
Dancing with a Porcupine
Parenting Wounded Children Without Losing Your Self
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Joana Garcia
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Jennie Owens
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You’re a foster parent or you’ve adopted children who’ve already had some years in foster care or spent their crucial early moments in an orphanage. You want so much to help them heal, but here you are at the end of your own rope. The kids are often angry, needy, rude, resentful. In fact, they know too well how to push your buttons.
You feel guilty that, sometimes, you want to just quit. You feel inadequate. How can anyone bear the sadness and pain they’ve gone through and that is now your burden, too?
What can you do? How can you make it through the day? How can you help your kids while also taking care of yourself?
In Dancing with a Porcupine, Jennie Owens shares the compelling story of her struggle to save her own life while caring for three troubled children she and her husband adopted from foster care. How could she stay loving, giving, and forgiving in the midst of a daily battle with children acting out the rage, resentment, and pain of their own traumatic pasts? Is there such a thing as secondary trauma, and if so, what do you do about it? When faith, endurance, and creativity are not enough, what’s next?
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Relatable
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A must read for any foster or adoptive parent!!
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Thank God
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Amazing read!!!!
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Encouragement for Adoptive Moms
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So insightful!
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Robotic narration. True book, but horrific over sharing
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As for the content of the book: I think it is useful to hear other people's experiences but to remember that they are just that. When Foster parents get information about a child's difficult behaviors things like the constant need for attention or constant hurtful comments don't come but they can wear you down more than something like the child's grades, which is always provided. The fact that she provides these real life glimpses is helpful. However, these are her personal experiences and I don't recommend anyone see them as recommendations. If you are looking for evidence based recommendations (which the title would suggest) look elsewhere.
like having a kindergarten teacher read a horror movie script
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