In this episode of Project I AM, we dive into a question with profound implications: Why do we confuse discomfort with a lack of safety? This misunderstanding shapes personal growth, relationships, workplaces, and even public policy.

Join Dr. David J. Schlosz as we explore:

- The key distinction between discomfort and danger.

- Neuroscience explaining why our brains misinterpret challenges as threats.

- How parenting, education, and social media foster “safetyism.”

- The cultural impacts of trigger warnings, safe spaces, and censorship.

- Practical strategies to reframe discomfort as a path to growth.

Drawing on insights from leading psychologists, research studies, and real-world examples—from workplace dynamics to debates around free speech—this episode will challenge you to rethink how you navigate adversity and embrace discomfort as a vital part of life.

Why do we withdraw or hide parts of ourselves when we’re longing for connection the most? In this episode of Project I AM, we explore the Central Relational Paradox—a concept from Relational Cultural Theory that sheds light on the push-and-pull between our deep desire for connection and our fear of rejection.

Join your host, Dr. David Schlosz, as we dive into the origins of this paradox, its roots in relational psychology, and how it shows up in our everyday lives. Using current research, real-world anecdotes, and practical advice, we’ll uncover why this paradox exists and how to overcome it.

Discover:

• Why fear of vulnerability often leads us to self-sabotage relationships.
• How past experiences shape our ability to connect authentically.
• Practical strategies to break free from the patterns that keep us stuck.

Whether you’re navigating friendships, romantic relationships, or professional connections, this episode will challenge you to examine your relational patterns and take steps toward deeper, more fulfilling connections.

Tune in now and learn how small acts of courage can transform your relationships.

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In this episode, we explore the transformative practice of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a communication style that prioritizes empathy, clarity, and compassion. Developed by psychologist Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, NVC encourages us to approach conversations—especially challenging ones—with openness and respect. We’ll break down the four essential components of NVC: Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests, and discuss how each step can help us connect more meaningfully with others while reducing conflict.

With real-life examples, a practical exercise, and insights into Rosenberg’s philosophy, this episode provides a foundational understanding of NVC and tips for incorporating it into your daily life. Whether you’re navigating relationships, workplace dynamics, or simply looking to communicate more effectively, tune in to discover how NVC can help you transform your interactions and foster deeper, more compassionate connections.

More resources available at The Center for Non-Violent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org