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Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul.

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00:00 Intro
00:02:57 First time with a man
00:07:46 History of hookup culture
00:12:11 DL gays
00:19:57 Seeking validation in sex
00:28:21 Finding long term love
00:36:10 Is the gay community racist?
00:48:48 fetishization in gay community
00:54:46 Is it a personal preference?
01:04:22 Gay body standards
01:07:28 Best advice for dating

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Think all lesbians are women? Think again. We're queering the label with trans and non-binary lesbians who are redefining what it means to love, resist, and rebel. From gender euphoria to TERF drama to navigating dating apps as a gender outlaw, this episode dives into the messy, sexy, revolutionary legacy of lesbianism. Featuring archival hot takes, community tension, and maybe even a little dyke drama.

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00:00:00 intro
00:02:34 What is a lesbian?
00:10:18 Being NB and Trans
00:16:29 Finding Gender Identity
00:25:58 Why identify as a lesbian?
00:31:41 What is a woman?
00:37:12 Queer phenomenology
00:51:29 Gender identity vs survival strategy
01:01:41 Who gets to be a lesbian?
01:18:48 Lesbian sentiment towards trans & NB
01:26:28 Dating and intimacy
01:37:36 Envy vs attraction to women
01:41:08 Advice for dating

If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while staying hot and radical.

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