Even in today's modern age, not many people openly talk about sex with their partner or their family members and friends. Discussions around sex require vulnerability which people are not always willing to do. Sex and pleasure are nuanced and personal. It's magical, and it's different for all of us. 

In this episode, Cyndi Darnell sheds light on the topic of sex that very few have done before, and that's by providing an unlearning of the messages and conditioning we've been fed, no matter our sexual preference or gender. She offers a new way of expanding our vision around desire and eroticism. Cyndi is a relationship therapist, clinical sexologist, and leading authority on desire and libido. She is the author of the new book, Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. To learn more, visit cyndidarnell.com. 

Join Stacey and Cyndi as they engage in a raw, deep, freeing conversation about sex that will make you think, what if everything we've been taught about sex is untrue?

“Sex is not the center of the universe, but it's a pretty big piece of the universe, and while we pretend that sex doesn't matter, we gloss over some of the most important opportunities for reflective connection that a human has.”

- Cyndi Darnell

 In This Episode:

- 00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay

- 02:06 What drove Cyndi to write the book, “Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It?”

- 05:25 What's the disconnect with feeling obliged to have sex with your partner even when you don't feel like it?

- 11:35 What is it about sex that Cyndi wants readers to explore and unveil?

- 20:13 What does “genderized sex” mean, and what's the problem with that?

- 26:57 What is eroticism, and how do we discover our “erotic templates” for ourselves?

Resources:

- Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell

Connect with Cyndi Darnell:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

Women's bodies start to change when we reach the age of 40. As a result, many women begin experiencing joint and muscle pains that affect their lifestyle. But it doesn't have to be that way. There are many ways to have a pain-free and fit lifestyle, even in your forties and beyond. Today, Lynya Floyd speaks with Lindsay Wenndt, founder of Break Free Fitness. Lindsay is a curvy women’s health coach and fitness trainer. She is also a certified senior fitness specialist and an orthopedic (joint pain) specialist who has taught over 10,000 classes, teaching women how to live healthy lifestyles.

In this episode, Lindsay reveals the exact hormones that are tied to hunger and sex and the super simple things you can do to influence both of them. She talks us through her quick exercise that will strengthen your orgasm and the best hacks for keeping your workouts simple, fast, and fun! Lindsay also shares her two favorite moves for strengthening muscles and bones. The bonus is that one of those moves will have your partner saying they hate to see you go but love to watch you leave. You will change how you look at your body after listening to this episode so let's dive into this very fit and fun conversation. 

“I will never ever tell you to lose weight or that you're wrong or insufficient in any way. Your body is beautiful, and the changes that your body is going through are beautiful and totally normal.”

- Lindsay Wenndt

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction from today's host, Lynya Floyd

02:42 Everybody knows that your body starts to change after 40. What exactly is happening?

10:29 How does the way we need to exercise change after 40?

15:05 What happens between the sheets? What does fitness have to do with what happens inside the bedroom?

18:10 Here are more moves and stretches you can do (follow along as Lindsay does a demo)

21:25 How do we encourage ourselves to stick to a fitness routine even when we don't feel like doing it?

24:25 How did Lindsay start her business, and what did she do to become confident as a curvy woman in what is traditionally considered a skinny industry?

29:01 Lindsay shares some of her successful client stories, specifically women over 40

32:03 More hacks and tips to make your fitness dreams come true

35:27 One thing you can do after listening to this episode to help you reap the benefits of being fit and healthy after 40

Resources:

- Get the 5 Tools to Relieve Pain Better, Faster, and Longer Than Ibuprofen

Connect with Lindsay Wenndt:

- Website

- LinkedIn

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

Sex is a topic that is not always discussed in everyday conversations. Today's episode is a deep dive into sexual health as Stacey interviews Dr. Holly Richmond, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist. She holds a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychology. This unique combination of professional credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes and their somatic (body-based) health. Dr. Richmond is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples, and gender-diverse individuals with relationship and sexuality issues. 

Her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, is a groundbreaking examination of somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ recovery. Dr. Holly is also a recognized writer and media specialist, with over 500 published works since beginning her career in journalism in 1994.

If you want to discover what you really want and ask for it, this episode is for you. 

“All sex is good sex as long as it's consensual and pleasurable.”

- Dr. Holly Richmond

 In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay

02:31 An overview of Dr. Holly's specialties

04:08 What does sex-positive mean?

05:38 Exploring what you want in your sexual life and what you want in “bed”

09:35 How do we know what we want?

11:08 Practices and questions you can ask yourself to discover what you want

12:33 How do you start to talk about what you want, whether it's kink or group sex, with your sexual partner?

16:58 What if you want something, but your partner does not want that? Where do you go from there?

19:42 Exercises and conversations we can have with ourselves to help unpack the shame and taboo around the topic of sexual pleasure

23:09 What is the advice for people in long-term commitments where one partner asks the other to spice things up?

24:36 What role does intimacy play in these conversations?

Resources:

- Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond, Ph.D.

- Modern Sex Therapy Institute: Programs, Certificates, and Specialties

Connect with Dr. Holly Richmond:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

Gynecological cancer is one of the leading causes of death in women. In the US, 100,000 cases are reported yearly, and 33,000 die from gynecological cancer annually. The numbers are significantly lower in the UK, but it is still a cause for concern. One of the major factors in the increasing number of cases is the lack of awareness and the stigma surrounding gynecological issues. So many of us don't even know what to ask our doctors. Plus, many women do not wish to undergo the often invasive screening procedure. Many are unaware that there are five types of gynecological cancer they can be susceptible to. So how can women get information and protect themselves? 

Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, Stacey Lindsay speaks with Athena Lamnisos of The Eve Appeal, a leading cancer charity funding research and raising awareness of early diagnosis and prevention of gynecological cancers. Getting earlier detection right will have the most significant impact in terms of saving women’s lives. Now is your chance to discover the truth about gynecological cancer and what you can do to better care for your body.

“If you have a cervix, you need to be screened.”

- Athena Lamnisos

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay

01:59 The mission and the work being done by Athena Lamnisos and her organization

06:43 What's the reason behind people's lack of awareness about the threat of gynecological cancer?

08:33 The five types of gynecological cancer, the risk factors, and the real reason women don't go on regular screening 

12:43 The importance of being comfortable talking about our bodies

15:59 What should we ask our doctors, and what body changes must we pay attention to?

18:25 Have you been vaccinated against this pretty evil little virus called HPV?

24:15 How can we minimize the shame around getting examined for possible gynecological issues?

30:00 A powerful message for nonbinary individuals, trans men, and women over 40 (and just about anyone with female reproductive organs)

33:59 Support the work that Athena is doing through The Eve Appeal

Resources:

- The Five Gynecological Cancers: A Brief Explainer

- Training Resources for GP and Community Nurses

Connect with Athena Lamnisos and The Eve Appeal:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

- YouTube

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

Perimenopause, the period leading up to menopause, occurs in most women in their 40s. This time usually comes with emotional and hormonal issues, as perimenopausal women experience menopause-like symptoms such as anxiety, depression, hot flashes, vaginal dryness, etc. Perimenopause is a natural part of the aging process. But it doesn't have to signal impending doom. On the contrary, perimenopause can actually be a fun phase in a woman's life, according to today's guest. 

Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, Meghan Rabbitt interviews Dr. Heather Bartos, an OBGYN based in Frisco, TX, and a leading voice in women's health. She is the founder of Badass Woman, Badass Health, and a proud pioneer of MindSHIFT medicine (the integration of mental, physical, and emotional health to care for the whole woman). 

Enjoy listening as Meghan and Dr. Bartos discuss the difference between perimenopause and menopause, hormone therapy, and what women need to know as they approach this period in their lives.

“What Mother Nature wanted for us was a time to reassess and reevaluate and, if we can ride perimenopause out, it's kinda what she's meant to do.”

- Dr. Heather Bartos, OBGYN

 In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction from Meghan Rabbitt

00:47 What you can expect from today's episode

02:20 What is the difference between perimenopause and menopause, and why should women in their 40s care?

04:25 Why and how does the perimenopause period vary for every woman? 

06:15 Let's talk about the biggest symptoms of perimenopause

07:57 What's happening hormonally during perimenopause?

09:48 What about women on hormonal birth control who do not have periods or other physical symptoms? How can they tell?

11:32 The myths about hormone treatment that many women still believe 

13:29 Why is it so important to treat perimenopausal symptoms?

15:21 Is there a correlation between puberty and menopause? 

16:48 How can women find an ally to support them during this time?

22:28 So, how do you really know where you are in this process? What tests should you have, or questions should you ask your OBGYN?

24:18 At what point do you need to undergo lab tests?

27:06 Women's thoughts about hormone treatment and the truth about it

30:39 What can perimenopausal women do to embrace this period in their life?

35:38 The real opportunity for women approaching the perimenopausal stage

Connect with Dr. Heather Bartos:

- Instagram

- Website

- Podcast

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

Have you ever felt constantly exhausted from saying YES to everything and everyone? Are you embarrassed to say NO and feel that you always have to explain yourself whenever you say that word? Do you always put yourself last and prioritize other people's feelings over your own? If you see yourself in any of these situations, this conversation is for you. 

Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In today's episode, Lynya Floyd interviews Wendy Sterling, a Divorce Coach, Author, Speaker, and Host of The Divorced Woman’s Guide Podcast. Wendy discovered that her divorce could be the most empowering experience she went through to find her authentic identity and voice, to design a life she loved. She has helped thousands of divorcees heal more quickly and move through their emotions to create a new life through her 5-Step Program, The Divorce Rehab. 

Tune in to discover how to set your boundaries, end the victim mindset, and start creating a vision for yourself based on what you want. It's time to stop being everyone's doormat and become a boundary-setting queen! Keep practicing!

“When you don't honor your boundary, you're just allowing yourself to become a doormat.”

- Wendy Sterling

 In This Episode:

00:00 What is this episode about?

00:42 Meet Wendy Sterling, Divorce Coach, Author, Speaker

02:59 Why are boundaries important? 

06:09 Why do women have difficulty creating boundaries?

08:14 Think about your core values 

12:49 Learn from what Wendy did when she realized she didn't have firm boundaries

17:22 Wendy shares how she became a divorce coach and how boundary work is tied to a difficult transitional phase in someone's life

23:20 Ask yourself this question: Why are you making other people your priority?

24:00 Discover the ways that we intentionally or unintentionally weaken our boundaries and the easiest (yet hardest) way to set a boundary

29:43 What else can we do to strengthen our boundaries? It's easier than you think.

33:43 Simple yet powerful words or statements you can use to set firm boundaries

37:40 What is one action step you can take right now to establish your boundaries?

Resources:

- Download the 5 Steps to Start Setting Boundaries Today

Connect with Wendy Sterling:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

- TikTok

- Podcast

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook

“48% of women over 55 have not had any sexual contact in the last six months.” Can you believe it? If you're in this situation or your sexual relationship has become boring, listen up because today's episode aims to change everything. 

Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, award-winning journalist Lynya Floyd interviews Nadine Robinson, international bestselling author of The Holistic Entrepreneur: Creating Success with the Medicine of your Soul. Nadine is a visionary disruptor and a 9-figure entrepreneur who helps her clients experience a mystical, spiritual awakening that enables them to feel unshakeable confidence, diminished anxiety, and extraordinary control over their lives. 

Tune in to the juicy conversation about the top reasons women get bored in the bedroom and how to turn that around. Lynya and Nadine also talk about the surprising ways you may be leaking sexual energy. In addition, Nadine shares three questions every woman should ask herself that can revolutionize how you approach sex and why everyone woman needs to hone her sacred sexuality. So get ready to unlock your wildest possibilities today!

If you are interested in joining Nadine's Sex and Spirituality Membership Program, just email Connect@nadinerobinson.com to get a one-month free membership. 

“Your body is the vessel of pleasure. Your body is the vessel through which you experience life.”

- Nadine Robinson

In This Episode:

00:19 Meet Nadine Robinson, a Revolutionary Holistic Women's Health and Relationship Expert

02:59 Why is being bored with sex one of the top complaints women over 40 have?

05:33 Understanding your body and how it's constantly changing

08:04 How common is the boredom issue among couples?

09:01 How to go from the death of sex to that HOT YES sexual experience

09:21 The number one question you have to ask yourself: Why are you having sex?

14:05 How do you define intimacy?

18:21 What is your relationship to pleasure?

21:46 How do you avoid falling into the sexual rut? Nadine recommends a few exercises to turn things around. 

24:21 Free bleeding and its benefit to your body 

26:29 What is sacred sexuality? 

28:14 The opposite of sacred sexuality

29:17 What are some ways women can embrace sacred sexuality?

31:45 Who are the people you need to help you understand your body and sexuality?

34:57 If there's only one thing you can do to help spark your sexual pleasure, what would it be? 

Resources:

- The Holistic Entrepreneur: Creating Success with the Medicine of your Soul by Nadine Robinson

- Get a one-month free membership to Nadine's Sex and Spirituality Membership Program - Email: Connect@nadinerobinson.com

Connect with Nadine Robinson:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

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Sex and relationships are among the most difficult topics to discuss, especially in conservative environments where sexual talk is shunned. Most women are ashamed to start having an intimate conversation with their partner, sacrificing their sexual happiness in the process. Who can they turn to for help without the fear of being shamed?

Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, we have Rachel Zar, a couple and family therapist, and an AASECT-certified sex therapist. She practices an integrative, warm and direct approach based on current therapeutic and medical research. Her style is creative, non-judgmental, and collaborative, and she provides a safe place for her clients to talk about their situations without feeling judged. 

Join us as we talk about the common reasons people see a sex therapist and the answers to such concerns. Enjoy the episode!

“It's not just a myth, but sex really can get better with age.”

- Rachel Zar

 In This Episode:

00:00 Meet Rachel Zar, AASECT-certified sex therapist

02:55 What exactly does a sex therapist do, and how does Rachel's practice differ from traditional therapy or other forms of treatment?

04:16 Is there still a stigma around talking about sex, or is society more open to this aspect today?

06:20 How to start broaching the topic of sex therapy to your partner

11:40 The most common reasons people see a sex therapist 

20:05 What can long-term couples do to rekindle the fire 

24:15 Is there anything in your life that is not scheduled? Then, there's no reason you should not schedule intimacy with your partner, like any other important things you put on your calendar

27:10 A few more pieces of advice to keep your sexual relationship fun and exciting 

31:10 How to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies

36:49 What response do you expect when sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner?

38:34 Rachel shares some advice for women over 40 regarding sexual health and well-being

Resources:

- Five Questions Sex Therapists Are Asked All the Time—Answered by Rachel Zar, LMFT, CST

Connect with Rachel Zar:

- Website

- Instagram

- Facebook

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:

- Instagram

- Website

- Facebook