We discuss:

• 1:01 How do I take a break from a friendship?
• 8:10 How to acknowledge a truth instead of debate it.
• 14:46 Is it worth it to try and reveal myself to a friend or should I just cut ties?
• 19:55 How to be vulnerable with those who deserve to hear it.
• 21:23 How denying ourselves a whole hearted yes or a whole hearted no hurts us.
• 24:47 The difference between a peer and a project.
• 28:19 How do I allow myself permission to change my mind?
• 29:26 Allowing people to solve their own problems is an act of respect.
• 34:07 The only people who object to us looking after ourselves are the people who benefit when we don't.
• 35:40 How can I approach a friend about the past?
• 41:25 I can always tell the truth, but can I field the response?
• 44:42 What prevents us from feeling empathy?
• 50:16 Help me decline an invitation!

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One of the hardest decisions we can make is to dismantle a marriage when there are children involved.

On this episode of the podcast, we uncover how to make the decision of whether to stay in or leave a marriage because of the kids. We also discuss:

• 1:34 How do I make accommodations for my needs and my children's needs at the same time?
• 4:01 Determining the values behind our needs
• 6:15 Grief and acceptance in a relationship
• 8:28 An old flame is coming into town. How can I have a safe conversation about hurt feelings?
• 14:37 Discerning someone's role in our life
• 17:23 The importance of exhibiting care
• 20:45 The difference between caring for someone's well-being and taking responsibility for it
• 23:31 What words can I use to calm down a charged situation?

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It's domination programming that teaches us the louder we raise our voices, the faster the other person will capitulate and join our side.

However, in order to affect real change, the key is to get others to care about what it is we're caring about. And this is a much slower, longer, harder task.

In this episode, we talk with a caller embarking on a trip to South Africa, who is interested in showing up authentically to her traveling companions, without raising their defenses. The ultimate goal? To get them to care about what she cares about. We discuss:

• 1:44 How can I show up authentically around my husband's colleagues when we see the world so differently?
• 3:34 One of the dynamics present is the devaluation of indigenous history and culture
• 5:55 How to step out of the old domination game
• 7:43 Making the implicit explicit
• 12:54 Empathizing with the other side
• 16:37 The importance of expressing care
• 18:45 It's enough to introduce a disruptive voice into the room

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