
Marital Cruelty in Antebellum America
Conflicting Worlds: New Dimensions of the American Civil War
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Robin C. Sager
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In Marital Cruelty in Antebellum America, Robin C. Sager probes the struggles of aggrieved spouses shedding light on the nature of marriage and violence in the United States in the decades prior to the Civil War. Analyzing over 1,500 divorce records that reveal intimate details of marriages in conflict in Virginia, Texas, and Wisconsin from 1840-1860, Sager offers a rare glimpse into the private lives of ordinary Americans shaken by accusations of cruelty.
At a time when the standard for an ideal marriage held that both partners adequately perform their respective duties, hostility often arose from ongoing domestic struggles for power. Despite a rise in the then novel expectation of marriage as a companionate relationship, and even in the face of liberalized divorce grounds, marital conflicts often focused on violations of duty, not lack of love. Sager describes how, in this environment, cruelty was understood as a failure to fulfill expectations and as a weapon to brutally enforce more traditional interpretations of marital duty.
Sager's findings also challenge historical literature's assumptions about the regional influences on violence, showing that married southerners were no more or less violent than their midwestern counterparts. Her work reveals how definitions and perceptions of cruelty varied according to the gender of victim and perpetrator. Correcting historical mischaracterizations of women's violence as trivial, rare, or defensive, Sager finds antebellum wives both capable and willing to commit a wide variety of cruelties within their marriages. Her research provides details about the reality of nineteenth-century conjugal unions, including the deep unhappiness buried within them.
The book is published by Louisiana State University Press.
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: Robin C. Sager
This is an interesting glimps into Marital Cruelty in Virginia, Texas, and Wisconsin from 1840--1860. The listener gets to hear how divorce charges changed and evolved over time. A nice selection of case studies.
The narration was well done by Sally Martin.
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In Marital Cruelty in Antebellum America, Robin C. Sager examines antebellum conceptions of marriage and violence through divorce cases in Virginia, Texas, and Wisconsin. Her work illustrates how gender expectations and location impacted the understanding of what was considered cruel in marriage between 1840 and 1860. Rather than reaffirming the antebellum South was more violent, Sager argues that southern states with established gender expectations set greater limitations on the level of violence considered permissible in marriages compared with areas in the process of settlement.
To prove her argument, Sager provides a qualitative analysis of the testimony from husbands, wives, and community members. Four of the chapters examine a particular form of cruelty, including intemperance and verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. Spouses turned to the courts expecting legal help, but plaintiffs needed to prove a decreased quality of life in order to be successful. Witnesses, then, proved indispensable and are the focus of the last chapter. Neighbors upheld the privacy of family to a degree during the period, but when troubled marriages spilled into the public domain or appeared life-threatening, any right to privacy was forfeited. Ultimately, in each state, a common understanding of gender expectations and boundaries in marriage emerged among husbands, wives, and the wider community.
The strength of Sager's work lies in the comparison of marital conflict in an established southern state with two states plagued by "frontier discord" (p. 8). Sager argues that Virginia's social stability, honor code, and need to appear less violent in the wake of increasing criticisms of slavery led to stricter restrictions on marital cruelty. At the opposite end of the spectrum, spouses in Wisconsin more frequently used lethal weapons such as axes, which Sager asserts was due to Wisconsin's fluid gender expectations and an increased level of violence as the state developed. From these findings, she carefully draws larger generalizations about the regions, but on occasion, using one state as indicative of an entire geographic region obscures significant cultural and legal variations.
Sager also excels in analyzing the dynamics of marital conflict and in challenging previous scholars on the role of women in marital violence as well as on the rise of companionate marriages.
Educational and enjoyable!
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Interesting But Dry
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I was not overly fond of Sally Martin's narration. If it had been longer than 6:43 I don't know if I could have handled it; she was a little too flat and expressionless for my taste.
All-in-all, a surprisingly enjoyable listen.
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Enjoyable Listen On An Uncomfortable Subject
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