There are the folks who are deep—the ones who focus on one thing and completely immerse themselves in it. They’re experts, the ones who can go on and on about their craft, their passion, their field of knowledge.

Then there are the wide ones—the people who are a little bit of everything. They know a little about a lot, and they’re adaptable. They might not master a single thing, but they’re curious, they’re versatile, and they always seem to have the right answer, or at least a solution to get things moving.

It’s fascinating, really, because both types of people are confident in their own way. The deep folks have this steady, unshakeable confidence that comes from years of dedication and learning. You can tell when someone is deep—they walk into a room and immediately command respect because they own their space and their expertise. It’s not cocky. It’s a quiet, powerful confidence that comes from knowing exactly what they bring to the table.

But then there’s the wide people, and I love them too and not just because I’m one of them! Wide people have this ease in their confidence because they aren’t afraid to try new things, to jump into unknown territories. They have this natural ability to connect with different kinds of people and situations. They aren’t intimidated by things they don’t know—they just roll with it, which I think takes a different kind of confidence, the kind that’s born from possibility, not perfection.

Which one are you? Does it matter when it comes to confidence? Listen in as I break down who’s deep, who’s wide, and how each approach shapes how we feel about ourselves and our own confidence, no matter how we show up in the world.

This episode of Real Confidence is a wild one. I’m talking to Sean Harvey, founder of Warrior Compassion Institute and author of Warrior Compassion, and we get into the real, messy, and honestly kind of scary work of sitting down with people most of us would run from. Think white nationalists, men feeling lost in a changing world, people whose views might make your skin crawl. But Sean doesn’t argue or shut them down—he meets them with love, curiosity, and a whole lot of patience or in other words, confidence.

And somehow, it works.

Sean and I talk about why polarization is making everything worse, how dehumanization goes both ways, and why Sean believes his work is the missing step before DEI efforts can actually stick. He’s all about helping people get emotionally and psychologically ready for those hard, awkward, necessary conversations—the kind that don’t just change minds but actually open hearts.

I don’t want to give too much away, but the highlights of conversation that stick with me—and will stick with you too, include:

• Why Sean meditates with extremists instead of debating them
• How curiosity and compassion can keep even the toughest conversations going
• Why polarization dehumanizes everyone—including us
• The "bridging mindset" and how it leads to real change; and
• A terrifying moment that proved to Sean he was exactly where he needed to be

Sean’s approach to dealing with hateful people confidently and compassionately is fascinating, and if you want to go deeper into his work, visit check out WarriorCompassion.com where you can also sign up for his mailing list and get copy of his book.

There’s an awful feeling we all know—being taken advantage of.

You know the one. It hits when you realize you’ve been pushed into a decision, and you’re left questioning, Was I just tricked into doing something I didn’t want to do?

It’s the regret that follows, and it makes you question: Am I a sucker?

I’ve felt it, especially when dealing with high-pressure situations, like buying a car. The dealership pushes you to make a decision on the spot, and though I’ve done my research, I still wonder if I was manipulated into a choice I wasn’t fully confident in. It’s a feeling I try to avoid, yet we all experience it in different ways.

This feeling doesn’t always come from those obvious, high-stakes situations either. It can happen in quieter moments, too—when friends, family, or even institutions we trust subtly push us into decisions. Maybe it’s a charity asking for more than you’re comfortable with, or an event that makes you feel obligated to give more of your time than you want to.

Even the smartest, most confident people can fall into these traps. I’ve watched as others get scammed through phishing schemes, tricked into believing they were doing the right thing, only to lose money or worse. It happens when we’re vulnerable, when our brains are not fully online and the fear is driving us into decisions we wouldn’t normally make.

So what can we do? We already feel like a sucker and now we feel even more vulnerable.

The key to reclaiming our confidence here is simple.

Listen in for my take on how we take our power back, find clarity and build the confidence to trust ourselves so the choices we make feel right, not pressured.