• It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

  • By: Joe Ryan
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  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (14 ratings)

It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

By: Joe Ryan
  • Summary

  • Joe delves into the complexities of trauma and its impact on behaviors, emotions, and relationships. He emphasizes the importance of being authentically courageous and vulnerable. Joe shares his expertise and personal experiences to help listeners understand and overcome their struggles. The podcast provides a supportive and empathetic space for individuals to learn, reflect, and take steps towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. For access to all episodes and bonus content, subscribe at https://joeryan.com/subscribe
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Episodes
  • EP 0088 - Fear Of Setting Boundaries
    Oct 15 2024

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    It’s Not You—It’s Your Lack of Boundaries

    True progress in your healing journey isn’t measured by avoiding what hurt you but by how you handle returning to places that once caused you the most pain. It’s time to move beyond blame and victimhood and embrace your personal power.


    The key to overcoming childhood wounds lies in understanding that your past does not control your future. Your self-worth and emotional intelligence are entirely within your hands. Healing is an internal process—one that doesn’t rely on the validation or acceptance of those who raised you.


    Let’s address the emotional challenge of setting boundaries and the discomfort that comes with it. When you set boundaries, anxiety and fear often arise, but rather than turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms, visualize these feelings and acknowledge them. This is the path to breaking the cycles of avoidance and shame.


    By learning to self-soothe and clearly communicate your boundaries, you’ll discover how empowering it is to no longer depend on external validation. You’ll reclaim your emotional independence and break free from old patterns of relying on others to determine your worth.


    Right now, an emotional battle is taking place within you—but the power to change it starts with boundaries. It’s time to reclaim your peace and take control of your emotional well-being.


    Producer: Shelby Buckler


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    30 mins
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    Oct 10 2024

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    Topics: Trauma, False Self, Family Systems, Addiction,
    Anxiety, Shame, Emotional Incest, Setting Boundaries


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    1 min
  • EP 0087 - Truths About Recovery
    Sep 5 2024

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    It’s not you - it’s your family system.

    But it’s you, too. It’s time to talk about the necessity of weaning off external validation and learning to live a life aligned with one’s true self.

    To heal, you need to do two things—learn to be okay with disappointing people and leave home emotionally. The rage that’s been building for all this time is ready to be released, and now you have to learn to live with it. All I can tell you is that your hurt, anger, and resentment hurt you, and you put way too much value in the people who raised you.

    After this realization, loneliness will shine through, but you have to embrace it. If you need to find a surrogate family somewhere with somebody who'll better mirror you, do it. You must start living your life your way and find the places important to you.

    Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions? Do they not like me? What's it going to be like when I show up? How are they going to guilt me and shame me? Then, you need to get a handle on those emotions of shame and guilt and start cutting emotional ties with toxic family systems.

    It’s time to work through the impacts of generational trauma and learn the importance of developing self-love and independence. It’s time to achieve a fulfilled and authentic life built for you.


    00:00 Introduction to Hard Truths of Recovery

    00:21 Dealing with Family and Emotional Separation

    05:17 Understanding and Managing Anger

    08:04 The Loneliness of Recovery

    08:55 Breaking Free from Family Expectations

    15:41 Investing in Yourself

    25:06 Conclusion and Personal Reflections


    Host: Joe Ryan

    Producer: Shelby Buckler

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    26 mins

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Just one of the best!!!

I love all of the podcasts, but this one....🙌💯🙏♥️everyone should hear. love Joe's stuff!

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Love it! Engaging! Authetic!

Thanks for getting naked... Tough thing to do spoke to the heart through the heart and that's what it takes.

Been a while since I've heard someone say my message.

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Thank you

Thank you. I'm so tired of not being understood. I'm scared everyday. I want it to stop.

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Wow

This episode as well as the Thanksgiving one were like discovering gold after searching for it for years. Thank you so so so much!

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Appreciated all the knowledge

So glad to finally know it wasn't me all those years it was an abusive Mom that always made me feel unworthy and unacceptable for all I did.

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getting to OK!

Joe, you hit this episode right out of the park! this is the stuff that should be in the New York times. this is about Real life and self understanding. this is about You, taking back your life. understanding How your life went off the rails and why! "WARNING ⚠️ Listening to this episode MAY change your life for the better! it did, mine. 😁

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How?

I think many trauma survivors know they should get out with people and be in community. Question is how to do that somewhat safely. I have tried many times and it furthered my trauma because of hurtful and inconsiderate people. it made me feel worse every time. Also, where, where do we find community? I also have very little money so that gets in the way of options. So this episode ended up making me feel worse.
I generally like all of these episodes but this one was really a tough one.

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