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This Is Where I Leave You

By: Jonathan Tropper
Narrated by: Ramon De Ocampo
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Publisher's summary

The death of Judd Foxman's father marks the first time that the entire Foxman family - including Judd's mother, brothers, and sister - have been together in years. Conspicuously absent: Judd's wife, Jen, whose 14-month affair with Judd's radio-shock-jock boss has recently become painfully public.

Simultaneously mourning the death of his father and the demise of his marriage, Judd joins the rest of the Foxmans as they reluctantly submit to their patriarch's dying request: to spend the seven days following the funeral together. In the same house. Like a family.

As the week quickly spins out of control, longstanding grudges resurface, secrets are revealed, and old passions reawakened. For Judd, it's a weeklong attempt to make sense of the mess his life has become while trying in vain not to get sucked into the regressive battles of his madly dysfunctional family.

©2009 Jonathan Tropper (P)2009 Recorded Books, LLC
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Judd Foxman has not had a good year. Shortly after catching his wife in bed with his boss (a Howard Stern-like DJ whom he works for as a producer), he learns that his father has died. Not only must Judd attend the funeral, he then has to honor his dad's dying request sitting shiva for seven days with the rest of his eccentric family, including his sex therapist mom, older brother Paul (who's married to Judd's high school sweetheart), sister Wendy, and youngest brother Phillip, who leads a carefree life of hedonism. While a few of the storylines ring cliché (namely catching your wife with your boss), this book is anything but. The dialogue between the family members is realistic, witty, and caustic. And just when you're hysterically laughing at a scene, the next one sucker punches you with the vulnerability and authenticity of Judd's emotions.

Narrator Ramon de Ocampo delivers the right tone for this novel written from Foxman's point of view dry and defeated but the nasal quality of his voice is sometimes distracting and can even border on effeminate. Besides that, his pace is perfect, as well as his voice changes for the dialogue of different characters he really shines as Judd's mother and some of the older Jewish men that drop by to pay their respects.

While This Is Where I Leave You is very funny, the truly laugh-out-loud scenes are few and far between, with the heart of the book being the very real, and very emotional trials of Judd Foxman and the relatable love/hate relationship he shares with his family members. Colleen Oakley

Critic reviews

"The affectionate, warts-and-all portrayal of the Foxmans will have fans wishing for a sequel (and clamoring for all things Tropper)." (Amazon.com review)
"Tropper strikes an excellent balance between the family history and its present-day fallout, proving his ability to create touchingly human characters and a deliciously page-turning story." ( Publishers Weekly)

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TOO MUC INFORMATION

I try to find something about a main character to admire or empasize with. But, in this story, I felt nothing but disgust and loathing for him. Having walked in on his wife in their marital bed, vigourously engaged in the arms of his boss, naturally was devastating. But, farther into the story, I began to feel empathy for the wife. The main character was so busy describing how perfecect he thought his relationship was with his wife, it became clear that he hadn't a clue as to if she was just as pleased with their relationship. She married into an extremely dysfunctional family, who each were content to distance themselves from each other for various reasons. With the death of their father, each of the syblings, grudgingly agreed to participate in a seven-day ceremony which forced them to be together. The author went out of his way, in my opinion, to shock the readers by describing the most intimate and sometimes, disgusting sexual topics in every paragraph. Nevertheless, I didn't give up on the story. And, as I suspected, even at the end, I was blessed with yet, another shocker.

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Very funny - but sometimes very real

This was a very entertaining book. I was really enjoying this and then I started to think about the relationships I have with my siblings. It forces us to think about the importance of family and recognize that we all have some "quirks" within our family. I truly appreciataed the honesty of the story.

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This would make a great movie

Would you consider the audio edition of This Is Where I Leave You to be better than the print version?

Yes. There are parts of the book that are just better being heard with the inflections and interpretation of the narrator.

What was one of the most memorable moments of This Is Where I Leave You?

The cake scene. I laughed so hard, I nearly had to pull my car over. Trust me, you'll understand when you get to it.

Which scene was your favorite?

Again, the cake scene. So didn't see it coming and thought it was hysterical. Not sure if the male readers will feel the same...

If you could rename This Is Where I Leave You, what would you call it?

I was thinking halfway through that this could be a good movie if adapted right. But haven't figured out the right title yet...

Any additional comments?

It's alternatively funny, touching, sad, and depressing. It runs the gamut of emotions, but overall not as funny as I had expected. Still it was a good time.

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Delightful - funny and touching

This is a delightful book and it is read just beautifully. The plot focuses on the recent death of the patriarch of a Jewish family and how all his grown children come home with their families to sit Shiva for 7 days. There are all sorts of dynamics among them – adultery, anger, whatever – and it all gradually comes to the surface. The book is hilarious (would make a great movie) and the one liners are priceless and yet there is depth (not too much but enough to be touching). Once I really got into it I couldn't put it down and seem to walk around all day with my iPod trying to see what happens. I highly recommend it.

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Very Clever

I really enjoyed it, kept me laughing until the very end. Some of the character relationships irritated me.

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Hysterical! Loved it!

Hysterical! I seriously horse laughed at certain parts of this book! It's real life humor and situations that I loved so much that I immediately bought his book How to Talk to a Widower. Btw, the movie was not near as good as the book.

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Crazy family like everyone's

This is so unexpected. A funny crazy family funeral that reminds them that as crazy as they all are there is love.

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Good book with big flaws

There was so much to like about this book. The main character is Judd, returning to his family home after his father's death. In the house where he grew up, his mother, sister, two brothers, and various extended family members and friends gather to observe shiva, the traditional Jewish period of mourning, his father's final wish. So the widow and her four adult children are restricted to the house for seven days. Judd comes already nursing wounds as his marriage falls apart. He arrives ready to face the overt conflicts and the hidden resentments of a very dysfunctional family.

What I liked about the book was the detailed and wry observations Judd makes as he recounts the seven days that make up the entire course of the novel. He is wrestling with himself, trying to understand his new life after separating from his wife of ten years as he comes to terms with the loss of his father. The coincidence of these two life-altering events means Judd must redefine himself as a man.

I have to say that Ramon De Ocampo brought a great deal of skill to his narration. It seems to start out as rather flat but I realized he was giving voice to Judd's tamped down feelings. As times moves on, Judd relaxes a little as does De Ocampo's performance and he voices perfectly Judd's self-appointed role as observer and commentator on what happens around him. Judd's deadpan style is perfectly portrayed by De Ocampo.

There are two things I don't care for in this book. First, I think the women are rather weakly drawn. Not that they don't have their fair share of shock and awe, as when his mother, a famous parenting authority, voices her opinion about sex, marriage, children and almost anything else that pops into her mind. But I don't get much depth there. His sister is almost nonexistent. His soon-to-be ex-wife is little more than the object of his angst and his hometown girlfriend, revisted for some rebound sex, is only quickly sketched in.

The second thing is the use of shiva without much acknowledgement of the role of faith in mourning. Judaism here is little more than a lox-and-bagel identification even when a rabbi is a close friend to Judd and his brothers. At best, shiva is a mechanism by which Tropper works out Judd's self-examination. Even the rabbi's explanation of shiva is brief, sterile, and lacking in warmth or consolation. Without that, it isn't recognizable as any shiva I have experienced.

Despite that, it was a good read. I just can't count it as much more than that.

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A funny and heartwarming look at family and dysfunction

This family has its issues, but what family doesn't? Only after losing their father to cancer and being compelled to spend seven days grieving together, does this family read discover it's connections and, yes, even it's love for one another. Very excellent read that will warm your heart and make you laugh and perhaps even shed a tear or two.

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Loved the movie & JUST found out it was a book! Good book, well worth the credit. 👍

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