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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

By: Headgum & Nicole Byer
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Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Episodes
  • Flirting, Open Relationships, and Almost Dying (w/ Josh Sharp)

    Flirting, Open Relationships, and Almost Dying (w/ Josh Sharp)
    Jul 18 2025
    Comedian and friend Josh Sharp (Dicks: The Musical) returns to the podcast! Nicole and Josh kick things off by reminiscing about the chaotic live show where Nicole interviewed a man in the audience she had slept with. From there, they get into Josh’s foolproof flirting strategy at the club, Annabelle the haunted doll’s cursed tour across America, attending a Big Dick contest, and Josh’s near-death experience in Puerto Vallarta that left him facedown in the ocean with no memory of his own name.They also discuss the realities and benefits of open relationships, how to quiet negative self-talk while dating, and the dangers of eating straight men’s ass. Fun times!In New York? Get tickets to Josh Sharp's show, Ta-da! at joshsharptada.com.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastSupport this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:» Betterhelp: Visit Betterhelp.com/DATEME today to get 10% off your first month of therapy.» Wayfair: Wayfair. Every Style, Every Home.» Mint Mobile: This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/DATEME.View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors.Follow:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    56 mins
  • Nobody Wants to Date a Drag Queen (w/ Meatball)

    Nobody Wants to Date a Drag Queen (w/ Meatball)
    Jul 11 2025
    Drag queen icon Meatball is back! She and Nicole get into it all - being in her top era, loving the single life, and having weekend boyfriends in different cities. But also... why dating is still so hard when you do drag. Meatball opens up about losing guys the second they find out she’s a queen, and how frustrating it is watching her roster shrink because of it. And of course, the wild date stories are endless - projectile vomiting in a car on a date, sucking 3 different dicks in one night (one the size of a beer can), a hookup who did stand-up after sex, and turning down a dude mid-date for turning on fart porn. It's a wild one. Tune in!You can buy Meatball's jarred farts at meatland.bigcartel.com (it is currently sold out)Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastSupport this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:» Quince: Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to Quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.» OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code DATEME at oneskin.co #oneskinpod» SquareSpace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME.» Mint Mobile: This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/DATEME. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors.Follow:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • We Dated?! (w/ Lou Wilson)

    We Dated?! (w/ Lou Wilson)
    Jul 4 2025
    Happy 4th of July!(?) Comedian Lou Wilson (Dimension 20, Jimmy Kimmel Live!) joins Nicole to reflect on the wild state of America. He shares his terrible time living in Boston, where white guys frequently asked him for the N-word pass. They talk about what it was like to sell out Madison Square Garden in just 10 minutes withDimension 20, being a “silly billy” on dates, and the moment Lou realized bits don’t always land on dates when you’re trying to build intimacy. They also bond over the guilty thrill of watching other couples on visibly bad dates, and the drama they've witnessed unfold one table over. Plus, Lou reminds Nicole that they once dated. Nicole completely forgot. He gives an honest review of what it was like to date her, and why there was never a second date. Y'all, it's a wild one.Check out Lou Wilson's podcast, Worlds Beyond Number.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastSupport this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:» CashApp: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod *Referral Reward Disclaimer: As a Cash App partner, I may earn a commission when you sign up for a Cash App account.View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors.Follow:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    51 mins

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Unfortunately we share the same singleness curse. Maybe too open with our sexual needs and a little too witty for the average dude. Nicole is fantastic and brings out a different side to her guests. Love her cuteness and vocalizations. Yay!!

Kindred in the Worst Way!

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It’s light and funny until Nicole has her heart broken but another uncreative tinder match.


Try her other 29 podcasts! Best friends ❤️

Nicole is my source for all things entertainment

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I love this podcast so much. My favorite episodes are the live versions and this one had me rolling. Hilarious wise cracks between friends, hilarious questions from audience members, a little surprise in there too! A must listen episode!

Never laughed so hard!

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I listen all the time driving down the road. It's like hanging out with you crazy friends that talk about anything and everything. You will laugh a genuine laugh each episode. You should tune in and listen even if you think this won't be for you. Surprise, it's for everyone.

Always entertaining and informative

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I have listened to this podcast for several years. i absolutely LOVE Nicole Byer! She talks about modern dating, therapy, and her life as a working actor and comedian with such humor and honesty. I feel like I have been a fly on the wall while Nicole has gotten more and more successful and happy. She makes me laugh amd I love her!

Silly, fresh and funny!

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