We've all been well trained in the rules of the game we all know. We've been taught to be dutiful children, loving siblings, tolerant friends.

But when some of us realize that we've outgrown the status quo, it can feel like an act of rebellion and revolution as we transform the rules of a system that no longer works for us in search for a more authentic way of life.

At the very beginning of this episode, I walk through my "Getting to the Heart of the Matter" Flowchart, a tool designed to transform conversations away from shame and blame and towards authentic, loving connection. We then explore transforming cultural norms for healthier relationships and delve into:

• 1:03 A tour of my "Getting to the Heart of the Matter" Flowchart
• 6:40 My niece sulks and pouts if she doesn't win a game
• 11:14 An alternative to winning/losing
• 16:01 I feel bad. Does that mean I AM bad?
• 17:18 My friends are slower than I prefer. What can I do to change them?
• 22:30 Help! I'm my father's caregiver, and I'm burned out.
• 25:08 Resentment and disgust signal a need for a boundary
• 27:16 The journey back to wholeness can be counter cultural
• 41:51 How can I connect with my adult daughter?
• 47:09. The 2 keys to successful giving

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