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The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

By: Kate Anthony CPCC
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On the Divorce Survival Guide Podcast we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go? Hosted by Kate Anthony, your Divorce Survival Guide.©2019-2025 Kate Anthony CPCC, all rights reserved Personal Development Personal Success Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Episode 333: If there's a playbook for them, there's a playbook for YOU
    Jul 24 2025

    If you’ve been in a narcissistic, emotionally abusive, or coercively controlling relationship, you may think you’re alone in your confusion and trauma. After working with thousands of women, however, I can assure you that abusers are all operating out of the same playbook. The gaslighting, the love bombing, the silent treatment? The patterns are actually completely predictable. It’s called the Abuser’s Playbook. And if there’s a playbook for them, there’s a playbook for you, too.

    In this solo episode, I walk you through ten of the most common tactics abusers use and more importantly, how to counter each one. This isn’t about changing them. This is about keeping yourself safe, reclaiming your sanity, and taking your power back.

    The 10 common tactics narcissistic abusers use (and what you’ll hear about in this episode):

    1. Love bombing and future faking that keeps you hooked and how to track the cycle

    2. Gaslighting that erodes your sense of reality and how to ground yourself in the truth

    3. Projection that flips the blame onto you and how to recognize what’s actually theirs

    4. Triangulation that isolates you and how to stay rooted in your own perspective

    5. Hoovering that pulls you back in and how to hold your boundary when it feels impossible

    6. Smear campaigns that twist your story and how to stay steady when your reputation is under attack

    7. Threats and intimidation that instill fear and how to protect yourself and plan ahead

    8. Stonewalling and silent treatment that punish you and how to stop chasing their approval

    9. Baiting and rage that push you to the edge and how to respond without losing yourself

    10. Financial abuse that traps you and how to begin reclaiming control

    ➡ Download The Survivor’s Playbook at KateAnthony.com/playbook

    Resources & Links:
    Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate
    The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle
    Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
    How He’ll Likely React Bingo card
    Kate on Instagram @kateanthony_divorcecoach
    Kate on Facebook
    The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage

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    DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

    Episode link:
    https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-333-if-theres-a-playbook-for-them-theres-a-playbook-for-you/

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    50 mins
  • Episode 332: Divorce, Menopause, and Medical Gaslighting with Kathy Gould
    Jul 17 2025

    Why are women’s health concerns still being dismissed and what can we do about it?

    The healthcare system was not built for women. For many of us, especially in midlife, our health concerns are dismissed, misunderstood, or flat-out ignored. And when you’re navigating the storm of divorce at the same time as perimenopause or menopause? It can feel like you’re unraveling.

    I’m joined by Phoenix Rising member Kathy Gould, a holistic health coach, personal trainer, life coach, lactation consultant, and current grad student finishing her second Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy. (I’m telling you, the women in Phoenix Rising are BADASS!)

    This episode started as a guest expert session inside Phoenix Rising (my divorce empowerment collective for women). The conversation was so powerful, I knew I had to bring it to the podcast.

    Kathy and I get into why the medical system has failed women, how we’ve been gaslit about our own bodies, and what it looks like to take our power back especially during times of massive upheaval like divorce. We are not meant to go through this quietly, and we are certainly not meant to go through it alone.

    What you’ll hear about in this episode:

    • Why women’s health is dismissed, especially in midlife (6:11)

    • The deep need for more open, supportive conversations around our wellness (12:14)

    • The long-standing misconceptions about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) (16:41)

    • What Kathy recommends for women going through both divorce and menopause at the same time (35:15)

    • How to advocate for yourself when doctors aren’t listening (especially if they’re covered by insurance) (41:59)

    Learn more about Kathy Gould: Kathy is an integrative holistic health coach, life coach and personal trainer. She is also a certified lactation consultant. She holds a Masters Degree in Health Psychology and is currently finishing a second Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Kathy is passionate about women's health and wellness and has dedicated her career to women's physical and emotional wellness.

    Resources & Links:
    Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate
    The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle
    Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

    Kathy’s website
    Kathy on Instagram

    NY Times Article: Women Have Been Misled About Menopause

    Menopause Barbie on YouTube: Dr. Barbara Taylor

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    DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

    Episode link:
    https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-332-divorce-menopause-and-medical-gaslighting-with-kathy-gould/

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    50 mins
  • Episode 331: The Overfunctioning Woman with Dr. Ashley Southard
    Jul 10 2025

    Have you ever felt like if you don’t do it, it just won’t get done? Like the relationship, the parenting, the emotional glue that holds everything together is your job? You might be an overfunctioning woman and this episode is your loving (but no-nonsense) invitation to finally let it go.

    I’m joined by Dr. Ashley Southard, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over two decades of experience, who has lived the overfunctioning pattern in her own life and now helps women heal from it. We talk about what it really means to carry more than your fair share in a relationship, and how that relentless push to keep things going (when your partner won’t meet you halfway) can cost you your sanity, your health, and your sense of self.

    If you’re tired, burnt out, and wondering why your relationships feel like so much work, it might be time to stop proving your worth and start receiving real love. And if your partner doesn’t rise when you stop overfunctioning? That’s information. The question becomes: what are you willing to do about it?

    Here’s what else we discuss in this episode:

    • What overfunctioning really is and how it’s even rooted in emotional labor and patriarchy (4:10)

    • How underfunctioning shows up in a partner (think: not pulling their weight emotionally) (12:42)

    • Why an overfunctioning woman needs an underfunctioning partner (17:56)

    • How to begin healing from overfunctioning by stepping back, tolerating discomfort, and rebuilding a relationship with yourself (20:07)

    • What it means to become a Self-Restored Woman: As Dr. Ashley says, “A woman who no longer works for breadcrumbs and knows she’s worthy of a feast.” (32:42)

    • The Great Rest: what your nervous system does when you finally stop overfunctioning (36:52)

    • A few small but powerful first steps if you’re starting to identify with this pattern and want to make a change (40:07)

    Learn more about Dr. Ashley Southard: Dr. Ashley Southard is a psychotherapist in Scottsdale, AZ, specializing in The Overfunctioning Woman in Love who is struggling with the confusing, exhausting, and lonely dynamics of a one-sided, unfulfilling love relationship. With over 20 years of clinical experience treating complex trauma, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and relationship issues, coupled with her own personal journey out of Overfunctioning, Dr. Ashley loves nothing more than creating an emotionally safe space for women to discover that they are not ‘crazy’ or ‘broken’…and that they have the power to become the Self-Restored Woman they were always meant to be!

    Dr. Ashley is also very active on Instagram, offering life-changing information to “make sense out of the nonsense.” She has amassed a strong following of women who are remembering their power, learning how to come back home to themselves, and healing in community with other Self-Restoring women.

    Resources & Links:
    Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate
    The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle
    Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
    Dr. Ashley’s website

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    DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

    Episode link:
    https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-331-the-overfunctioning-woman-with-dr-ashley-southard/

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    45 mins
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I can not recommend this series enough - for women in the middle of the eye of storm in a divorce, for women who need more knowledge and information in a controlling marriage, and heck, even for women who are engaged and set to marry. Knowledge is power, sharing information makes us (women) go further and be more successful. I wish I had access to this BEFORE my married my spouse...
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I love how knowledgeable and trauma-informed the host and guests are, and how uplifting and holistic the podcast episodes are, without being in any way forced.

The host Kate is wonderful - inspired, sensitive, open and honest.

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