In this episode of the Divorce Curious Show, host Lisa Mitchell engages in a candid conversation with mediator Hillary Sharpnack about the complexities of divorce and the mediation process. They explore Hillary's unique journey into mediation, the philosophy of 'divorce without destruction', and the importance of same-room mediation. The discussion highlights common misconceptions about mediation, the emotional landscape of divorce, and practical steps for those considering their options. Listeners are encouraged to gather information and explore mediation as a viable alternative to traditional divorce proceedings.

Hillary Sharpnack Bio:
If you asked Hillary what one word she would hope others would use to describe her, it would be “Peacemaker” — not to be confused with “Peacekeeper.” Peacemaking actively confronts conflict and tension, whereas peacekeeping avoids conflict to maintain peace. No matter the conflict type, Hillary works passionately as a Mediator to tackle and ultimately resolve conflict by first identifying the issues, discerning the underlying interests of all involved, and finally determining solutions that address the issues AND accommodates the interests.

Before family mediation, Hillary worked extensively in Human Resources for a large construction and mining company at the business unit and corporate level. Interestingly, Hillary encountered the exact two job requirements in every role she worked within the company — conflict management and resolution.

Through her corporate and educational experience, Hillary discovered a passion for solving problems and resolving conflicts in ways that establish positive relationships, thus beginning her path to becoming a mediator.

In 2018, Hillary graduated from Abilene Christian University with a master’s degree in Conflict Resolution and Reconciliation. As part of her practicum work within her master’s program, she had the opportunity to teach conflict resolution and mediation skills to college-level students in South Africa. The class focused on resolving disputes in various settings, including family, church, workplace, and community.

Resolution Mediation’s approach to mediating allow Hillary to serve others on a personal level in helping to resolve conflict without destruction to the relationship.

Takeaways

• Mediation is a collaborative process focused on family needs.
• Divorce without destruction emphasizes minimizing harm during divorce.
• Same-room mediation allows couples to communicate directly.
• Many people are unaware of mediation as an option.
• Expectations of entitlement can hinder the mediation process.
• Mediation is not suitable for those seeking to punish their spouse.
• Gathering information is crucial for making informed decisions.
• Mediation can be just as thorough as traditional litigation.
• Understanding the emotional context is vital in divorce.
• The mediator's role is to facilitate communication and understanding.

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In this episode of the Divorce Curious Show, host Lisa Mitchell discusses her journey from being a body language and communication expert to creating Divorce Curious, a community and podcast aimed at supporting women navigating the complexities of divorce. She highlights the prevalence of divorce, particularly among women, and emphasizes the need for a supportive community where individuals can share their experiences and gain clarity. Lisa shares her personal experiences and the importance of taking active control of one's life and decisions during challenging times. The conversation serves as a call to action for those feeling lost in their relationships to seek support and empowerment.

Takeaways

• Lisa Mitchell is a body language and communication expert.
• Divorce is a prevalent issue, with many women filing for divorce.
• Women need a supportive community to share their experiences.
• Divorce Curious aims to provide resources and tools for women.
• It's important to actively participate in your life and decisions.
• Shared experiences can build connection and understanding.
• Clarity leads to confidence in decision-making.
• Complacency can lead to feelings of isolation and frustration.
• Lisa's personal journey motivates her to help others.
• Divorce Curious is a platform for empowerment and support.

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Summary
In this episode of the Divorce Curious Show, host Lisa Mitchell shares her personal journey through divorce, discussing the emotional challenges and the process of navigating life after separation. She emphasizes the importance of education and support during this transition, addressing topics such as co-parenting, dating after divorce, and the need for a supportive community. Lisa invites listeners to share their stories and engage with the Divorce Curious community, aiming to create a space for open dialogue and healing.


Takeaways

• It's normal to feel alone during a divorce.
• Education is key to navigating the divorce process.
• Co-parenting requires support and understanding.
• Re-entering the dating scene can be challenging.
• You have the freedom to decide your next steps.
• Creating a supportive community is essential.
• It's okay to not have all the answers right away.
• Your feelings are valid and deserve to be expressed.
• Courageous decisions lead to personal growth.
• This podcast aims to be a resource for those in transition.

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Welcome to Divorce Curious, where we say the quiet parts out loud as we get real about all the things that come with deciding if you should get a divorce. Divorce-Curious conversations cover everything from the "how did I end up here?" confusion to the "I'm a married single parent" anger to the "we never have sex" frustration and all the financial, legal and logistical pieces that come with considering a divorce. So how do you decide the next best step for you? Listen and find out.

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