• 201: Get Curious, Not Furious: Understanding Your Child's Anger
    Nov 13 2024

    In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith addresses the common challenges parents face when dealing with their children’s big emotions, especially anger. Building on last week's theme of diving below the surface, Lisa shares five practical scenarios that parents encounter daily, each illustrating how to respond with empathy and understanding. Lisa also provides actionable phrases to help parents get curious, not furious, enabling deeper connection and calmer communication with their children. This episode empowers parents with a toolkit for navigating tough emotional moments, guiding both parent and child toward a more peaceful relationship.

    What You'll Learn:

    • The Power of Connection Phrases – Learn specific phrases to help your child feel understood and calm in emotionally charged moments.

    • “Pause and Probe” Technique – Discover how to pause, breathe, and explore what emotions might be under the surface of your child’s behavior.

    • Real-Life Scenarios – Five common parenting challenges with step-by-step responses to foster empathy and avoid escalation.

    • Understanding the “Iceberg of Behavior” – Why what’s visible (like anger) is often only a small part of what your child is experiencing emotionally.

    • Building Emotional Intelligence Together – How practicing empathy and understanding fosters emotional growth for both you and your child.

    • Practical Tools for Real-Life Parenting – Techniques for shifting from reaction to understanding, helping to create a calmer, more cooperative household.

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    16 mins
  • 200: Understanding The Hidden Pain Behind Your Kid's Anger
    Nov 6 2024

    In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith explores a transformative approach to handling anger in parenting. Guided by Eckhart Tolle’s wisdom, “Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath,” Lisa explains how to look beyond the surface of your child’s outbursts to understand the vulnerable emotions hidden below. With real-life stories and actionable insights, Lisa shares how getting “curious, not furious” can create breakthroughs in connection and emotional growth for you and your child.


    What You'll Learn:

    • The "Curious, Not Furious" Approach – Learn how adopting this mindset can uncover your child’s true feelings behind their anger.

    • The Iceberg Model of Anger – Discover why anger is only the tip of the iceberg and how diving deeper reveals vulnerable emotions.

    • Practical Techniques for Emotional Connection – Explore actionable strategies to identify and validate your child’s emotions.

    • Real-World Examples of Compassionate Parenting – Hear relatable stories of parents navigating anger to build stronger bonds.

    • Self-Reflection Practices for Parents – Understand your own reactions to anger and what underlying emotions you might be shielding.

    • Building Emotional Intelligence in Children – Help your child develop emotional resilience by teaching them to manage and communicate their feelings.

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    14 mins
  • 199: The ABC's of Co-Regulation
    Oct 30 2024

    In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith breaks down seven essential co-regulation techniques that every parent should know. By incorporating these strategies into your daily interactions, you can help your child manage their emotions, foster emotional intelligence, and create a stronger bond between you and your child. From empathy to shared breathing exercises, Lisa provides practical tools for navigating those challenging parenting moments with calm and connection.

    What You'll Learn:

    • What co-regulation is and why it's a powerful tool for helping children manage emotions.

    • How to use empathy and active listening to create emotional connection and calm during tough moments.

    • The power of shared breathing exercises to reduce stress for both parent and child and align emotional states.

    • Why validating your child’s feelings without judgment is crucial for building trust and emotional openness.

    • The importance of modeling self-regulation so your child learns how to handle emotions effectively by watching you.

    • How holding space for your child’s emotions helps them feel seen and supported without needing to fix or change their feelings.

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    21 mins
  • 198: Parenting with EQ: How Emotional Intelligence Transforms Your Family
    Oct 23 2024

    In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith dives deep into the power of emotional intelligence and how it can revolutionize your parenting approach. Learn the core components of emotional intelligence—self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and more—and discover actionable steps you can take to create a connected and cooperative home environment. Whether your child is a toddler or a teen, this episode provides the tools to help you foster emotional intelligence in both yourself and your children for a lifetime of resilience and healthy relationships.


    What You'll Learn:

    • What emotional intelligence is and why it is crucial for peaceful parenting.

    • How to model self-awareness and emotional regulation for your children.

    • Practical strategies to create a safe space for kids to express their feelings.

    • The importance of empathy and how to validate your child’s emotions without judgment.

    • How to use storytelling and perspective-taking to teach emotional intelligence to kids.

    • Key behaviors emotionally intelligent parents practice to foster strong connections and emotional resilience in their families.

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    14 mins
  • 197: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids: Tools for Real-World Families
    Oct 16 2024

    In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith dives deep into the transformative power of emotional intelligence in parenting. Learn how to recognize, understand, and manage both your emotions and your child's, creating a home environment built on connection and growth. Lisa shares practical strategies to build emotional intelligence for yourself and your children, with real-life examples and actionable tips to start using today.

    What You'll Learn:

    • What emotional intelligence in parenting really means and why it's essential.

    • The five core components of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.

    • Practical ways to model emotional awareness and regulation for your children.

    • How to teach your kids empathy, open communication, and emotional resilience.

    • The importance of self-care for parents in maintaining emotional intelligence.

    • Specific tools like emotional coaching and mindfulness practices to start using today.

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    14 mins
  • 196: From Chaos to Comedy: Parenting Advice with a Twist from ABC Parenting
    Oct 9 2024

    In this special episode, Lisa Smith welcomes Stephanie Drake and Arthur Meyer, the comedic masterminds behind the hit web series ABC Parenting. They dive into the power of humor in parenting, how to connect with kids through laughter, and why it’s okay to laugh at the chaos of parenthood. Whether you're dealing with everyday challenges or just need a fresh perspective, this episode will leave you smiling and ready to embrace the joy (and humor) of raising kids.

    What You'll Learn:

    • Why humor is a powerful tool for emotional connection with your children.

    • How laughter can help you navigate tough parenting moments and create stronger bonds.

    • The importance of balancing humor with boundaries and discipline.

    • Real-world examples of using humor to diffuse difficult situations, from bedtime struggles to meltdowns in public.

    • The significance of self-regulation as a parent and how humor can keep you grounded.

    • Why it’s essential for parents to laugh at themselves and not take everything too seriously in their parenting journey.

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    48 mins
  • 195: Reactive Anger as a Signal: How to Guide Your Child Through Big Emotions
    Oct 2 2024

    In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith dives into the complexities of reactive anger in children. Joined by Hive member Dina, Lisa coaches her through the challenges of helping her 9-year-old daughter navigate intense outbursts of frustration and anger. Learn how to go beneath the surface of anger to uncover and address the deeper emotions at play. This episode is packed with actionable insights for fostering emotional resilience and empathy, ensuring your child feels seen, heard, and supported in moments of emotional turbulence.

    What You'll Learn:

    • The underlying emotions behind reactive anger and how to help your child recognize them.

    • How to hold space for your child’s emotions, allowing them to feel safe expressing their frustration and disappointment.

    • Practical steps for moving beyond reactive anger, guiding your child to articulate their deeper feelings.

    • Why empathy and validation are powerful tools in building emotional intelligence and resilience in children.

    • How everyday disappointments can trigger larger emotional storms and how to guide your child through these moments.

    • The importance of helping children tolerate life’s frustrations without turning to anger, leading to long-term emotional growth.

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    16 mins
  • 194: Flipping the Script: Real Parenting Questions with Lisa Smith
    Sep 25 2024

    In this special episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith hands over the reins to Hive member Neil, who interviews her with real-life parenting questions. Covering everything from handling money conversations with kids to how peaceful parenting principles apply to pets, this "Ask Me Anything" episode offers deep insights and practical advice for parents looking to transform their relationships with their children. Whether you’re a Hive member or a first-time listener, this episode is packed with valuable lessons that can help you become a more peaceful, present, and connected parent.

    What You'll Learn:

    • How to handle big decisions like whether to have another child using a process that reduces anxiety and stress.

    • The key differences between peaceful, dominant, and permissive parenting and why setting rules helps kids feel safe and secure.

    • How to apply peaceful parenting techniques to pets, ensuring consistency in how you show up as a leader.

    • The importance of healing your own childhood wounds and how it affects the way you parent.

    • How peaceful parenting impacts all relationships, not just the one with your kids, but with your partner, colleagues, and friends too.

    • Lisa’s personal influences and top book recommendations, from Victor Frankel to Byron Katie, that shape her coaching style and philosophy.

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    1 hr and 1 min