“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters Most

Today on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all.

We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher—if you let truth train you instead of shame define you. From lactose intolerance gone wrong to zippers and golf swings, today’s episode is full of laughs, real talk, and gospel-centered hope for anyone struggling with setbacks on the journey to freedom.

This one’s for you if:

• You’ve recently relapsed and feel like giving up
• You want to stop cycling through guilt and start learning
• You need a reminder that God hasn’t forsaken you—He’s fathering you

The righteous fall… and they get back up. Let’s talk about how.

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits?

In this episode of Free From Porn, Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now—and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity.

You’ll hear stories, practical tips, and a no-fluff breakdown of why raising your standard and living from your true identity in Christ is the only foundation strong enough to walk in lasting freedom. If you’re tired of white-knuckling your way through temptation and want to experience true transformation, this episode is for you.

Highlights:

• Why willpower always runs out (and what to do instead)
• How smart systems can help—but can’t save
• Why identity is the missing piece most people never talk about
• Real stories from our coaching program
• A prayer to stand in your new identity

💥 Ready to raise your standard?
Hit play and discover what freedom really looks like.

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program:

"God, take away my sexual desires."

But what if that’s not the problem?

What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed?

We talk about:

• Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotional dysfunction
• How Jesus models what it means to feel deeply (without being ruled by feelings)
• Why real freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sex drive—but learning to steward it in righteousness
• The trap of Christianized stoicism and the myth of “robotic holiness”
• How to stop seeing your sexuality as dirty and start thanking God for it

If you’ve ever begged God to just make it all go away, this one’s for you.

Ever fallen once… and then gone all in on failure?

In this hilarious yet deeply honest episode, Richard and Justin unpack the all-or-nothing mindset that keeps so many stuck in cycles of porn, shame, and self-condemnation. What starts with a lactose pill and ends with a binge becomes the perfect metaphor for how guilt drives us deeper into the very thing we want freedom from.

You’ll learn:
– Why “one slip” doesn’t mean you’re out of Christ
– How guilt and shame fuel binging behavior
– The difference between falling in Christ vs falling out of covenant
– Why God’s mercy isn’t on a 24-hour countdown timer
– And how to get back up without starting over

This one’s funny, raw, and full of gospel truth. If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn your way back to God, this episode will set you free.

A lot of guys believe the lie: “Once I get married and can have sex, I won’t struggle with porn anymore.” But here’s the hard truth—we’re not trying to be clickbaity… marriage might actually make your porn habit worse.

In this episode, Justin and Richard unpack why marriage and sex were never meant to be the solution to your struggle with lust. We talk through the deep-rooted misunderstandings many Christian men have, the biblical truth about freedom, and why Jesus—not your future spouse—is the one who sets you free.

We explore:
– Why sex doesn’t heal what only Jesus can redeem
– How Romans 7 and 8 reveal the real path to freedom
– Why your problem isn’t a lack of sex—it’s a lack of belief
– What it means to walk in righteousness as a new creation
– How to stop waiting for external fixes and start living free today

This one might feel like the rug gets pulled out from under you. But trust us—on the other side is solid ground.

Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation is for you.

What if your struggle with porn isn’t an addiction… but a habit?

In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young unpack why the language you use to describe your battle matters deeply—and how calling it an "addiction" might be keeping you stuck. Drawing from science (yes, Pavlov makes a cameo) and scripture (Colossians 3, anyone?), they explore the difference between being a slave to sin and simply needing to renew your mind and habits through the power of the Holy Spirit.

This isn't behavior modification. This is transformation grounded in the gospel. You are not an addict. You are a new creation—seated with Christ, filled with the Spirit, and empowered to walk in freedom.

• Why shock collars and extreme hacks won't set you free
• How neuroscience and scripture agree on habit change
• What it really means to be hidden with Christ in God
• The simple (but profound) mindset shift that breaks the cycle

Listen now and discover why freedom is not just possible—it’s your new normal.

Tap in, hit play, and renew your mind with truth.

For years, we’ve been taught to flee temptation.
Run from lust.
Avoid triggers at all costs.

But what if that’s not what God is actually calling you to do?

In this powerful episode, Richard Young and Justin Khoe unpack a surprising truth about 1 Corinthians 10:13—and explain why the real way of escape isn’t running away, but learning to endure.

You’ll learn:

✅ Why trying to avoid temptation keeps you stuck in shame
✅ The physical and spiritual connection between urges and growth
✅ How to sit in the tension, feel the pull—and still walk in truth
✅ Why temptation isn’t your enemy… it’s your training ground
✅ How to rewire your brain through practicing righteousness

This is your invitation to stop fighting the wrong battle.
You don’t need more filters—you need a renewed mind and a deeper belief in who God says you are.

🎧 Tap play and discover the path to lasting freedom.
And if you're ready to go deeper, our 6-month coaching program is open now—but only for a limited time.

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Why running from temptation might be keeping you stuck—and how to flip the script.

🔥 What We Talk About:

Most of us were taught: "Just flee temptation." But what if that advice is keeping you spiritually weak?

In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle a commonly misused phrase—“flee temptation”—and explain why that mindset can actually deepen your slavery to sin. They walk through what Scripture actually says (and doesn’t say), and challenge you to view temptation as a training ground, not a trap.

Key highlights:

• 📖 Scripture never says “flee temptation” — we show you what it does say instead
  
  
  
• 💪 Why temptation is spiritual leg day—the thing that makes you strong, not sinful
  
  
  
• 🧠 How your mindset (Expectation Effect) shapes your strength in moments of weakness
  
  
  
• 🛠️ Practical steps to engage temptation without fear and walk in freedom
  
  
  
• 🙏 A powerful prayer for those still wrestling with shame, discomfort, or fear
  
  
  

🧩 Practical Tools & Takeaways:

• Matthew 4:1 — Jesus was led by the Spirit into temptation
  
  
  
• Hebrews 4:15 — Jesus was tempted in every way, yet without sin
  
  
  
• James 1:12 — "Blessed is the one who endures temptation..."
  
  
  
• Reframe: Temptation isn't your enemy—it’s your opportunity to grow stronger in truth.
  
  
  
• Identity Shift: Stop seeing yourself as weak and about to fail. You are free, equipped, and filled with the Spirit.
  
  
  

💬 One-Liner Takeaway:

“Temptation is not the problem—it’s the place where freedom becomes real.”

🎧 Listen now if you’ve ever thought:

• “Why am I still tempted if I’m free?”
  
  
  
• “Does temptation mean I’m sinning already?”
  
  
  
• “How do I stop running and start growing?”
  
  
  

This episode flips your view of temptation and gives you a gospel-centered framework for enduring it with confidence and clarity.

🧠 Freedom is your new normal.
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