For everything God instituted, there is a reason and a prescribed method. As is the case for marriage, if we engage in it with the right reason in mind, and by the right method, we enter into its associated bliss as intended by God. If we however abuse it, we enter into misery. What is God's intended purpose and prescribed method for marriage? What are some unrealistic expectations in marriage and how do these make us miserable?

In a time where marriage is under attack, Pastor Jeffrey Walter is inspired by the Lord to restore sanity and hope in marriage by painting vividly what God intends marriage to be. Throughout the month of February, by the series, “Love, Relationships, Marriage and Matters Arising”, he presents godly wisdom on what the Lord intends for marriage to be, as well as the prescribed methods by which it is to be engaged in.

In this message, Pastor Jeffrey Walter emphasises the need to do marriage for the right reason, and in the way prescribed by the Lord. He introduces the idea of “expectations” and how they can contribute to misery in marriage. He distinguishes between primary expectations and secondary expectations, teaching what the actual primary expectation of a person should be in a marriage, according to God’s principles. He then goes on to highlight two examples of wrong expectations that spouses have in marriage, and how those ruin the marital union, bringing misery.

Beloved, do not think to yourself that your marriage experience will be different, if you exchange the wisdom of God concerning marriage for your own selfish desires. The way of the Lord is the way of wisdom. Choose it! Choose joy!

Note: This message is an episode in the series of messages preached during the 2025 CAFAN February Special Program on “Love, Relationships, Marriage and Matters Arising”. Kindly listen to all messages in the series for a complete appreciation.

Key Scripture: Galatians 6:7-8 KJV

7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

Other Scriptures : Matthew 19:1-8, Luke 7:35, Luke 6:31, Romans 3:4a (All scriptures in KJV)