• Curious About Relationship Anarchy? Start Here ft. Pat
    Jul 3 2025

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    Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever.

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    00:00 Intro
    01:32 What is relationship anarchy?
    10:50 How do you get into RA?
    20:34 Positive impact of RA
    27:20 Why choose RA?
    41:45 Can it get more radical?
    53:28 Building your own RA model
    01:06:13 Dating challenges within RA
    01:12:26 Creating clarity with multiple partners
    01:19:06 Negotiating hierarchies

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    1 hr and 29 mins
  • Is Black Masculinity Feared in Queer Spaces? ft. Haviah Mighty And DJ Blackcat
    Jun 19 2025

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    Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront.

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    00:00 Intro
    02:33 Black masculinity from childhood
    11:18 Highschool scripts and stereotypes
    16:03 Black masc women
    21:52 Black women's standards
    27:56 Black masculinity in queer spaces
    39:38 Cis straight black men
    50:59 Loving men
    01:03:43 What is masculinity?
    01:10:36 What is healthy masculinity?

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    1 hr and 18 mins
  • No Fats, No Femmes, No Asians: The Grindr Industrial Complex ft. Humza and Darynel
    Jun 5 2025

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    Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul.

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    00:00 Intro
    00:02:57 First time with a man
    00:07:46 History of hookup culture
    00:12:11 DL gays
    00:19:57 Seeking validation in sex
    00:28:21 Finding long term love
    00:36:10 Is the gay community racist?
    00:48:48 fetishization in gay community
    00:54:46 Is it a personal preference?
    01:04:22 Gay body standards
    01:07:28 Best advice for dating

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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • The Lesbian Identity Crisis: Trans And Non-Binary?! ft. Jay-Marie and Eirene
    May 22 2025

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    Think all lesbians are women? Think again. We're queering the label with trans and non-binary lesbians who are redefining what it means to love, resist, and rebel. From gender euphoria to TERF drama to navigating dating apps as a gender outlaw, this episode dives into the messy, sexy, revolutionary legacy of lesbianism. Featuring archival hot takes, community tension, and maybe even a little dyke drama.

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    00:00:00 intro
    00:02:34 What is a lesbian?
    00:10:18 Being NB and Trans
    00:16:29 Finding Gender Identity
    00:25:58 Why identify as a lesbian?
    00:31:41 What is a woman?
    00:37:12 Queer phenomenology
    00:51:29 Gender identity vs survival strategy
    01:01:41 Who gets to be a lesbian?
    01:18:48 Lesbian sentiment towards trans & NB
    01:26:28 Dating and intimacy
    01:37:36 Envy vs attraction to women
    01:41:08 Advice for dating

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    1 hr and 46 mins
  • Asian Fetishization And Hyper-Sexualization ft. Ky and Charlotte
    May 8 2025

    If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while staying hot and radical.

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    1 hr and 21 mins
  • Born Intersex And Surgically Erased ft. Bailey Archer and Noise
    Apr 24 2025

    You were told sex is binary, XX or XY, case closed. But what if we told you that’s just redhead math? We’re unpacking the intersex experience with two brilliant guests: Noise (the intersex karaoke witch) and Bailey (trans, intersex, and hot). We’re diving into the science, the history, the surgeries, the shame and why “normal” is a scam. Expect gay giggles, medical rage, and radical joy.

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    00:00 intro
    03:10 Finding out you're intersex
    17:05 History of medicalization of intersex
    26:41 Experiencing diagnosis
    33:39 Existing in a binary world
    41:24 Navigating dating
    51:03 Advice for younger self

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    58 mins
  • Do Queer Muslim Women Exist?! ft. Urvah Khan
    Apr 10 2025

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    Queer. Muslim. Rockstar. Activist. Urvah Khan is all of the above, and she’s here to spill the tea on holding identities the world says don’t mix. We’re talking queerness, faith, feminism, and the fight for liberation, plus why the West needs to stop acting like all Muslim women are oppressed. Urvah breaks down her personal journey, the power of community, and how she’s reclaiming the Azaan with a mic in one hand and a middle finger in the other. It’s raw, rebellious, and deeply queer. Let’s get into it.

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    00:00 intro
    01:58 Queer and raised Muslim
    12:12 Coming out to a Muslim family
    19:17 Coming back to Islam as a queer person
    28:16 Why continue to choose Islam?
    35:30 Wearing the hijab
    39:39 Finding queer Muslim community
    45:39 Advice for queer Muslims
    47:31 Queer Muslim joy

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    49 mins
  • The Secret to Sapphic Sex and Dating ft. Zhané and Eva Bloom
    Mar 27 2025

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    Losing your sapphic v-card? Terrified you’ll fumble the bag? We got you. This episode is your survival guide to sapphic sex, confidence, flirting, and ahem hands-on skills included. We’re joined by queer sex-ed pro Eva Bloom and sapphic dating expert Zhané to break down the do’s and don’ts of queer intimacy. From navigating your first time to mastering the art of the flirt, this one’s packed with hot tips (literally). Plus, we wrap things up with a round of Sapphic Smutty Mad Libs because education should always come with a little filth.

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    00:00 intro
    01:48 first time with a woman
    14:54 ways to confirm your queerness
    16:21 being a newbie means no one wants you?
    18:21 Queer vs straight flirting
    22:49 Sapphic vs straight sex
    30:27 how to flirt with Sapphics
    38:54 having Sapphic sex
    47:59 Strapping advice
    55:35 Top or bottom?
    58:40 Trans femmes & neurodivergents
    59:58 Sexy Sapphic Smutt

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    1 hr and 11 mins