What if a dog could break through silence, spark healing, and bring peace to the most vulnerable people—just by showing up?

In this episode of Aging in Style with Lori Williams, you’ll hear the incredible story of a nonverbal woman in a senior facility who spoke and sang for the first time after petting a therapy dog. This is just one of many emotional, real-life moments shared by Debbie Piland and Kelly Ray from Canines for Christ Therapy Dog Ministry.

Chapters:

• 00:01:00- Introduction to Canines for Christ
• 00:02:00 - The mission: loving God, loving people, loving dogs
• 00:05:00 - Expanding beyond senior care to crisis response and prisons
• 00:09:30 - Luca the therapy dog and his path to certification
• 00:17:00 - Training, testing, and how any dog can become a therapy dog
• 00:20:00 - Real-life stories of impact and healing
• 00:27:00 - Overcoming fear of dogs through therapy sessions
• 00:34:00 - Volunteer roles and ambassador opportunities

This isn't just about dogs offering comfort—it's a mission rooted in faith, compassion, and powerful connection. From memory care facilities to crisis response scenes like Uvalde, Texas, these dogs (and their handlers) are offering more than presence—they’re changing lives. If you’ve ever wondered how therapy animals really work, or if your dog might have what it takes, this episode is your guide.

Canines for Christ is an international Christian ministry using therapy dogs as vessels of healing, hope, and love. Volunteers visit senior living communities, hospitals, children’s grief centers, crisis sites, and even prisons. With a unique “ministry of presence,” these animals open doors where words often fail, reaching people in emotional and spiritual pain.

Debbie and Kelly share not only their personal journeys but also the training and qualifications involved in becoming a Canines for Christ therapy dog handler. From passing the AKC Canine Good Citizen test to understanding each dog’s temperament and gifts, this episode breaks down what’s truly needed to get involved. You’ll also learn about the diverse programs offered—from reading buddies to junior handlers—and how every visit is tailored to the emotional needs of the setting.

Through touching stories and practical insight, this conversation unveils the beautiful, often unexpected ways dogs connect with people. Whether it’s a child in trauma, a veteran in hospice, or a lonely senior missing their pet, therapy dogs can break barriers, inspire conversation, and even stir memory and song. And with only one chapter currently in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, the need for more volunteers is real and growing.

If this story stirred your heart, don’t just listen—get involved. Learn more, donate, or start your journey toward becoming an ambassador with Canines for Christ at k9forchrist.org. You can also visit LoriWilliams-SeniorServices.com to hear more inspiring episodes, and don’t forget to share this one with someone who loves dogs—or needs hope.

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On the last week of Stroke Awareness Month, we're diving deep into the emotional journey that families experience when a loved one suffers a stroke. Throughout May, I've been sharing about the profound impact that strokes have had on my family, especially on me as a caregiver to my husband, Mark, who is a four-time stroke survivor.

To start with, let me transport you back to that chilling Christmas night in 2022. I remember driving to the hospital, it was freezing cold, and I was in complete shock and disbelief, praying that Mark would be okay. These immediate feelings of shock and crisis mode are something many families go through.

Chapters:

• 00:59 Personal Stroke Journey
• 01:39 Emotional Impact on Families
• 02:42 Immediate Reactions to a Stroke
• 05:41 Living in Crisis Mode
• 09:42 Role Reversal and Family Dynamics
• 15:06 Long-Term Psychological Effects
• 26:23 Coping Mechanisms and Support for Stroke Survivors and their families
• 31:51 Honoring Joyful Moments
• 34:49 Closing Thoughts and Resources

The initial impact is intense, but it doesn’t end there. Mark didn’t come home for seven months, moving from one hospital to another and then to rehabs. During this time, my life was filled with hypervigilance, always on high alert for fear of falls or seizures. I also share a deeply personal incident where Mark had a massive seizure, an event even more terrifying than the strokes, which left my son and me shaken for months.

The role reversals hit us hard as well. Our son, Chris, had to step into the caregiver role, something that I’m incredibly proud of yet saddened by. It's tough seeing your child taking care of their parent, but Chris has been a rock through it all. We also experienced a shift in my relationship with Mark. As his primary caregiver, our dynamic shifted away from being partners to me being more in a caretaker mode. This shift is common for many families dealing with chronic illnesses.

Long-term psychological effects are real and tough to manage. I experienced chronic anxiety and even PTSD-like symptoms, particularly after Mark’s seizure. Little things would trigger this constant state of anxiety, whether it was a cough sounding off or the fear of another stroke. Depression and grief also crept in when I least expected it. I found myself grieving the man Mark used to be and the life we had planned together, like traveling in an RV across the country or going to Europe. To cope, I’ve sought support from friends and occasionally use medication for anxiety. It’s vital to have an emergency plan. We keep a detailed medication list on the refrigerator, have a grab bag ready for hospital trips, and maintain an A, B, C plan for caregiving.

It gave me peace of mind to have these in place. Educating myself about strokes and connecting with support groups also helped me feel empowered. Yet, amidst all this, it’s crucial to honor the joyful moments. There are still beautiful, small victories to celebrate, like Mark walking up the stairs with the help of a wonderful PT or going for a walk in our neighborhood after two and a half years. These moments, although they may seem small to others, mean the world to us.

Many families are walking similar paths, dealing with the ripple effects of a loved one’s illness. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, seek help, whether it’s through therapy, a support group, or just talking to a friend. Don’t forget to take care of yourself and find something to laugh about each day. Thank you for sticking with me through this month of Stroke Awareness. Please share this episode with friends and family who might be going through the same journey. Follow us on social media, and don’t miss our new episodes every Friday. Until next time, take care, and remember to find the silver lining in every situation.

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When my husband had his first stroke on Christmas Day 2022, I wasn’t prepared for how much our lives would change. One moment, we were preparing a late dinner; the next, I was rushing him to the hospital. That night marked the beginning of a series of events that would redefine our family's routine and my role as a caregiver.

Since then, I’ve learned a lot about strokes, from prevention to recovery, and how crucial it is to be stroke-smart. Through my personal journey, I hope to share what I’ve learned to help other families avoid some of the mistakes I made and prepare for the challenges of stroke recovery.

Understanding Strokes: What I Wish I Knew

Looking back, I wish I’d known that 80% of strokes are preventable. This is a staggering statistic that continues to resonate with me. If we’d been aware of the risk factors, maybe we could’ve prevented my husband’s strokes. The fact that strokes are the fifth leading cause of death and a leading cause of long-term disability underscores just how critical it is to be informed.

So, what exactly is a stroke? There are two main types:

1. Ischemic stroke, the most common type, occurs when a blood clot blocks a vessel in the brain.
2. Hemorrhagic stroke happens when a blood vessel ruptures, causing bleeding in the brain.

Spotting a Stroke: The B.E. F.A.S.T. Method

If you suspect someone is having a stroke, time is of the essence. The B.E. F.A.S.T. method helps you identify the signs and act quickly:

1. Balance loss
2. Eyesight changes
3. Face drooping
4. Arm weakness
5. Speech difficulty
6. Time to call 911

I made the mistake of driving my husband to the hospital instead of calling 911, which delayed the care he needed. Calling 911 ensures the stroke team is ready when you arrive.

The Long Road to Recovery

Recovery after a stroke isn’t quick, but the brain has an incredible ability to adapt, thanks to neuroplasticity. Through continuous physical, speech, and occupational therapy, my husband has made progress, even two years later. We celebrate every win, no matter how small. If you or your loved one is recovering from a stroke, remember that improvement is possible—even years later.

1. Know the Signs of a Stroke: Balance loss, eyesight changes, face drooping, arm weakness, speech difficulty, and the importance of calling 911 immediately.
2. Prevent 80% of Strokes: Maintain healthy blood pressure and cholesterol levels, quit smoking, stay physically active, and manage health conditions like diabetes and sleep apnea.
3. Understand Stroke Impact: Strokes cause permanent brain damage and can result in a wide range of physical and cognitive disabilities.
4. Leverage Neuroplasticity for Recovery: Engage in repeated therapy to help the brain re-route around damaged areas and promote recovery.
5. Support and Community Matter: Simple acts like meal trains and walking the dog significantly ease the burden on families going through medical crises.

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In the midst of a crisis, words can be powerful. They can uplift and support, or they can unintentionally wound. After experiencing a medical emergency with my husband, Mark, I've come to appreciate the importance of words. People often want to help but can end up saying the wrong thing, leaving the person in crisis feeling more stressed and alone. Today, I want to share some things you should avoid saying to someone in a crisis based on my own experiences, because sometimes the most supportive thing is knowing what not to say.

Chapters:

1. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Story
2. 00:37 Welcome to Aging and Style
3. 01:08 Stroke Awareness Month
4. 01:58 Things Not to Say During a Crisis
5. 07:43 Caregiver Challenges and Self-Care
6. 11:09 Conclusion and Resources

Misguided Attempts and Multilevel Marketing

As Mark battled his strokes, I encountered a statement that still baffles me: “My heart hurts for Mark that you're using traditional medicine. You should use my supplements.” This suggestion overlooked the gravity of four strokes that my husband faced and minimized the urgency of his situation.

Multi-level marketing pitches, regardless of the product, aren't helpful in serious medical scenarios. Replace recommendations with empathetic support – that's far more valuable.

Business as Usual?

During one of our toughest times, someone remarked, “I guess you’re out of business now,” on merely the third day of our crisis. As an entrepreneur, my business not only supports us financially but also provides the insurance covering Mark’s medical bills. The presumption of failure was not only premature but demoralizing. Instead, show understanding and respect for the balancing act of those who own a business while handling personal emergencies.

Aging Under Stress

Another unexpected comment landed like a punch: “This has all really aged you.” During a period of immense stress, highlighting someone’s appearance isn’t going to help. While I may have looked tired and worn, it was because I was focusing my energies on survival -- both my husband's and my own. In our youth-obsessed culture, expressing anything about someone’s age or appearance during a crisis shows insensitivity. Let’s choose compassion over unnecessary critiques.

Competing Compassion

Then, a perplexing offer came amidst the chaos – “I have exciting news since you’re so busy with Mark. I’m starting a business just like yours in the same town.” In moments where I was trying to maintain my business while caring for Mark, such competition was not comforting. Rather than staking claim on someone’s livelihood, try asking how you can help shoulder their burden.

The Caregiver's Dilemma

Lastly, it’s not uncommon to hear, “You need to take care of yourself.” Although well-intentioned, this advice can overlook the challenging logistics of caregiving. As many caregivers know, self-care appointments often fall by the wayside because the person we care for frequently needs immediate attention. Remember, offering practical help is often more appreciated than general advice.

Reflecting on these experiences, I urge everyone to be mindful of their words during crises. Sometimes, the simplest acts of listening and genuinely asking, “How can I help?” can make all the difference. Let’s aim to be the comfort, not the critique. For more insights on navigating life’s challenges, visit my website, Lori Williams Senior Services, and share these lessons with friends and family. Together, we can cultivate a more understanding and supportive community.

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Life as we knew it completely transformed on Christmas Day, 2022, at precisely 7:00 PM. It was a day that started normally, with my husband Mark about to say the blessing at dinner. Suddenly, he couldn’t speak, and our world exploded into chaos. That evening marked the beginning of an unexpected journey after Mark suffered four strokes.

As I reflect this May, Stroke Awareness Month, I am inspired to share our experiences over the past two and a half years. Our journey has been overwhelming, but in its challenges, I’ve learned invaluable lessons and found silver linings.

The Unexpected Journey

Strokes are known as the silent attackers, and no one is prepared for their stealthy arrival. What started as one stroke quickly escalated to four, leaving Mark severely disabled. The prognosis initially seemed grim, with medical professionals suggesting six months post-stroke as the optimal timeframe for recovery. But Mark has defied these expectations, showing remarkable improvement, such as walking upstairs with assistance—a feat we never imagined.

Building Our Support Team

Being thrust into the role of a caregiver has emphasized the importance of support. One of my dearest friends, Karyl, helped me realize that I couldn't do this alone. We developed a strong support team, including our children, Chris and Abby, who have taken on more responsibilities. Chris has been invaluable in helping with caregiving duties like showering Mark, which has relieved some of the pressure from me. Abby, balancing her college life, chips in whenever she's home.

Having professionals like our caregiver Rebecca and the wonderful therapists from Rehab Without Walls has been life-changing. They have pushed Mark beyond expectations, helping him make strides in his recovery.

Lessons and Reflections

Every challenge has shaped us. I’ve become resilient, learning to find positivity amid adversity. My children have grown into compassionate and responsible individuals, shaped by our experiences. Our golden retriever, Sadie, has been a source of comfort and joy—Mark’s constant sidekick and our family’s happy distraction.

Humor remains an essential tool. Even small victories, like Mark managing new words, bring laughter and relief. Our daily life, though challenging, has humor woven into its fabric. Finding these moments is crucial to staying positive and resilient.

Advocacy and Sharing Our Story

Advocating for Mark through his rehabilitation has taught me to question and push for continued therapy, a role I embraced from the start. Sharing my story has become a passion, leading me to write "Surrounded by Love: One Family’s Journey Through Stroke Recovery." It was a therapeutic endeavor aimed at providing a resource for others facing similar challenges.

Through this journey, I’ve met many caregivers. We are united by our roles, often facing silent struggles. I am determined to offer support and share the resources and knowledge we’ve gained. As caregivers, knowing we are not alone is vital, and promoting stroke awareness can prevent similar stories.

Moving Forward

Two and a half years in, my anxiety has lessened. I’ve learned to address challenges with newfound calmness. Each setback has been a lesson in resilience, positioning us not just to survive but thrive amidst adverse circumstances.

This update is both a chronicle and a reminder that strength can emerge from struggle. Stroke awareness is a lifelong mission. If you or someone you know is navigating this path, connect with me for guidance or visit my website, LoriWilliamsSeniorServices.com, to explore further resources. Together, we can face tomorrow with optimism and strength—an ever-important message of hope and unity.

Thank you for taking this journey with us. I look forward to continuing to share our story and hearing yours.

The month of May holds special importance for me, as it is Stroke Awareness Month – a cause that has touched my life profoundly. My husband, Mark, had his first of four strokes on Christmas Day 2022, a moment that changed everything overnight and set me on a mission: to educate and advocate so others might avoid a similar path or, at the very least, navigate it with more clarity.

Though both men and women can experience these classic stroke symptoms, women may also show signs often overlooked: confusion, hiccups, shortness of breath, seizures, and changes in behavior. These subtle cues can be misdiagnosed, presenting a unique challenge, especially for younger women who might not fit the assumed profile of a stroke victim.

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – Introduction to stroke symptoms, including lesser-known signs in women.
• 00:01:30 – Personal story about Mark’s first stroke and the inspiration for advocacy.
• 00:03:00 – Explanation of the BFAST acronym and the urgency of calling 911.
• 00:06:00 – Why women have worse outcomes from strokes and challenges they face.
• 00:10:00 – Fighting for the right stroke rehab care and the importance of advocacy.

The statistics are sobering: women often have worse stroke outcomes, and many face these challenges alone. Whether it's due to living alone or receiving less aggressive treatment, the deck can seem stacked against recovery. Throughout Mark’s strokes, my knowledge and contacts ensured he received the right care—a reality not everyone is equipped to navigate.

Connecting with others on this journey brings me solace and purpose. Writing "Surrounded by Love: One Family's Journey Through Stroke Recovery" was a way to share our experiences and offer a resource to those facing what often feels like an insurmountable struggle. It’s not just our story; it's a beacon for others who might feel lost in the chaos of caregiving and advocating for a loved one.

Moreover, living in an area like Dallas afforded us exceptional medical resources, which many do not have. This disparity is why I'm committed to standing as a guide, sharing insights and strategies to empower caregivers to become strong advocates for their loved ones.

Caregiving is no small feat—it requires being a powerful, unwavering advocate. I’ve faced challenges convincing healthcare professionals of the necessity for specific treatments, knowing systemic misunderstandings could hinder Mark’s recovery. Not everyone has the knowledge or the support system to tackle these issues, underscoring the need for advocacy education.

Strokes are a personal and communal fight. Each conversation I have, every person who reaches out to connect over shared stories of struggle or need for advice, is a reminder that this journey is impactful. My mission is clear: educate to prevent and fight for the best care when necessary.

To those who share this path, my heart is with you.

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Have you ever received a phone call saying there’s a warrant out for your arrest?

That’s exactly what happened to my brother. The jury duty scam is making waves across the U.S., and it’s not just targeting older adults. It sounds legitimate, it’s terrifying, and it’s catching even the most skeptical people off guard.

In today’s episode, we break down this sophisticated scam that uses fear, authority, and just enough truth to reel in victims. It’s a growing problem with real consequences—and being aware is your first defense. Whether you're caring for aging parents or just want to protect yourself, this conversation could save you or someone you love thousands.

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – “There’s a warrant out for your arrest.”
• 00:02:00 – Craig's shocking phone call from a fake detective
• 00:04:30 – The red flags start adding up
• 00:06:00 – The "bond payment" twist
• 00:08:00 – Visiting the real sheriff’s office
• 00:10:00 – Why the scam felt so real
• 00:12:00 – Other scams targeting seniors
• 00:14:00 – Tips to protect yourself from phone fraud
• 00:16:30 – Final thoughts and scam reporting resources

I’m joined by someone very close to me—my brother Craig Martin. Craig’s not an expert in fraud prevention, but he became an unwilling student of scam tactics when he was nearly caught up in a convincing jury duty scam. His firsthand story is equal parts alarming and eye-opening.

Craig shares how a regular day turned sideways after one phone call. The scammer had all his personal info and even directed him to the real sheriff’s department—making the con feel completely legit. He’ll walk us through every twist and turn, including how they tried to get $3,000 out of him under the guise of a “bond.”

We’ll talk about the psychology of these scams—how scammers use urgency, fake authority, and legal jargon to manipulate their targets. Craig will share the exact red flags that made him pause and how he ultimately avoided losing money.

We also cover how this isn’t just an isolated trick. I’ve experienced a version of it too, and many others I know have received similar calls. We’ll explain why older adults are often targeted, and how you can help protect your loved ones from falling prey to phone scams, including Medicare fraud and the grandparent scam.

We’ll answer common questions like:

• What does a real jury duty notice look like?

• How do scammers get your personal info?

• What should you do if you get a suspicious call?

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Let's be honest: the thought of exercising often brings up a sense of dread.

Many of us create countless excuses, with "lack of time" being the most popular. But let’s be real — we all know how essential it is.

Exercise is not about achieving that six-pack or preparing for marathons; it’s about maintaining independence, preventing falls, and keeping our strength for those who depend on us. Like many, my priorities regarding exercise have changed over the years.

In my twenties, it was all about aesthetics, fueled by those classic Jane Fonda workout tapes. But now, at 61, I'm focused on health and balance. Exercise has shifted from a chore to a necessity—for me and my family.

• 00:00:00 Opening & Fall Risk Stats
• 00:01:00 The Real Reason to Exercise
• 00:02:30 My Personal Fitness Journey
• 00:04:00 Exercise Anxiety & Gym Intimidation
• 00:05:30 Signs of Aging & Simple Solutions
• 00:07:00 Recommending Movement Options
• 00:11:30 It's Never Too Late to Start
• 00:12:30 Budget-Friendly Fitness
• 00:14:30 Walking Groups & Community Ideas
• 00:16:30 Final Encouragement & Caregiver Tips

As a caregiver to my husband, Mark, who suffered multiple strokes, and as the breadwinner of my household with a daughter in college, excuses come easily. Yet, reaching 61 served as a wake-up call. I need to stay fit not just for myself but for those relying on me.

Gyms have always intimidated me. However, it was a revelation when a friend recommended Pilates. It offered a non-threatening environment among peers of all ages, and to my surprise, it hooked me. The classes fly by, and though they challenge muscles I didn’t know I had, they’re invigorating!

We know the major risks of not exercising are weak muscles and poor balance, notably problematic as we age. Simple activities like Tai Chi can enhance balance, flexibility, and strength, as can yoga and Pilates. Resistance training using weights or bands adds to core strength, crucial for preventing falls. Moreover, staying active doesn’t have to be costly or complicated.

Leisure walking is an excellent, low-impact start for increasing endurance. For those on a budget, free online resources or affordable local community centers, such as senior centers and YMCAs, offer various exercise classes. Medicare beneficiaries could explore Silver Sneakers for cost-effective programs.

For those who haven’t found their exercise niche, give different activities a try—whether it’s dancing, water aerobics, or chair exercises; there’s something for everyone and every mobility level. Move when and how you can; explore free resources on platforms like YouTube. As we move into sunnier days, let’s seize this opportunity to take our health into our own hands.

Exercise is a commitment to ourselves, bolstering our physical and mental well-being. As we age, keeping active is a gift to ourselves — one that promises energy, resilience, and peace of mind.

So, let me know what you’re doing to keep moving. Your journey inspires me, and together we can encourage one another to maintain our health and vitality. Our ultimate goal is to prevent those falls and to adopt a mindset where exercise is good. Thanks for joining me today. I invite you to subscribe for more discussions every Friday, and remember, it’s never too late to start investing in your health. Let’s thrive, not just survive.

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