You didn’t choose her because you were sure.
You chose her because she saw you.
And in that moment, it felt like everything you ever wanted.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast speaks to the man who just realized:
“I married the first woman who gave me attention.”

You are not alone.
You are not broken.
You were starved for love — and you settled for a crumb.
But now? You’re waking up. And that changes everything.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
✅ Why emotional hunger leads to fast commitment
✅ How attention feels like love when you’ve been ignored
✅ What your younger self was really searching for
✅ How to stop feeling shame about your past choices
✅ Why healing helps you stop settling
✅ What a healthy relationship looks like when you’re secure

This episode is for you if:
✔️ You feel like you settled too early
✔️ You feel unseen in your marriage
✔️ You want more connection, respect, and emotional safety
✔️ You’re ready to stop blaming and start leading with peace

In this episode, we walk through:

What “I married the first woman who gave me attention” really means

How you confused being seen with being loved

Why this leads to pain once the excitement fades

How to speak to the boy inside you who just wanted to feel wanted

Why you need to lead from healing — not blame

How to build connection from wholeness, not need

You didn’t fail.
You made a choice from pain — and now you’re growing from truth.

Whether you stay, grow together, or move on…
You no longer settle.
You no longer beg.
You no longer betray yourself just to stay safe.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You wanted closeness. She needed space.
You chased love. She pulled away.
Now you feel stuck — and you don’t know why.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why anxious (preoccupied) men and avoidant women are often drawn to each other. And why that spark you felt in the beginning now feels like pain.

What you'll learn:
✅ Why you were drawn to her emotional distance
✅ Why she felt safe choosing someone like you
✅ How your attachment styles locked you both in a painful loop
✅ Why the highs felt exciting — but weren’t real connection
✅ How to break the cycle and stop chasing emotional silence
✅ How secure men lead with strength and stop seeking validation

Topics covered in this episode:

The truth about anxious-avoidant attraction

How your childhood shaped what feels like love

Why distance feels like desire when you're insecure

What changes in marriage that makes this dynamic worse

The steps to stop begging and start leading

What healthy connection really looks like

This video is for you if:
✔️ You feel like you're always the one trying
✔️ Your wife avoids deep conversations
✔️ You blame yourself for needing more
✔️ You want love that feels safe — not like a fight

You don’t need to prove you’re enough.
You don’t need to earn love from someone who can’t give it.
And you don’t need to keep repeating the past.

You can choose real connection.
You can stop chasing what hurts.
You can lead your healing — and your life — with peace, not panic.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Your wife shuts down when you open up.
She pulls away when things get close.
You feel like you’re always chasing her attention.

And now you’re asking:
“Is this what love is supposed to feel like?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why emotionally secure men stop chasing women who are avoidant and unavailable — and what to do if you're stuck in that cycle.

You’ll learn:
✅ What avoidant attachment looks like in marriage
✅ Why insecure men feel drawn to distant women
✅ How to stop chasing emotional crumbs
✅ What secure men expect from their wives
✅ Why emotional numbness is not strength
✅ How to lead with boundaries, not begging

Here’s what we cover step-by-step:

Spot the signs of avoidant attachment

Notice how you’re chasing emotional distance

Stop mistaking emotional shutdown for strength

Heal the part of you that feels addicted to earning love

Understand why secure men walk away from these patterns

Build a life where connection is mutual and safe

This video is for you if:
✔️ Your wife avoids hard conversations
✔️ You feel like the problem — no matter how hard you try
✔️ You give your all, but get little back
✔️ You want peace, clarity, and emotional connection

The truth is simple:
Secure men don’t stay in relationships where they feel unseen, unheard, and unloved.
They don’t chase.
They don’t beg.
They lead — with calm, truth, and peace.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.