“You don’t kill your inner critic. You just tell her to wait her turn.” Michael Dargie speaks with Terry Tucker, a man who’s lived many lives: Division I basketball player, SWAT hostage negotiator, undercover cop, cancer warrior, author, and motivational speaker. Terry’s journey is one of resilience, reinvention, and redefining what it means to live with purpose—even when the odds are against you.
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Diagnosed with terminal cancer over a decade ago, Terry has endured more than 13 years of treatment, the amputation of his leg, and countless physical and emotional battles. But instead of giving up, he chose to get even more intentional. Now, he shares his story on global stages and more than 700 podcasts, offering hard-won wisdom on courage, purpose, and connection.
He breaks down his “Three F’s” (faith, family, friends), his mindset shifts (“do I have to, or do I get to?”), and what it really means to build sustainable excellence. We also learn about his favourite book, his Rocky Road obsession, and how a roomful of nurses made him feel like the most beloved man alive.
This episode is a must for anyone navigating hardship and wondering if they still matter. Spoiler: you do.
Quotable Quotes
“You don’t kill your inner critic. You just tell her to wait her turn.”
“If I can turn a death sentence into a life sentence, so can you.”
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
“You get to choose what kind of pain you want in life.”
“Half the nurses want me as their dad. The other half want me as their husband.”
Episode Highlights
Cancer Warrior | Living 13 years with terminal cancer
The Three F’s | Faith, family, and friends as foundation
SWAT Life | Hostage negotiator and 6’8” undercover cop
Basketball & Brotherhood | A family full of giants
Purpose Work | Turning pain into teaching
Sustainable Excellence | Principles to live an uncommon life
Legacy Book | Inspired by conversations with former players
Favourite Book | Legacy by James Kerr (All Blacks rugby team)
Ice Cream Test | Rocky Road forever
Advice to Rebels | Hitch your wagon to people who care
LINKS FROM EPISODE
Terry’s Website (motivationalcheck.com)
Terry on LinkedIn (linkedin.com/in/terry-tucker-9b5605179)
Terry on Facebook (facebook.com/motivationalcheck)
Terry on Instagram (instagram.com/sustainableexcellenceauthor)
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