Even in today's modern age, not many people openly talk about sex with their partner or their family members and friends. Discussions around sex require vulnerability which people are not always willing to do. Sex and pleasure are nuanced and personal. It's magical, and it's different for all of us. 

In this episode, Cyndi Darnell sheds light on the topic of sex that very few have done before, and that's by providing an unlearning of the messages and conditioning we've been fed, no matter our sexual preference or gender. She offers a new way of expanding our vision around desire and eroticism. Cyndi is a relationship therapist, clinical sexologist, and leading authority on desire and libido. She is the author of the new book, Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. To learn more, visit cyndidarnell.com. 

Join Stacey and Cyndi as they engage in a raw, deep, freeing conversation about sex that will make you think, what if everything we've been taught about sex is untrue?

“Sex is not the center of the universe, but it's a pretty big piece of the universe, and while we pretend that sex doesn't matter, we gloss over some of the most important opportunities for reflective connection that a human has.”

- Cyndi Darnell

 In This Episode:

- 00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay

- 02:06 What drove Cyndi to write the book, “Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It?”

- 05:25 What's the disconnect with feeling obliged to have sex with your partner even when you don't feel like it?

- 11:35 What is it about sex that Cyndi wants readers to explore and unveil?

- 20:13 What does “genderized sex” mean, and what's the problem with that?

- 26:57 What is eroticism, and how do we discover our “erotic templates” for ourselves?

Resources:

- Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell

Connect with Cyndi Darnell:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

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Women's bodies start to change when we reach the age of 40. As a result, many women begin experiencing joint and muscle pains that affect their lifestyle. But it doesn't have to be that way. There are many ways to have a pain-free and fit lifestyle, even in your forties and beyond. Today, Lynya Floyd speaks with Lindsay Wenndt, founder of Break Free Fitness. Lindsay is a curvy women’s health coach and fitness trainer. She is also a certified senior fitness specialist and an orthopedic (joint pain) specialist who has taught over 10,000 classes, teaching women how to live healthy lifestyles.

In this episode, Lindsay reveals the exact hormones that are tied to hunger and sex and the super simple things you can do to influence both of them. She talks us through her quick exercise that will strengthen your orgasm and the best hacks for keeping your workouts simple, fast, and fun! Lindsay also shares her two favorite moves for strengthening muscles and bones. The bonus is that one of those moves will have your partner saying they hate to see you go but love to watch you leave. You will change how you look at your body after listening to this episode so let's dive into this very fit and fun conversation. 

“I will never ever tell you to lose weight or that you're wrong or insufficient in any way. Your body is beautiful, and the changes that your body is going through are beautiful and totally normal.”

- Lindsay Wenndt

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction from today's host, Lynya Floyd

02:42 Everybody knows that your body starts to change after 40. What exactly is happening?

10:29 How does the way we need to exercise change after 40?

15:05 What happens between the sheets? What does fitness have to do with what happens inside the bedroom?

18:10 Here are more moves and stretches you can do (follow along as Lindsay does a demo)

21:25 How do we encourage ourselves to stick to a fitness routine even when we don't feel like doing it?

24:25 How did Lindsay start her business, and what did she do to become confident as a curvy woman in what is traditionally considered a skinny industry?

29:01 Lindsay shares some of her successful client stories, specifically women over 40

32:03 More hacks and tips to make your fitness dreams come true

35:27 One thing you can do after listening to this episode to help you reap the benefits of being fit and healthy after 40

Resources:

- Get the 5 Tools to Relieve Pain Better, Faster, and Longer Than Ibuprofen

Connect with Lindsay Wenndt:

- Website

- LinkedIn

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

Sex is a topic that is not always discussed in everyday conversations. Today's episode is a deep dive into sexual health as Stacey interviews Dr. Holly Richmond, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist. She holds a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychology. This unique combination of professional credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes and their somatic (body-based) health. Dr. Richmond is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples, and gender-diverse individuals with relationship and sexuality issues. 

Her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, is a groundbreaking examination of somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ recovery. Dr. Holly is also a recognized writer and media specialist, with over 500 published works since beginning her career in journalism in 1994.

If you want to discover what you really want and ask for it, this episode is for you. 

“All sex is good sex as long as it's consensual and pleasurable.”

- Dr. Holly Richmond

 In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay

02:31 An overview of Dr. Holly's specialties

04:08 What does sex-positive mean?

05:38 Exploring what you want in your sexual life and what you want in “bed”

09:35 How do we know what we want?

11:08 Practices and questions you can ask yourself to discover what you want

12:33 How do you start to talk about what you want, whether it's kink or group sex, with your sexual partner?

16:58 What if you want something, but your partner does not want that? Where do you go from there?

19:42 Exercises and conversations we can have with ourselves to help unpack the shame and taboo around the topic of sexual pleasure

23:09 What is the advice for people in long-term commitments where one partner asks the other to spice things up?

24:36 What role does intimacy play in these conversations?

Resources:

- Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond, Ph.D.

- Modern Sex Therapy Institute: Programs, Certificates, and Specialties

Connect with Dr. Holly Richmond:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook