say and do to provide comfort and include a list of 25 things people often say that are intended to offer sympathy but more often are hurtful. The authors suggest better ways to communicate compassion and support. These women also write about the pain that never goes away and share their journeys through stories and poetry.
A final word from the authors: If you felt it was a gift to know our child, then we ask you to continue to share that gift. Remember that we hurt every day. Your gifts of remembrance validate our feelings that our child was and continues to be loved, missed, and never forgotten. You can help to keep us strong so we are able to stand and reach out to the next unfortunate mother who experiences the pain of losing a child. It is never too late and the relationship was never too long ago to mention our child.
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