
It's Not You
How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People
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Ramani Durvasula
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Ramani Durvasula
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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.
Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:
- Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
- Confront toxic cycles
- Protect your energy
- Create realistic boundaries
- Reclaim and embrace your true self
Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.
©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty
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- Anonymous User
- 10-04-24
It's Not You!!!
Powerful and informative. I loved the deep insight and examples of it in detailed explanation.
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- Anonymous User
- 03-21-24
Very insightful
Such an informative and insightful book for navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals. Definitely would recommend.
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- Anonymous User
- 03-14-24
Amazing!!!
For the first two hours I had goosebumps as I could point every sentence to my story…, Amazing amazing amazing!!!!
She is brilliant… and I pray this book reaches every single person in a narcissistic relationship!!! Thank you Dr Ramini!
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- 12-23-24
Best Book on healing from narcissistic abuse
Perfect sequence and excellent explanations .
it all makes sense now!
Thank you Dr Ramani! You’re the best!
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