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Rebecca and Naomi explore why curiosity requires courage, especially for those on the margins. We examine how gender, race, and religious upbringing shape who feels safe to ask questions and who faces consequences for challenging the status quo.

• Safety is a prerequisite for curiosity, but not everyone is equally encouraged to be inquisitive
• Women, particularly women of color, often face negative consequences for asking challenging questions
• Religious communities frequently use concepts like submission, forgiveness, and respect for authority to silence questioning
• Power structures in churches, schools, and families often treat curiosity as a threat rather than a virtue
• Critical thinking asks uncomfortable questions: who built these systems, who benefits, and what alternatives exist?
• Developing internal safety and self-trust helps us ask difficult questions even in unsafe environments
• The more dangerous a question feels to ask, the more important it probably is

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Celebrating Rebecca's recent college graduation has been a long time coming! In this episode, we reflect on the challenges and rewards she experienced as a midlife student as well as on the complicated transition to life after graduation.

• What it was like starting college without knowing all available options or having proper guidance
• How she learned to ask for help (including successfully advocating for scholarship funds)
• Her thoughts on navigating the tension between motherhood responsibilities and educational goals and how she consciously resisted passing along the tradition of parentification
• What she discovered about the common adage that "belief is an inside job"
• How she's finding the job market as a 50-year-old new liberal arts graduate
• The comfort she's finding in fiction, writing, and supportive relationships right now--as well as the tiny house community she's dreaming of building.

See the summa cum laude graduate in her regalia! (Summa cum laude means "with highest honors") https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16jAraWNb7/

Important Announcement: The Amish Descendant Scholarship Fund offers mentorship and financial support for anyone who left an Amish or Plain community with only an eighth-grade education and is now pursuing college. Apply now for funding for the 2025-2026 school year! (Application deadline is July 20, 2025.) Visit AmishScholarship.com to apply for mentorship or scholarships, or to donate to support others' educational journeys.

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This episode recaps a family reunion we recently attended, tracing five generations back to our great-great-grandfather Daniel D. Miller, discovering unexpected connections and untold stories that shape how we see ourselves today.

• Rebecca and Naomi join with Margaret (Naomi's sister) to discuss their experiences at a gathering of the descendants of Daniel D. and Mary Miller's ten sons.
• The recurring theme of strong, unsubmissive women in our family history raises more questions than answers as we wonder about their lived experiences and influence on their descendants.
• Were the frequent sawmill accidents unique to our family line or do they simply remind us of the harsh realities of farm life and child labor in the past?
• What value do extended family reunions hold for younger generations? How can we access a sense of belonging regardless of the life choices or current identity of individuals?
• What qualities (such as hospitality, pacifism, or a quirky sense of humor) do we want to consciously preserve and pass down to future generations?

If you're part of the DD Miller line, save the date for our next reunion in Sarasota in two years. Join our Facebook group for updates and connections!

Links We Mentioned (or should have)

Attendees representing Daniel D.'s Valentine's Irene: https://www.facebook.com/share/18zkW5aVts/

The cousin party: https://www.facebook.com/share/18vrrirHpj/

Daniel D. Miller Family (private Facebook group): https://www.facebook.com/groups/1791987254171830

Geauga Amish History Center (Geauga County, Ohio): https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61553567564967

Amish and Mennonite Heritage Center (Holmes County, Ohio): https://behalt.com/

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Tricia joins Rebecca and Naomi to share her journey from homeschooled student to college graduate and beyond, offering valuable insights for first-generation students navigating higher education without traditional guidance.

• Following curiosity and determination despite lack of traditional educational pathways
• Navigating college applications and standardized tests without guidance counselors
• Balancing full-time work with educational pursuits
• Finding funding for undergraduate education through grants and scholarships
• The challenges of financing graduate education without institutional support
• The value of on-campus living for building social connections and networks
• Taking risks to teach in Texas and Japan after graduation
• The importance of maintaining identity through continuous learning
• How small steps build confidence for bigger life changes
• The reality that educational journeys rarely follow straight lines
• The value of asking questions and seeking information when facing obstacles

Keep bringing on your questions! Message us at uncoveredlifebeyond@gmail.com with your thoughts and experiences.

Connect with Tricia:

https://www.facebook.com/patricia.a.lewis

https://bsky.app/profile/hopenafuture.bsky.social

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Patricia Lewis shares her remarkable journey from financial struggle to stability by challenging traditional gender roles and overcoming the shame of accepting public assistance. After marrying her husband who she met while teaching in Japan, they returned to the U.S. to start a family in the midst of the Great Recession. Through the birth of their five sons and many job changes, they faced years of financial hardship before finding an unconventional solution.

Key points from Tricia's story:

• Growing up Mennonite with a father who taught practical skills regardless of gender
• Becoming reacquainted with her husband online while teaching in Japan and developing a relationship built on honest communication
• Struggling through dozens of jobs, medical bills, and raising five boys born via C-sections within eight years
• Confronting the shame of accepting public assistance while living at poverty level
• Transforming their finances by flipping traditional roles – Tricia becoming the primary breadwinner while her husband drove a school bus and homeschooled their sons
• Learning to counter negative self-talk and treat ourselves with the same kindness we show others
• Practical tips for financial independence: knowing your accounts, passwords, and financial situation
• Creative ways to stretch resources like buying turkeys in bulk during sales

For women facing financial insecurity, know what your plan is going forward. Identify your networks, consider your abilities, and understand your current financial situation – including accounts, debts, and assets. Don't let shame prevent you from using available resources designed to help you reach stability.

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https://bsky.app/profile/hopenafuture.bsky.social

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Rebecca and Naomi explore how men in progressive spaces often default to patriarchal behaviors when challenged, despite claiming to be allies and feminists.

• Deconstruction requires ongoing work rather than simply changing labels or terminology
• Tim Whitaker and The New Evangelicals controversy reveals common patterns of male entitlement
• Men who claim to be allies often revert to control tactics when their authority is questioned
• The "fake ally playbook" includes expecting women to manage emotional labor without recognition
• Weaponizing women's trauma to discredit their concerns is a common gaslighting technique
• Mediation often functions as image management rather than genuine reconciliation
• Women are socialized to treat men's perspectives as authoritative while questioning their own
• Authentic allies demonstrate humility, share domestic responsibilities, and listen without defensiveness
• Healthy relationships require mutuality and shared power, not dominance and control
• Women need to recognize their needs matter and speaking up is an invitation to authentic relationship

Join us next week as we conclude our financial autonomy series with actionable steps that stay-at-home parents can take to protect themselves financially.

Links

https://www.tnereckoning.com/summary

https://baptistnews.com/article/that-time-i-got-an-angry-call-from-the-subject-of-an-article-about-anger-and-abuse/

https://www.instagram.com/p/C4yVfcwPSMl/

https://terryreal.com/

https://karljforehand.substack.com/p/getting-out-of-survival-mode/

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Financial autonomy is crucial to everyone's wellbeing, but what happens when one partner refuses to engage in conversations about money? We explore the dynamics of financial stonewalling and share practical strategies for taking ownership of your adult responsibilities.

• Financial issues can become control mechanisms when one partner refuses to engage in good faith
• Both men and women have been socialized to question women's financial abilities and understanding
• Red flags include: lack of access to accounts, asking for money like an allowance, monitored spending, refusal to share information
• Religious contexts often use spiritual language to validate financial dependence and lack of autonomy
• Taking steps toward financial independence isn't being sneaky—it's being smart
• Running your credit report helps identify accounts in your name you may not be aware of
• Opening your own bank account provides security and independence
• Understanding your own values helps guide decision-making when faced with resistance
• Having financial options doesn't mean planning to leave—it means staying by choice, not necessity
• A financially independent woman isn't a threat—she's simply someone who refuses to be stuck

Join us next time to discuss practical ways a stay-at-home parent can build financial autonomy--beyond the obvious ways like winning the lottery!

Resources We Mentioned in the Show (or should have)

Terry Real Homepage

What is Financial Abuse? (The Hotline)

Values Clarification

Learn about your credit report and how to get a copy (USAGov)

Your Money Matters: A Guide to Financial Independence for Women

Financial Literacy for Women

Financial Freedom: Women, Money, and Domestic Abuse

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Financial autonomy for stay-at-home parents means having options and being able to exercise them without justification or permission, even when you're not collecting a paycheck. We examine how historical patterns like the law of coverture have evolved into modern expectations that devalue domestic labor while romanticizing the stay-at-home parent role.

• Economists estimate the unpaid labor of stay-at-home parents is worth over $100,000 annually
• The narrative of who's "supporting" whom needs to be flipped - the stay-at-home parent enables the working parent's career
• Financial autonomy doesn't undermine partnership but strengthens it by creating equality
• Access to separate accounts, having your own money, and retirement savings are practical steps toward autonomy
• Teaching financial literacy to children, especially daughters, helps break intergenerational patterns
• Both spouses deserve financial autonomy regardless of who's bringing home a paycheck
• Feeling resentful about finances often signals a boundary violation that needs addressing

Your work is valuable, and your contribution is real whether you're getting a paycheck or not. Share your thoughts on social media, and join us next time as we discuss what to do when your partner won't play fair.

Links

The Way We Never Were American Families and the Nostalgia Trap by Stephanie Coontz

Domestic Dialogue: Flipping the Labor Script

Notes on Project 2025 by Rachel Hurley

End the Dysfunctional Cycles in Your Relationship and Stay in Love for Life (Terry Real)

If we empower women to work outside the house without expecting men to work inside the house…

The Fair Play Book | Fair Play Life by Eve Rodsky

The Documentary | Fair Play Life

THE EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: Let's Talk Emotional Labor and Mental Load - Bare Marriage

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