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Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever.

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00:00 Intro
01:32 What is relationship anarchy?
10:50 How do you get into RA?
20:34 Positive impact of RA
27:20 Why choose RA?
41:45 Can it get more radical?
53:28 Building your own RA model
01:06:13 Dating challenges within RA
01:12:26 Creating clarity with multiple partners
01:19:06 Negotiating hierarchies

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Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront.

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00:00 Intro
02:33 Black masculinity from childhood
11:18 Highschool scripts and stereotypes
16:03 Black masc women
21:52 Black women's standards
27:56 Black masculinity in queer spaces
39:38 Cis straight black men
50:59 Loving men
01:03:43 What is masculinity?
01:10:36 What is healthy masculinity?

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Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul.

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00:00 Intro
00:02:57 First time with a man
00:07:46 History of hookup culture
00:12:11 DL gays
00:19:57 Seeking validation in sex
00:28:21 Finding long term love
00:36:10 Is the gay community racist?
00:48:48 fetishization in gay community
00:54:46 Is it a personal preference?
01:04:22 Gay body standards
01:07:28 Best advice for dating