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A Woman Is No Man

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A Woman Is No Man

By: Etaf Rum
Narrated by: Ariana Delawari, Dahlia Salem, Susan Nezami
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A New York Times Best Seller

A Read with Jenna Today Show Book Club Pick

A New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice • Washington Post 10 Books to Read in March • Marie Claire Best Women’s Fiction of 2019 • Washington Book Review Difficult-To-Put-Down Novel • The Millions Most Anticipated Books of 2019 • A USA Today Best Book of the Week • An Elaine Newton - Summer Reading List Critic’s Choice • A Girls Night In Book Club Pick

“I couldn't put it down. I was obsessed with figuring out the mystery of this family." (Jenna Bush Hager, Today Show Book Club Pick)

Three generations of Palestinian-American women living in Brooklyn are torn between individual desire and the strict mores of Arab culture in this powerful debut - a heart-wrenching story of love, intrigue, courage, and betrayal that will resonate with women from all backgrounds, giving voice to the silenced and agency to the oppressed.

"Where I come from, we’ve learned to silence ourselves. We’ve been taught that silence will save us. Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of - dangerous, the ultimate shame.”

Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Over the course of a week, the naive and dreamy girl finds herself quickly betrothed and married and is soon living in Brooklyn. There, Isra struggles to adapt to the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law, Fareeda, and strange new husband, Adam, a pressure that intensifies as she begins to have children - four daughters instead of the sons Fareeda tells Isra she must bear.

Brooklyn, 2008. Eighteen-year-old Deya, Isra’s oldest daughter, must meet with potential husbands at her grandmother Fareeda’s insistence, though her only desire is to go to college. Deya can’t help but wonder if her options would have been different had her parents survived the car crash that killed them when Deya was only eight. But her grandmother is firm on the matter: The only way to secure a worthy future for Deya is through marriage to the right man.

But fate has a will of its own, and soon, Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads her to shocking truths about her family - knowledge that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her parents, the past, and her own future.

Set in an America at once foreign to many and staggeringly close at hand, A Woman Is No Man is a story of culture and honor, secrets and betrayals, love and violence. It is an intimate glimpse into a controlling and closed cultural world and a universal tale about family and the ways silence and shame can destroy those we have sworn to protect.

©2019 Etaf Rum (P)2019 HarperCollins Publishers
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"Three female narrators work together in this Palestinian family epic.... Listeners will become enmeshed in the overlapping ambitions of these fascinating women." (AudioFile)

“Sometimes heroism is loud and dramatic. Other times, it is daring to listen to that quiet voice within and having the courage to follow it. In this story, we see inside the lives of three generations of Palestinian women living in America, struggling and suffering to hear that voice. Etaf Rum has done a great service by sharing these voices with us.” (Shilpi Somaya Gowda, New York Times best-selling author of Secret Daughter and The Golden Son)

“Garnering justified comparisons to Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns... Etaf Rum’s debut novel is a must-read about women mustering up the bravery to follow their inner voice.” (Refinery29)

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Powerful and Terrifying

"Women are more likely to experience intimate partner violence if they have low education, exposure to mothers being abused by a partner, abuse during childhood, and attitudes accepting violence, male privilege, and women’s subordinate status" -World Health Organization

Every single one of these criteria apply to the three generations of women in this book. I know it is fiction and I know it is not representative of the entire Palestinian diaspora, but this story was terrifying. That this no doubt really happens, and happens in all of our communities both makes me furious and breaks my heart.
I highly recommend the audio version of this book. The three narrators, for Isra, Deya, and Fareeda, really highlight the differences between these characters. I listened at double speed because certain scenes were so tense and I had to know what happened.

This is not a light, fun read, but it is a powerful one that feels important for those fighting for the rights of all girls to get an education and live free from domestic violence.

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Heart wrenching, can't put it down story.

Loved it! Narrators really brought the characters and the story alive! Highly recommend this book.

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Outstanding!

A look inside what could be any family, any culture, any religion any marriage and all the reasons why we must educate and evolve as a society.

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Heartbreaking stories beautifully told.

If this had not been a book group selection, I probably would not have read it. I know stories of Palestinian people only through history and the news. My appreciation of this book is not balanced by true accounts of anyone in my community as I do not know any who live here. Hopefully my awareness has been raised so that when I do travel to larger and more urban communities, I will have more understanding.

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Wonderful story with a great performance

I loved this story. I really enjoyed that there were three readers. It helped me to connect to the women, Isra, Fareeda, and Deya. I don’t know much about Palestine or their traditions but I have learned so much about their culture. The women in that culture are considered as annoyances. They also can’t make their own choices. It makes me thankful for my life. I highly recommend this book!

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I had no idea, plight of A Palestinian Arab woman

The book was eye opening to how the Palestinian Arab woman is viewed in that culture and the shame these poor woman carry. Great read.

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Required Reading

this is a compelling book that really lays out the torment and tragedies of three generations of Moslem women in the US. By the time the book is over, there is little about their struggles that hasn't been exposed. This book should be required reading for all high school students to let them know how it feels to be living 2 lives: as an American and as an ethnic person with strong cultural dictums that must be followed at home. My eyes and my heart were opened by this book.

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I thoroughly enjoyed this book!

I found this book to be a great insight into what it’s like to grow up a woman in a mans world. It was very interesting and kept me needing to know what would happen next.

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Very enlightening!

This book gave me an understanding of the life of an Arab woman. Fixed marriages led to a sad life without love, only duty. Hooray for the daughters who wanted an education and fought against old world values.

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Great story

I did not have a lot of exposure to Palestinian culture. This was an amazing story. I liked how it was told from different perspectives so that you could really understand why the characters acted the way they did. Great book!

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