In this episode of Project I AM, we dive into a question with profound implications: Why do we confuse discomfort with a lack of safety? This misunderstanding shapes personal growth, relationships, workplaces, and even public policy.

Join Dr. David J. Schlosz as we explore:

- The key distinction between discomfort and danger.

- Neuroscience explaining why our brains misinterpret challenges as threats.

- How parenting, education, and social media foster “safetyism.”

- The cultural impacts of trigger warnings, safe spaces, and censorship.

- Practical strategies to reframe discomfort as a path to growth.

Drawing on insights from leading psychologists, research studies, and real-world examples—from workplace dynamics to debates around free speech—this episode will challenge you to rethink how you navigate adversity and embrace discomfort as a vital part of life.

Why do we withdraw or hide parts of ourselves when we’re longing for connection the most? In this episode of Project I AM, we explore the Central Relational Paradox—a concept from Relational Cultural Theory that sheds light on the push-and-pull between our deep desire for connection and our fear of rejection.

Join your host, Dr. David Schlosz, as we dive into the origins of this paradox, its roots in relational psychology, and how it shows up in our everyday lives. Using current research, real-world anecdotes, and practical advice, we’ll uncover why this paradox exists and how to overcome it.

Discover:

• Why fear of vulnerability often leads us to self-sabotage relationships.
• How past experiences shape our ability to connect authentically.
• Practical strategies to break free from the patterns that keep us stuck.

Whether you’re navigating friendships, romantic relationships, or professional connections, this episode will challenge you to examine your relational patterns and take steps toward deeper, more fulfilling connections.

Tune in now and learn how small acts of courage can transform your relationships.

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In this episode, we explore the transformative practice of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a communication style that prioritizes empathy, clarity, and compassion. Developed by psychologist Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, NVC encourages us to approach conversations—especially challenging ones—with openness and respect. We’ll break down the four essential components of NVC: Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests, and discuss how each step can help us connect more meaningfully with others while reducing conflict.

With real-life examples, a practical exercise, and insights into Rosenberg’s philosophy, this episode provides a foundational understanding of NVC and tips for incorporating it into your daily life. Whether you’re navigating relationships, workplace dynamics, or simply looking to communicate more effectively, tune in to discover how NVC can help you transform your interactions and foster deeper, more compassionate connections.

More resources available at The Center for Non-Violent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org

In this episode, we explore the journey from loneliness to aloneness—a transformative state where solitude becomes a source of comfort, growth, and even joy. Loneliness is a deeply human experience, and research shows that it’s more common than ever. But what if instead of running from loneliness, we learned to embrace it as an opportunity for self-connection and inner peace? We dive into recent studies on the effects of loneliness, self-compassion, and mindfulness, sharing practical steps to help you turn moments of loneliness into valuable times of self-discovery.

Join us to explore how you can shift your perspective, find meaning in solitude, and nurture a sense of wholeness that comes from within. If you’re feeling disconnected or yearning for more peace in your own company, this episode offers comfort, insight, and a gentle reminder: you are enough, just as you are.

In this episode of Project I AM, we dive into the transformative power of self-compassion—a practice that might feel foreign or even indulgent in a world that often pushes us to be our own toughest critics. Yet, as research shows, it’s self-compassion, not self-criticism, that fosters resilience, motivation, and emotional well-being.

We explore what self-compassion truly means, drawing on insights from Dr. Kristin Neff, who identifies three core elements: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Together, these components allow us to meet our challenges with warmth and understanding instead of judgment and harshness. Through compelling studies, practical exercises, and reflections, we discuss how self-compassion can benefit not only our mental health but also our relationships and personal growth.

Join us as we uncover simple ways to bring more compassion into your daily life, nurturing a more supportive and balanced inner voice. Embrace the journey toward self-kindness—because you’re worthy of the same compassion you offer others. Listen now and discover how self-compassion can change your life

In this episode of "Project I AM," we explore the role that fear played in shaping voting behavior among men in the recent elections. From economic anxiety and cultural shifts to media influence, fear is a powerful force that can drive people to seek stability and security in uncertain times. Drawing from current research in political psychology and sociology, we unpack how these fears influenced voting patterns, why certain messages resonate so deeply, and what this means for our political landscape.

Join us as we delve into the psychology behind political decision-making, examining how fear impacts men in unique ways and offering insights into building empathy and understanding across political divides. By the end of this episode, we hope listeners will come away with a deeper understanding of how emotions shape our choices and how we can approach political conversations with greater compassion.

In this episode of "Project I Am" we explore strategies for handling political change and uncertainty that feel out of our control. With many feeling anxious or overwhelmed about the future, we offer practical, research-backed approaches to manage fear and find a sense of stability amidst unpredictability. From building resilience and practicing self-compassion to engaging in meaningful action and finding community, this episode provides tools to help you stay grounded and connected during challenging times. Tune in for insights on embracing uncertainty, reducing anxiety, and finding hope, even when the world feels uncertain.

In this episode, we dive into the powerful realization that not every thought deserves our attention or belief. From understanding the brain’s natural negativity bias to learning practical techniques for handling uncomfortable thoughts, we’ll explore why it’s okay—and even freeing—not to take our thoughts so seriously. Join us as we discuss the science of mindfulness, the benefits of sitting with discomfort, and actionable strategies to help you let go of the thoughts that aren’t serving you. Perfect for anyone looking to boost mental resilience and find more peace in the everyday ebb and flow of the mind.