“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters Most

Today on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all.

We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher—if you let truth train you instead of shame define you. From lactose intolerance gone wrong to zippers and golf swings, today’s episode is full of laughs, real talk, and gospel-centered hope for anyone struggling with setbacks on the journey to freedom.

This one’s for you if:

• You’ve recently relapsed and feel like giving up
• You want to stop cycling through guilt and start learning
• You need a reminder that God hasn’t forsaken you—He’s fathering you

The righteous fall… and they get back up. Let’s talk about how.

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits?

In this episode of Free From Porn, Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now—and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity.

You’ll hear stories, practical tips, and a no-fluff breakdown of why raising your standard and living from your true identity in Christ is the only foundation strong enough to walk in lasting freedom. If you’re tired of white-knuckling your way through temptation and want to experience true transformation, this episode is for you.

Highlights:

• Why willpower always runs out (and what to do instead)
• How smart systems can help—but can’t save
• Why identity is the missing piece most people never talk about
• Real stories from our coaching program
• A prayer to stand in your new identity

💥 Ready to raise your standard?
Hit play and discover what freedom really looks like.

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program:

"God, take away my sexual desires."

But what if that’s not the problem?

What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed?

We talk about:

• Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotional dysfunction
• How Jesus models what it means to feel deeply (without being ruled by feelings)
• Why real freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sex drive—but learning to steward it in righteousness
• The trap of Christianized stoicism and the myth of “robotic holiness”
• How to stop seeing your sexuality as dirty and start thanking God for it

If you’ve ever begged God to just make it all go away, this one’s for you.