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In this episode of 'Flex Your Feelings', we reflect on our journey through the podcast's first season, discussing the importance of light-hearted conversations around serious topics. We play a fun game of 'Ask Me Anything' and then the conversation deepens as we talk about the answers which we give and the experiences behind them. We laugh together as we share our experiences with each other, and with you.

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of sex, exploring themes of sex positivity, personal experiences, and the importance of communication in sexual relationships. We discuss the societal taboos surrounding sex, the role of consent and boundaries, and the significance of understanding kinks and fetishes. The conversation emphasizes the need for open dialogue about sexual preferences and experiences, highlighting that sex should be an enjoyable and fulfilling aspect of life. We emphasizes the need to move past shame associated with kinks and fetishes, advocating for a more positive and accepting view of sexual expression. We also critique the unrealistic expectations set by pornography and highlights the significance of healthy conversations about sex to foster intimacy and understanding between partners.

Keywords:

mental health, wellness, sex positivity, communication, emotional intelligence, kinks, fetishes, relationships, intimacy, validation, relationships, boundaries, openness, sex positivity, communication, pornography, kinks, fetishes, emotional connection, sexual expression

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of social expectations versus personal choices. We explore how upbringing, particularly parental influences, shape our understanding of what is 'right' for us. The conversation highlights the detrimental effects of comparison, especially in the age of social media, and emphasie the importance of authenticity and self-discovery. We encourage you to prioritise your own needs and desires over societal pressures, advocating for a journey towards self-acceptance and personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic

02:35 Comparing Yourself to Others and Social Expectations

08:22 Autonomy in Decision-Making

12:09 The Impact of Social Media on Comparison

18:23 Trusting Yourself and Making Personal Choices

25:56 Fear of Judgment and Hiding Personal Preferences

28:43 Embracing Authenticity and Celebrating Individuality

37:23 The Impact of Societal Expectations on Personal Choices

41:15 Navigating Social Media and Dealing with Judgment

49:02 The Importance of Self-Value and Prioritizing Yourself

In this episode of 'Flex Your Feelings', we delve into the complex topic of heartbreak. We share our personal experiences, discussing the pain and transformative power that heartbreak can bring. The conversation navigates through the stages of grief associated with heartbreak, the importance of self-reflection, and the necessity of taking time for oneself. We emphasize the significance of no contact post-breakup, the journey of self-improvement, and provide practical tips for healing. The episode concludes with a message of hope, encouraging you to embrace your feelings and recognize the potential for growth after heartbreak.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences with Heartbreak

03:01 The Negative and Positive Sides of Heartbreak

09:41 The Evolution of Heartbreak and Lessons Learned

15:25 The Intensity and Distortion of Heartbreak

20:15 The Importance of Healing and Self-Compassion

23:31 Navigating the Healing Process After Heartbreak

26:44 The Power of No Contact

33:30 Embodying the Qualities You Want in a Partner

39:23 Embracing the Power of Being Single

46:21 Investing in Yourself and Personal Growth

55:59 Stop Blaming Yourself and Focus on the Positives

In this episode, we discuss stress and anxiety. We talk about the difference between stress and anxiety, with stress being a feeling state and anxiety being an emotion. We emphasize that stress and anxiety are natural parts of being human and cannot be completely eradicated. They also discuss the societal messages around stress and anxiety, with some viewing them as illnesses that need to be eliminated. Sam shares his personal experience of realizing that he created a lot of his own anxiety and stress. We highlight the importance of managing and coping with stress and anxiety rather than trying to eliminate them. Stress and anxiety can be both positive and negative, depending on perspective and the level of threat. It is subjective and varies from person to person. Overthinking and focusing on perceived threats can trigger stress and anxiety, even in safe situations. Planning and staying busy can help reduce anxiety by redirecting attention. However, it is important to not avoid or suppress emotions, but rather understand and process them. Self-awareness and therapy can help manage anxiety and stress by addressing the underlying triggers. Stress and anxiety can be debilitating experiences that can damage people's lives. It is important to educate people about what stress and anxiety are and how to navigate them. Society has gone through cycles of not talking about feelings to talking about them and now back to not talking about them. Some people make their anxiety or other mental health diagnoses their whole identity, which can be unhealthy. Stress and anxiety can be influenced by lifestyle factors, and it is important to address these factors before turning to medication. Taking personal responsibility and accountability for one's mental health is crucial for growth and development. The main takeaway is that talking about it is important, but action is also necessary for change. We discuss the idea that just talking about it is not enough and that taking steps to address the issue is crucial. We talk about being cautious not to against over-intellectualise and overthink stress and anxiety. One of the tips shared is to look up and gain perspective to help alleviate stress and anxiety. We discuss the statistical improbability of being born and how this perspective can help shift one's mindset. We emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for one's own well-being and seeking a healthier perspective. We also discuss the power of observation and learning from others who handle stress and anxiety well. Finally, we discuss the use of positive mantras or affirmations to shift perspective and promote a sense of well-being.

Helpful links:

Samaritans: 116 123

Mind Support Line: 0300 102 1234

In an emergency, call: 999

Lots of other helpful information about stress and anxiety is available online.

In this episode, we discuss first dates and share our tips and some stories. We emphasize the importance of meeting in person as quickly as possible after initial virtual contact. We also touch on the topic of sleeping together on a first date and the concept of virtual dates. The conversation explores the idea of meeting someone in person relatively quickly after matching on a dating app. It emphasizes the importance of turning virtual connections into tangible relationships. We discuss the concept of being open to going with the flow and not adhering to strict timelines or structures. We also touch on the hesitation some people have in giving out their phone numbers and the potential for ghosting in online dating. We share our perspectives on nerves before a first date and how personal development work can help build confidence. The conversation explores the concept of self worth and how it affects dating experiences.

00:00 The Challenges of Modern Dating

02:35 Tips and Do's and Don'ts for First Dates

04:27 Virtual Dates: Are They the Same as In-Person Dates?

07:19 The Timing and Dynamics of First Dates

10:12 Curiosity and Open-Mindedness in Meeting in Person

12:07 The Hierarchy of Communication Platforms

14:05 Dealing with Ghosting

17:22 Nerves and Excitement Before a First Date

19:05 Shifting Perspectives on Rejection

21:09 The Benefits of Casual Day Dates

22:04 Going for a Walk: A Natural and Relaxed First Date Option

23:57 Abrupt Departure Mid-Meal

29:01 The Impact of Different Settings

32:23 Avoiding Dinner Dates for First Dates

34:12 Navigating the Complexities of Modern Dating

36:33 Exploring Casual Sex in Dating

42:21 Challenges of Ending a First Date

44:27 Ending a Date Early with Honesty

47:44 Navigating the First Kiss

54:38 Don't Get Too Drunk on a First Date

59:00 Avoid Trying Too Hard to Impress

01:00:57 The Question of Who Should Pay on a First Date

01:03:44 Splitting the Bill

01:06:10 Setting Boundaries and Being Honest

01:08:56 Enjoying the Dating Process

01:10:56 Next Week's Episode: Stress and Anxiety

In this conversation, we discuss various topics related to mental health, parenting, and societal expectations. We touch on the challenges of being a single parent, the perception of men raising children, the importance of self-development, and the impact of toxic masculinity. We also discuss the role of feminism and the need for inclusivity while maintaining individuality. The conversation highlights the need for balance and understanding in navigating modern societal norms. The principal themes of the conversation include the impact of technology on children, the importance of healthy relationships and identity formation, the role of therapy in personal growth, and the influence of parents as role models. Key takeaways include the need for open communication with children, treating oneself with kindness and self-acceptance, and the power of positive role models. The conversation highlights the importance of being present and emotionally supportive as a parent, and the impact of parental behaviour on children's development.