
This Isn't Working for Me
A Practical Guide for Making Every Relationship in Your Life More Fulfilling, Authentic, and Intentional
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About this listen
We all want to avoid drama and pain in our relationships, yet we remain stuck in never-ending cycles of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and triggering interactions. Sometimes it just seems easier to decide we are "done" with people rather than continue trying over and over again. Even our best and closest relationships-with our partners, friends, family, and colleagues-can feel unduly challenging.
In this straightforward guide, expert relationship therapists Edrica Richardson and Ilene Cohen get to the heart of what it means to really be in fulfilling relationships and why connecting with the ones you love can feel so hard. You'll learn how "doing the work" encourages healing and growth within yourself and within your relationships.
Creating and maintaining strong, fulfilling relationships doesn't mean disregarding your own boundaries or letting go of what you want for the sake of "keeping the peace" in your home, family, friend group, or workplace. Instead, it means being more yourself! By moving into the fullness of who you are, you can claim freedom and agency in your own life, learn how to release blame, and cultivate happier and healthier relationships with those you love.
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©2024 Ilene S. Cohen and Edrica D. Richardson (P)2024 TantorListeners also enjoyed...
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Sometimes a book doesn’t just land in your life—it confronts you. Twice, in my case.
“This Isn’t Working for Me” isn’t your typical self-help book filled with generic advice and empty affirmations. Ilene S. Cohen and Dr. Edrica Richardson deliver a raw, honest, and empowering guide for anyone who’s ever sat in silence thinking, “How did I get stuck here?”
What stood out to me is how practical and relatable this book is. It doesn’t preach. It doesn’t sugarcoat. It holds up a mirror and gently—yet firmly—reminds you that staying in situations that drain you is a choice. And better yet? Walking away or redefining your boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s survival. It’s self-respect.
Dr. Edrica’s therapeutic insights blended perfectly with Ilene’s expertise on emotional health and boundary-setting. Together, they break down complex emotional traps—like people-pleasing, fear of disappointing others, or staying in roles that no longer align with who you are.
By the second listen, it wasn’t just about hearing the message—it was about letting it sink in and challenge me. This book gives you permission—permission to say “No more,” permission to prioritize your peace, and permission to choose yourself without apology.
If you’re feeling stuck in relationships, careers, or personal patterns that no longer serve you, this isn’t just a book—it’s a lifeline.
“This Isn’t Working for Me” is for anyone brave enough to admit when enough is enough—and ready to do something about it. It’s honest. It’s empowering. And it might just be the nudge you need to reclaim your life.
I didn’t just listen to it. I listened to it TWICE in one weekend.
Definitely deserves a 5 out of 5– A must-read (or listen) for anyone ready to stop settling and start living intentionally.
It definitely can help to begin the process of untangling your mind.
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