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The Covert Narcissism Podcast

The Covert Narcissism Podcast

By: Renee Swanson Bleav
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Covert narcissistic abuse crushes one’s soul. This podcast is devoted to understanding covert narcissistic abuse, its effect on the victims, and how to heal.Renee Swanson Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Fix-It Mode and the Trauma Bond: When Love Becomes Survival
    Jun 1 2025

    Why is it so hard to leave — even when you know the relationship is toxic?

    In this powerful episode, we expose the hidden truth behind trauma bonding with a covert narcissist. It’s not just emotional confusion — it’s chemical addiction. You’re not addicted to the person; you’re addicted to the highs, the relief, the dopamine rush that follows emotional chaos. And while you're chasing connection, they’re chasing something else entirely: your Fix-It Mode.

    We’ll break down the neuroscience of trauma bonding, explore why your empathy is being exploited, and uncover why the narcissist needs to keep collapsing — just to keep you engaged. This isn’t love. It’s survival mode.

    If you’ve ever felt trapped in the cycle of emotional whiplash — adored one moment, blamed the next — this episode will help you see the pattern for what it is… and finally begin to break free.

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    24 mins
  • Trying Too Hard to Fix It: When Enough Finally Becomes Enough
    May 29 2025

    If you’ve been bending over backwards trying to fix a relationship that keeps breaking you… this episode is for you.

    Today, I’m sharing a personal story about the moment I was asked a question that stopped me in my tracks: “Can you honestly say you’ve done everything you know to do?” That one question made me face the truth — not about the relationship, but about how much of myself I had been pouring into something that couldn’t be repaired by effort alone.

    In this episode, we explore:

    • Why survivors of covert narcissistic abuse try so hard to fix what isn’t fixable

    • How over-functioning keeps us stuck in one-sided emotional labor

    • What “giving it your all” really means — and what it doesn’t

    • The illusion of the “one right book, podcast, or article” that will finally make them change

    • The moment you realize you’ve done enough — even if they never did

    • How to stop proving your pain and start honoring your healing

    You don’t have to wait until you’re completely broken to say, “That’s enough.”
    You’re allowed to stop trying when your trying is costing you your peace, your clarity, and your self-worth.

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    13 mins
  • Dreading the Weekend: The Backwards Reality of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
    May 25 2025

    If you find yourself dreading the weekend and breathing easier on Monday mornings, you might be living in the upside-down world of covert narcissistic abuse.

    In this powerful episode, we explore what it’s like to live with a covert narcissist whose presence turns weekends into emotional minefields. While others relax and recharge, you're managing moods, walking on eggshells, and just trying to make it through.

    We’ll walk through the emotional rhythm of the week — from the sweet relief of Monday morning to the quiet panic of Friday afternoons — and explain why this backwards cycle is not only real, but a key sign of emotional abuse.

    You'll also learn a simple but transformative mindset tool I teach my clients called “popcorn moments” — a way to regain your sanity by observing the chaos instead of getting pulled into it.

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    23 mins
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love this podcast can finally get some form of validation for what I was experiencing.

clarity...

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Great information and stories! Eye opening not only about CNs but also healthy self reflection. Love it

Empowering

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Wow, I can’t say enough about this podcast. As someone who has been married to a covert narc for 16 years Renee Swanson covers all the bases and checks all the boxes on CN. I had my doubts if my wife was really a CN but after listening to a few episodes I’m as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow that this is exactly what I’m dealing with. So accurate it’s scary.

The audio Bible of covert narcissism

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This entire podcast has opened my eyes and changed my perspective on what I thought was just a normal way of living, despite feeling and knowing that something wasn't right. thank you Renee Swanson for being vulnerable and open about your life so that the FOG could be lifted from my eyes. May God continually bless you for what you are doing.

Enlightening!

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