Episodes

  • Unpacking Our Past: From Massive Poufs to Parental Drama
    Jul 28 2025

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    Ever wondered what happens when two friends record their lives during a complete emotional spiral? That's exactly what we did in season one of this podcast, and now we're looking back at those wild times with a mixture of horror and amusement.

    In this deeply candid catch-up episode, we take you through the evolution of our friendship and personal journeys, from questionable fashion choices (like that four-inch hair poof that required half a bottle of hairspray) to the dramatic relationship revelations that continue to shape our lives. One shocking story involves discovering a secret child that had been hidden for five years during a 9.5-year relationship, alongside other disturbing behaviors that came to light all in one overwhelming day.

    We don't hold back as we discuss the challenges of co-parenting with difficult exes, managing strong-willed children, and trying to provide stability despite complicated custody arrangements. There's something uniquely therapeutic about being able to laugh at our past selves while acknowledging how much growth has happened since those early recording days. We share our struggles with finding structure and routine—especially for those of us with ADHD tendencies—and our dating patterns that we're actively working to improve ("unattractive, unmotivated, usually addicted to something" being the type we're trying to avoid).

    Between planning fitness competitions, family trips, and celebrating important milestones, we're navigating life's complexities with honesty and humor. This episode perfectly captures why listeners connect with our unfiltered conversations—we're all works in progress, making mistakes, learning from them, and occasionally recording the whole messy journey for everyone's enjoyment. Join us for this raw, heartfelt discussion that proves sometimes the best stories come from our most chaotic chapters.

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    48 mins
  • Trauma in the Tissues: How Massage Therapy Unlocks Physical and Emotional Healing
    Jul 21 2025

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    Have you ever wondered why that nagging pain in your shoulder won't go away despite massages, stretching, and even medication? The answer might surprise you—your body could be physically manifesting emotional trauma you haven't processed.

    In this raw and enlightening conversation with massage therapist Jenessa from Intuitive Touch, we dive deep into the concept that "your body keeps score" of emotional experiences, storing them in physical form when they aren't processed mentally. Jenessa reveals how she reads subtle body signals during massage sessions to identify where clients are holding onto emotional baggage—whether it's tension in the shoulders, inflammation throughout the body, or that mysterious hip pain that appeared after a difficult life event.

    What makes this discussion particularly fascinating is the contrast between different body types and how they respond to massage therapy. As Jenessa explains, working on an athlete's dense, trained muscles is "like trying to make a river rock squishy," requiring completely different techniques than someone whose body primarily carries emotional tension. This personalized approach is why cookie-cutter massage experiences often fail to provide lasting relief.

    The conversation takes unexpected turns as we share personal experiences with alternative healing modalities like ketamine therapy and how they've complemented traditional massage treatments. One particularly powerful revelation comes when we discuss how the body physically responds to emotional anniversaries—with measurable changes in recovery metrics, inflammation, and pain patterns that correspond to significant dates, regardless of conscious awareness.

    Whether you're dealing with chronic pain, curious about the mind-body connection, or simply looking to understand why your body sometimes seems to have a mind of its own, this episode offers valuable insights into holistic healing approaches that honor both physical and emotional aspects of wellness. Learn how massage therapy can serve as both physical medicine and emotional release when performed with intuition and understanding of the body's complex language.

    Ready to discover what your body might be trying to tell you? Listen now, and take the first step toward truly understanding the connection between your physical sensations and emotional experiences.

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    50 mins
  • The Universe Keeps Testing Us: Dating Disasters and Dessert Therapy
    Jul 14 2025

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    Dessert has never tasted so sweet as when you're finally free from competition prep restrictions. In this celebratory episode, Heather and Lacey indulge in a variety of treats while catching up on life, love, and the pursuit of the perfect lemon cake bite.

    Fresh off her successful bodybuilding competition, Heather savors her first real meal in months – a teriyaki burger from Hop Jacks (which Lacey stubbornly refuses to call by its new name, "Hops and Drops"). The duo shares laughs over restaurant servers who still remember them from their weekly happy hour sessions years ago.

    Between bites of lemon layer cake, strawberry cheesecake, and vanilla pudding cake, they dive into stories about dating disappointments. Lacey coins the term "oppositional defiant disorder with the universe" to describe their shared tendency to ignore obvious red flags in relationships. The mysterious "motorcycle" who has ghosted Lacey three times but keeps reappearing becomes a metaphor for the lessons we refuse to learn.

    The conversation weaves through Heather's competition feedback (coming in "slightly leaner" next time), injury-prone pasts (featuring Lacey’s five ankle sprains in six months), and mutual confusion over internet trends like ASMR and mukbang videos. Through it all, the underlying theme remains their enduring friendship – from sharing matching dresses in their "size zero days" to supporting each other through life's challenges.

    As they plan for upcoming concerts and Heather's next competition in Florida, it's clear that these moments of connection over dessert represent something much sweeter than cake – the freedom to enjoy life's pleasures and the comfort of a friendship that has weathered years of change.

    Take a moment to enjoy something sweet today, and remember that sometimes the best therapy comes with frosting. Subscribe for more conversations that feel like catching up with your best friends!

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    49 mins
  • Fiddlefaddle & Friend Requests: When Girl Code Gets Messy
    Jul 7 2025

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    What happens when your ex-friend's ex-husband sends you a friend request? Does Girl Code have an expiration date? We're untangling the complex web of unwritten rules that guide female friendships and setting the record straight on what Girl Code really means.

    The conversation kicks off with a real-life scenario that forces us to examine whether loyalty extends beyond the end of friendships. We share passionate takes on dating friends' exes (spoiler: it's a hard no), but acknowledge the gray areas that exist depending on relationship closeness and circumstances. From the infamous "90-day trial period" to distinguishing between casual dates and serious relationships, we navigate the nuanced boundaries that keep friendships intact.

    Beyond romantic entanglements, Girl Code encompasses crucial safety measures like the "No Man Left Behind" policy and having emergency code systems in place. We discuss location sharing, extraction plans for uncomfortable situations, and the wingwoman duties that keep our circle protected. But we don't shy away from calling out how these principles get weaponized by mean girls hiding behind "just keeping it real" when they're actually tearing others down.

    The most powerful aspect of Girl Code? Being there through thick and thin. We reflect on how major life changes like sobriety journeys reveal who your true friends are, and the beautiful synchronicity that sometimes brings friends back together after necessary time apart. Whether you're celebrating wins with solo cup wine glasses or showing up at the hospital during tough times, these are the moments that define genuine female friendship.

    Ready to examine your own friendship circles? Listen in and ask yourself: Are you living by the real Girl Code or just talking about it?

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    29 mins
  • The Co-Star Confessional: When Your Horoscope Calls You Out
    Jul 3 2025

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    Have you ever had an app read your soul so accurately you felt personally attacked? That's exactly what happened when we dove into astrology through the Co-Star app in this unplanned but revealing episode.

    What started as casual conversation about recent life changes quickly transformed into a cosmic deep dive when we began exploring our astrological profiles. The app didn't just tell us generic horoscopes—it called us out on our specific patterns, from relationship sabotage to career self-sabotage, with such precision we couldn't help but laugh (and occasionally gasp) at the accuracy.

    Through our astrological explorations, we uncovered profound insights about ourselves. One of us learned about the walls built to protect against emotional vulnerability, while the other confronted tendencies to chase multiple dreams without completing any. We discussed how these patterns have shaped our approaches to love, work, and personal growth. The app even predicted specific dates for potential life changes, leaving us both skeptical yet curious enough to mark our calendars.

    Perhaps most powerful was our conversation about what it means to be the "main character" in our own lives. The contrast between standing in the spotlight versus empowering others illuminated different but equally valid ways of claiming our importance in the world. These revelations felt especially meaningful as we reflected on our ongoing healing journeys and recent growth.

    Whether you're an astrology enthusiast or skeptic, this episode offers a window into how external perspectives—even from an app—can sometimes reflect truths we already know but haven't fully acknowledged. Join us for laughter, vulnerability, and cosmic validation as we continue our season focused on healing and self-discovery. Follow along with our astrological journey and let us know if the stars have ever read you this accurately!

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    51 mins
  • Milk, Mustard, and Moving Forward
    Jun 24 2025

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    What keeps us locked in cycles of trauma, and how do we finally break free? This raw, vulnerable conversation takes you through our parallel journeys of healing from toxic relationships and traumatic experiences.

    The conversation opens with a crucial insight: toxic relationships aren't awful from day one. They start with genuine connection before gradually eroding boundaries through what we call "breadcrumbing"—offering just enough positive moments to keep you holding on through increasingly difficult times. We share our personal experiences with this pattern and the pivotal moments that finally helped us recognize and escape these dynamics.

    Our discussion reveals how differently trauma can manifest in our lives. While some experiences leave obvious scars, others hide beneath the surface, emerging in unexpected ways years later. We explore how our bodies physically store trauma even when our minds try to deny it, from mysterious hip pain to the strange phenomenon of anniversary reactions. The distinction between genuinely processing grief versus just burying it emerges as a crucial theme.

    The parallels in our healing journeys—from addiction recovery to setting boundaries to recognizing red flags—showcase both universal patterns and highly individual responses to trauma. We share the tools that have helped us along the way, from therapy and ketamine treatments to bodybuilding and music, revealing how creating joy amid healing is not just possible but necessary.

    Take this journey with us as we navigate the messy, non-linear path of trauma recovery with honesty, occasional humor, and deep compassion for ourselves and each other. Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or well along your path, this conversation offers both validation and hope.

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    47 mins
  • Trauma-Rama: When Life Gives You Lemons (Or Tiny Ankles)
    Jun 16 2025

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    The wounds we carry from childhood often define how we navigate adulthood, especially in our relationships. In this deeply personal episode, we pull back the curtain on our experiences growing up with alcoholic parents and how these early traumas shaped who we've become.

    From functioning alcoholics who maintained perfect appearances while chaos reigned behind closed doors, to unpredictable substance abuse that created volatile home environments—we share the raw reality of growing up in households where adult protection was unreliable at best. The conversation reveals how these experiences created our "hyper-independent" tendencies, with both of us developing a fierce self-reliance that made asking for help nearly impossible.

    We explore the painful patterns that emerged in our adult relationships, particularly with manipulative partners who recognized and exploited our vulnerabilities. One host describes the gradual erosion of self-worth through constant negative reinforcement, while the other shares how betrayal by someone close to her children created new layers of trauma for her family. Through these stories, we examine how childhood wounds make us susceptible to harmful relationships, and how recognizing these patterns is the first step toward breaking them.

    The episode also touches on healing methods that have worked for us—from the structure and discipline of bodybuilding to learning how to identify red flags earlier. We discuss the delicate balance between protecting ourselves and remaining open to genuine connection, and how parenting our own children has motivated us to break generational cycles of trauma.

    This conversation marks the beginning of a deeper exploration into trauma and recovery. If you've ever felt alone in your struggles with childhood wounds or toxic relationships, this episode offers validation, understanding, and a reminder that healing—while never linear—is always possible.

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    47 mins
  • Healing Through Dissociation: Our Journey with Therapeutic Ketamine
    Jun 9 2025

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    Have you ever wanted to peek behind the curtain of an emerging mental health treatment that's changing lives? Step into our world as we share our raw, unfiltered experiences with ketamine therapy—recorded just hours after Heather's infusion session.

    Ketamine therapy isn't just another wellness trend. This FDA-approved treatment is revolutionizing mental health care by helping people process trauma, reduce anxiety, and break free from treatment-resistant depression. We take you through our parallel journeys—Heather as she completes booster treatments and Lacey during her initial six-session protocol—offering candid insights you won't find in clinical descriptions.

    From the bizarre sensation of "dissolving" to feeling like you're living inside Fantasia, we describe what dissociation actually feels like and why it's therapeutic rather than frightening. We share practical advice about setting intentions, choosing the right music (hint: skip the lyrics), and what to expect physically as your body processes the medicine. The conversation reveals surprising benefits neither of us expected, including dramatic reductions in physical inflammation and muscle tension that linger long after treatment ends.

    Whether you're considering ketamine therapy for yourself, supporting someone who is, or simply curious about cutting-edge mental health treatments, this episode offers valuable perspective from two different people at different stages of the ketamine journey. Listen as we flip-flop between patient and caretaker roles, proving that healing doesn't have to be a solo journey. Ready to explore what happens when we allow our minds to access parts of ourselves we've kept hidden? Join us for this intimate look at what happens when we let go and allow healing to happen.

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    44 mins