Goal setting "F" words.

Family

Fitness

Finances

Faith

Fun

Future

Friends

You can use these "F" words as a jumping off point to create objects/ intentions/ goals for your life and marriage.

We also challenge you to create a mission statement to share this Valentine's Day.  Simply write out what's important to you in your marriage and share it with your partner. 

Here's the deal. We can't take it personal. It's natural for girl's to want to cling to their famlies. (As long as their healthy.) AND . . . It's natural for the fellas to go wherever their wives lead. This can often cause unwelcome emotions during the holidays. But it doesnt have to. Tune in to listen to how we find balance and peace while shariung the kids. 

Segment 1- "How we met."

Brandy and Kyle share there individual 

Segment 2- "We couldn't make this ship up."

 Introducing a new reoccurring segment, called “We couldn’t make this ship up.”

This is where K & B share a situation they recently found themselves in and how they handled it. You are invited to give your  advice over on Instagram.

Instagram- @themarraigerenovation

Segment 3- "Dear Kyle." 

Episode 2 question: "Dear Kyle, when I ask my wife what she wants for holidays and her birthday she always says she doesn’t care. But It seems like she never really like what I get her. Or maybe she just likes returning stuff or giving it away to her sister. What the hell do I do with that? " 

As alway's Kyle gives shares some kind thoughts and Brandy shares an insensitive opinion.

If you would like to send in a “Dear Kyle” question, just shoot us an email at themarriagerenovation@gmail.com

Segmant 4- "Marriage Self-Help" exercise to  review.

Last episode K & B  chose an exercise from marriage.com that they nick-named the “Passive Aggressive Appreciation list”. They tried it each day for two weeks. It is still undetermined if it's a do or a dud,  but they did discover they have less to comoplain about then they had imagined.

This episode’s activity to try:

Each spouse gets to choose one thing they know they do that annoys their spouse. For the allotted time period ( two weeks ) they are going to try their best to “not” do the thing that annoys our spouse. They will not mention the habits at all during the time period. Hopefully by simply directing attention to the negative habit they will help direct change.

Ending Quote:

“Most people fail not because of a lack of desire but because of a lack of commitment.” Vince Lombardi

Segment 1- "Introduction"

Brandy and Kyle share a bit of who they are and their heart behind starting a podcast.

Segment 2- "You be the Judge":

Help decide who is right or wrong as Brandy and Kyle both share polar opposite opinions on whether or not dish towels should be used as floor mops or shop towels to clean up nasty messes. Or if they are strictly for drying clean dishes and wiping hands. 

Share your opinion on our "You Be the Judge" segment on IG. Just look for the graphic post with punching gloves, Captioned "Dish Towels or Floor Mops?

Instagram- @themarraigerenovation

Segment 3- "Dear Kyle" 

Episode 1 question: "Dear Kyle. My husband likes to fall asleep with the TV on. He says he’s watching it but I can totally hear him snoring. When I go to turn it off, he wakes up and insist he’s still watching. The thing is, it keeps me awake and I have to wake up really early for work. What do you think I should do? Sincerely, Sleepless in my second marriage." 

To hear Kyle's kind words and Brandy's insensitive retort, you will just have to listen. 

If you would like to send in a “Dear Kyle” question, just shoot us an email at themarriagerenovation@gmail.com

Segmant 4- Our first "Marriage Self-Help" activity totry and review:

 This one comes from the one and only marriage.com. The activity- Write an appreciation list. Which  we have nick-named the "Passive Agressive Appreciation List".

“Some of the best couples therapy exercises have to do with restructuring how you think and feel about your partner. A great way to do this is with an appreciation list.” -Marriage.com

We modified the excersise. We will  start by telling something our spouse does that we appreciate, followed by something they could be doing to make us feel more loved, secure, or appreciated in the relationship, and ending with another affirmation of something we appreciate. So it's like a "Feedback Sandwich" where you  hopefully soften the impact of the criticism since it's between two positive comments. 

"By writing down and meditating on their spouse’s good qualities first, partners will be able to focus on the good in the relationship before looking at ways to improve love and communication in a constructive way, rather than accusatory.”

Hmmmm..... we shall see how this goes. 

We will let you guys know in the next episode, whether or not we would recommend this exercise. Is it a "Do" or a "Dud".

Link to the modified Exercise:

https://www.marriage.com/advice/therapy/couples-therapy-exercises-you-can-do-at-home/#3_Write_an_appreciation_list

Ending Quote:

“Love is the seed of all hope. It is the enticement to trust, to risk, to try, to go on.” – Gloria Gaither

Welcome to the marriage renovation.

Renovation Defined. Noun. The act or process of repairing, renewing, restoring, or reviving to good condition.

This is a relationship show about second chances, focusing on the humor, hard work, and humility it takes to build a stronger marriage, especially the second time around … or third or forth …

Hosted by an unlikely pair working on our own marriage renovation.  

Me- Kyle Rodgers

And me Brandy Bell

So, connect with us every other Tuesday, as we rate and review marriage advice, exercises and strategies, that we will implement into our marriage, and let you know if they are a do or a dud.  

You will also get the opportunity to be a part of some other fun segments designed around you.

Join us for laughter and learning through an authentic look into our world. The good, bad, and the ugly. And hopefully come away with the inspiration and tools to begin your own marriage renovation.