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If you’ve ever felt lost, wondering “Who am I now?” after your marriage ended, trust me…you’re not alone. Let’s be real: divorce can shake us to our core, leaving us feeling like we’ve lost sight of who we truly are. We spend years filling roles like ‘wife,’ ‘mother,’ or even ‘perfect partner,’ and often forget the badass woman we once were.

But here’s the good news: divorce is your chance to reinvent yourself, and in this episode, I’m diving deep into exactly how to do that.

We explore how to shed the labels that no longer serve you and embrace the most empowered, authentic version of yourself. I’m talking about stepping into your new identity with confidence and fierceness, like Beyoncé stepping into Sasha Fierce 🔥

I’ll guide you through visualising the highest version of yourself, creating your very own alter ego to embody that badass queen inside you, and showing up as her in every aspect of your life. This is about more than just "moving on"...it’s about reclaiming your power, rewriting your narrative, and building a future that excites you.

So buckle up, and let’s learn to be it until you see it, transforming your post-divorce life into the best chapter yet.

And whilst we’re all about becoming even more badass…. We’ve started October’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.

You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Ruth is an amazing Coach who I’ve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ❤️

I’d love to have you join us. We started on 4 October but it’s NEVER too late to join as the whole back catalogue is available for all members 📚

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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In this week’s episode of the Divorce Chapter, I dive deep into the topic of emotional affairs and the ‘silent’ betrayal. While physical affairs often steal the spotlight, 'invisible' emotional betrayal can be just as devastating, if not more so.

I explore how these affairs often start as innocent friendships, slowly evolving into something more significant, ultimately crossing boundaries of trust and intimacy. We’ll discuss the signs of an emotional affair, the betrayal it represents, and the lasting impact it can have.

But most importantly, I focus on how we can heal after discovering an emotional affair. If you’ve walked away from a cheating partner, I share tools for validating your emotions, rebuilding trust in yourself, and creating a new future. Whether it’s self-compassion, setting boundaries, or finding closure within yourself, healing is possible—and I’m here to guide you through the process.

Let’s talk about reclaiming your power, because you deserve better 👑

And whilst we’re all about turning divorce into our superpower…. We’ve chosen October’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.

You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Ruth is an amazing Coach who I’ve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ❤️

I’d love to have you join us 📚

We start on 1 October.

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop after your divorce? Replaying the past over and over again? Wondering why it’s so hard to let go and move forward?

In this episode, I get real about the emotional and psychological blocks we face post-divorce—fear of loneliness, guilt, shame, and that never-ending “what if” thinking.

I’ve been there, too. I know how hard it can be to stop reliving the past and start embracing the future. That’s why I’m diving deep into why these blocks happen and, more importantly, how to kick them to the curb so you can truly move on.

Here’s what you can expect from this episode:

- The fear of being alone and why it keeps us clinging to the past

- How guilt and shame show up and block our growth

- The “what if” trap and why it makes moving on feel impossible

- Practical tools like cord cutting and mindset shifts to help you reclaim your life

I’d love to hear your thoughts after you listen! Do let me know which block resonates with you the most, and what you’re doing to overcome it. We’re all in this together, and I’m here to support you every step of the way.

I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you 🥰

And if you’re wanting to go even more into clearing what holds us back, why not check out October’s book in the Divorce Book Club: How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.

You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Ruth is an amazing Coach who I’ve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ❤️

The book blurb states:

When we feel broken we look to be fixed, we consume books, have therapy, diet, whatever it takes! BUT true self development is not about being 'fixed' it's about accepting the parts of yourself and then enhancing who we already are.

Focusing on evidence-based approaches, Ruth will teach you how to not just read about, but truly integrate personal development work. She'll take you through 4 key questions that encourage both self-reflection and include action-oriented tasks that will help you create sustainable results.

1. What do you want?

2. Where are you now?

3. How do you get to where you want to be?

4. How do you stay there?

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start on 1 October.

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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OK so this week is a bit of a hopefully powerful, but definitely no-holds-barred conversation about reclaiming your strength and exposing male privilege in relationships. I may go ever so slightly off-piste on my soapbox (!) but I genuinely feel that it is important that we talk about this stuff.

We talk in the episode about how male privilege impacts not just relationships, but society as a whole. What are the ‘modern’ views on gender norms? And what does this mean for power and control of women? We touch on issues like the rise of the "trad wife" trend and how societal shifts still struggle to break free from patriarchal values.

Using the Power and Control Wheel, we look at the influence of male privilege in abusive dynamics and how this can fuel this control over women - but also how this is almost facilitated by our societal culture.

As a bit of an intro to all of this, we also touch on why Friday the 13th is secretly a day of female power (and how to reclaim it!) 👑

Whether you’re navigating the challenges of divorce, supporting a friend through it, or simply interested in a bit of thought-provoking conversation on how women can reclaim their power, challenge traditional roles, and rewrite their stories, especially post-divorce, this episode offers some insights into recognising different forms of control and inspiring women to take charge of their lives with confidence.

This is an example of the Power and Control Wheel:

https://www.norfolk.gov.uk/article/43699/Power-and-control-wheel

Also, as always, please please please do seek the proper support:

Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.

https://refuge.org.uk/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/

These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in.

I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you 🥰

And if you’re wanting to go even more into taking back our power and owning our independence, why not check out September’s book (Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott) in the Divorce Book Club; the link is down below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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Ever wish you could rewrite the past? Sadly, we can’t turn back time, but we can definitely rewrite our future—and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today.

In this episode, I break down Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s game-changing book, “It’s Not You”. This book is an absolute MUST-read if you’ve ever found yourself tangled up with a narcissist, whether it’s an ex, a parent, or even a boss.

In this overview of the book, we pull out the different types of narcissism, and look at how to identify these toxic traits; as well as the devastating impact they can have, and most importantly, how to reclaim your life.

If you’re ready to stop playing the narcissist’s game and start writing your own story, this episode is for you.

I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you 🥰

And if you’re wanting to go deeper into this book or any of the past books - plus get VIP access to September’s book (Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott) the link is down below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then, sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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After a divorce, many of us expect the worst of our emotional struggles to be over. But, as I've come to understand through my own journey and conversations with others, the first relationship after a divorce can bring a heartbreak that’s unexpected and uniquely f*cking painful.

In this episode, I dive into why this post-divorce heartbreak can feel even more intense than the divorce itself. I explore the emotional layers involved, from unresolved trauma to the pressures we put on ourselves to find happiness again. Most importantly, I discuss ways to navigate this pain and use it as a catalyst for healing and growth.

I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you 🥰

And if you’re ready for next level healing and truly turning the divorce plot twist into a magical happily ever after, why not come and join us in the Divorce Book Club….

We start September’s book on 1 September but all back episodes are there for all members to catch up if you need it.

So September’s book is….. (drum roll)

Getting Past your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J Elliott.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0738213284/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

The blurb says:

It’s over—and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.

Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, she’ll help you put your energy back where it belongs—on you. Her plan includes:

• The rules of disengagement: how and why to go “no contact” with your ex
• How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life
• The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships
• What to do when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house

Now, THAT sounds like a super build to me! Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

The link to join etc. is also below ⬇️

Until next week then, sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, I reflect on the challenges of coping with anniversaries after a divorce. As someone who's been through the utter shitshow of a marriage ending, I know first-hand how difficult these days can be, especially in that first year.

Anniversaries, such as your wedding date or other significant milestones shared with your ex, can bring a FLOOD of emotions—sadness, anger, or even a sense of loss for the future you once planned.

I delve into why these dates are so emotionally charged, and how they can trigger feelings of grief and nostalgia. I also share my own experiences with significant anniversaries, like how I dealt with my first wedding anniversary post-divorce by escaping to Cyprus and then making a decision to change my goddamn life.

Hopefully you’ll be able to get a few ideas too about how to plan ahead to reclaim the date and reclaim gorgeous YOU ❤️

In the episode, I also celebrate a new anniversary - the first one of this podcast. I never ever thought I’d be saying that but here we are and it’s all thanks to you as a wonderful listener.

Thank you thank you thank you 🥰

Here’s to another year of our next chapter 🌸

So much love,

Sarah x

P.S. We’ve also chosen September’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott has cropped up on my TBR list for the book club several times so it must be a sign 📚

The blurb says:

It’s over—and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.

You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0738213284/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start 1 September.

Link to join below ⬇️

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter

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In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. That’s why I’ve highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship.

1. Physical Violence

2. Verbal Abuse

3. Emotional Manipulation (plus DARVO explained)

4. Isolation

5. Control

6. Jealousy

7. Blame Shifting

8. Intimidation.

9. Financial Abuse

10. Sexual Abuse

11. Gaslighting

12. Threats

13. Punishing Behaviour

14. Digital/Technology Abuse

15. Unpredictable Behaviour

Each of these signs is a red flag in a relationship and can lead to a destructive cycle of abuse. My aim in this episode is to help recognise the signs and the patterns, whether that’s in your own relationships or in those around you. I really want to empower listeners to identify and break free from these harmful dynamics.

But I do know it’s not easy to get out and I also know that post separation abuse is another added worry…. So please please please do seek the proper support:

Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.

https://refuge.org.uk/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/

These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in.

And also, this month in the Divorce Book Club we are reading It’s Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss) and this book is also amazing for highlighting abuse in relationships. You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We started 1 August (but it’s never too late to join as access to all previous books and chapters available to all members)

Link to join below ⬇️

So until next week,

Sending you SO much love and please take care of you

Sarah x

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THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

INSTAGRAM

https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter