If you’ve ever wondered why calm feels uncomfortable—or even wrong—after living in chaos for so long, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when your nervous system gets wired to expect betrayal, emotional abuse, and survival mode… and how real peace can actually feel threatening at first. I’ll share a personal story from my own healing and walk you through why this happens and what to do about it.

Whether you're post-divorce or still in the thick of it, this is for you if you're ready to stop mistaking the absence of chaos for true peace—and start actually feeling safe in your body again.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why peace can feel like disorientation, not relief

• How trauma conditions your nervous system to seek chaos

• The difference between shutdown, numbness, and real peace

• How to gently begin rewiring your body for calm, safety, and trust

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📍 Dating From Within WorkshopJune 12–14 | 6–8pm CST (Live Zoom)Learn how to date yourself first, reconnect with who you really are, and feel confident before dating again. Whether you’re dating, not ready yet, or somewhere in between—this workshop will meet you there.👉 ⁠Click here to register⁠

📍 Believing In You Group CoachingReady to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠Reserve your spot⁠

📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠

📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠Check it out here⁠

📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠Learn more + enroll⁠

🎁 FREE SUPPORT + RESOURCES

💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.

💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠Click here⁠

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey

Need support ?📩 ⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠

#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo

Feeling overwhelmed or stuck in survival mode? In this episode, I share why creating a simple, intentional healing routine can help calm your nervous system, ease ruminating thoughts, and rebuild a sense of safety after betrayal and divorce.

We’ll explore:

• Why your brain and body crave predictability after trauma

• How small routines (like brushing your teeth with intention) can become powerful healing tools

• The difference between a habit and a healing ritual

• Easy, grounding practices you can start today—even if you’re feeling paralyzed

This isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what you already do, just with intention.

You are the creator of your life. Let your routine remind you of that.

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📍 Dating From Within Workshop
June 12–14 | 6–8pm CST (Live Zoom)
Learn how to date yourself first, reconnect with who you really are, and feel confident before dating again. Whether you’re dating, not ready yet, or somewhere in between—this workshop will meet you there.
👉 Click here to register

📍 Believing In You Group Coaching
Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!
👉 Reserve your spot

📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced Guide
Feeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.
🎯 Start by taking the quiz

📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced Course
Want real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.
👉 Check it out here

📍 Should I Stay or Go? Course
This guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.
👉 Learn more + enroll

🎁 FREE SUPPORT + RESOURCES

💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.

💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?
Book a consult: Click here

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.
📲 Follow me on social:
Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey

Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com

#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo

If you’re scared to date again, you’re not broken—you’re wise. After betrayal or toxic relationships, your nervous system remembers. And it’s doing everything it can to protect you from being hurt again.
But here’s the thing:
You’re not meant to jump back into dating before you come home to yourself first.
The real work isn’t swiping or dressing cute for someone new.
The real work is this:
🌱 Understanding your own patterns
🌱 Healing what you didn’t cause but still carry
🌱 Cultivating safety within so you can feel safe with someone else
Dating From Within isn’t just a workshop.
It’s a reset. A reclamation. A return to self.
If you want to date again—but only when it’s from alignment, clarity, and truth—
Then this is for you.
You get to stop fearing the next chapter.
And start writing it with intention.

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Why does healing after betrayal feel so exhausting? Why does it take so long? In this episode, I unpack what’s really underneath the question, “Why is this so hard?”—and why trying to rush your healing is actually working against you.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now” or “Maybe this is just how life is now,” I speak directly to that part of you. I’ll help you reframe hard not as a sign that you're broken—but as a normal part of the healing journey after betrayal, abuse, and divorce. We’ll talk about grief, trauma responses, and the difference between acceptance and apathy, so you can stop bracing for the next hard thing and start reclaiming your agency.

This episode is your reminder: you're not failing at healing—you're just human.

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📍 Dating From Within WorkshopJune 12–14 | 6–8pm CST (Live Zoom)Learn how to date yourself first, reconnect with who you really are, and feel confident before dating again. Whether you’re dating, not ready yet, or somewhere in between—this workshop will meet you there.👉 ⁠Click here to register⁠

📍 Believing In You Group CoachingReady to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠Reserve your spot⁠

📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠

📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠Check it out here⁠

📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠Learn more + enroll⁠

🎁 FREE SUPPORT + RESOURCES

💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.

💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠Click here⁠

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey

Need support ?📩 ⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠

#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo

I diving deep into one of the most painful emotional experiences—rejection—and how it uniquely impacts women healing from betrayal trauma, emotional abuse, and divorce. This isn’t just about getting ghosted or overlooked. For betrayed women, rejection is a body-level experience, echoing decades-old wounds and signaling danger to the nervous system—even when there’s no immediate threat.If the thought of dating again terrifies you… if you shrink yourself to avoid conflict… if you find yourself over-giving, over-performing, or preemptively rejecting yourself—this episode is for you.I’ll walk you through the neuroscience, the trauma patterns, and the deeper truths about why rejection hits so hard and how you can begin to change your relationship with it, gently and powerfully.

• Why rejection isn’t just emotional

• What self-rejection looks like (and how to stop doing it)

• Why avoiding rejection keeps you stuck in isolation—not safety

• How to heal rejection through micro-exposures, nervous system regulation, and daily self-validation

  
  This is about learning to stay with yourself—no matter who stays or leaves.✨ Want to go deeper?

My Dating From Within workshop is happening

June 12–14. You’ll get support to rebuild trust in yourself, recognize red and green flags, and truly date from within. Sign up at amiewoolsey.com.

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📍 Dating From Within WorkshopJune 12–14 | 6–8pm CST (Live Zoom)Learn how to date yourself first, reconnect with who you really are, and feel confident before dating again. Whether you’re dating, not ready yet, or somewhere in between—this workshop will meet you there.👉 ⁠Click here to register⁠

📍 Believing In You Group CoachingReady to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠Reserve your spot⁠

📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠

📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠Check it out here⁠

📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠Learn more + enroll⁠

🎁 FREE SUPPORT + RESOURCES

💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.

💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠Click here⁠

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey

Need support ?📩 ⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠

#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo

In this deeply personal episode, I’m opening up about the kind of grief no one really talks about—lonely grief after divorce. Whether it’s parenting alone, sitting through holidays that don’t feel the same, grieving anniversaries in silence, or watching your kids grow up without a partner to share the emotional weight, this kind of grief is real and valid. If you’ve ever felt unseen in your grief—especially as a divorced mom navigating co-parenting, blended families, or doing it all on your own—this episode is for you. I’ll share my own stories of what it looks like to grieve in the quiet moments, from hallway tears to high school graduations, and validate that even if you’re not part of a “we” anymore, you are not alone in your loneliness. This is a must-listen for anyone healing from divorce, betrayal, or the loss of the life they thought they’d have.

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📍 Dating From Within WorkshopJune 12–14 | 6–8pm CST (Live Zoom)Learn how to date yourself first, reconnect with who you really are, and feel confident before dating again. Whether you’re dating, not ready yet, or somewhere in between—this workshop will meet you there.👉 ⁠Click here to register⁠

📍 Believing In You Group CoachingReady to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠Reserve your spot⁠

📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠

📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠Check it out here⁠

📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠Learn more + enroll⁠

🎁 FREE SUPPORT + RESOURCES

💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.

💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠Click here⁠

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey

Need support ?📩 ⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠

#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful teaching from one of my live Q&A sessions where we unpacked the real reasons grief still shows up—even when you're the one who initiated the divorce or knew it was the right thing. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, Why am I still grieving? Shouldn’t I be over this by now?—this is the conversation you need.

I walk you through five core truths about grief after betrayal and divorce, including:

• Why grief doesn’t mean regret

• How you can grieve someone who was harmful

• Why unacknowledged grief leads to emotional paralysis

• How to use a grief inventory as a tool for clarity and healing

• Why the body needs to mourn too—because grief is stored somatically

We explore how to move through grief with more compassion and agency, and why making space for grief (instead of judging it) is essential to healing. If you’ve felt stuck, confused, or exhausted by the emotional layers of recovery—this episode will bring clarity, validation, and a path forward.

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⁠✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING ✨

📍 Dating From Within WorkshopJune 12–14 | 6–8pm CST (Live Zoom)Learn how to date yourself first, reconnect with who you really are, and feel confident before dating again. Whether you’re dating, not ready yet, or somewhere in between—this workshop will meet you there.👉 ⁠Click here to register⁠

📍 Believing In You Group CoachingReady to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠Reserve your spot⁠

📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠

📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠Check it out here⁠

📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠Learn more + enroll⁠

🎁 FREE SUPPORT + RESOURCES

💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.

💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠Click here⁠

🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey

Need support ?📩 ⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠

#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo