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When Men Behave Badly

The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault

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When Men Behave Badly

By: David M. Buss
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“An exceptional book” (Helen Fisher) by a leading evolutionary psychologist and sex researcher that lays out a new theory of sexual conflict, exposing the roots of the dangerous dynamics that underpin men’s predatory behavior - and what can be done to address it.

Sexual conflict permeates ancient religions, from injunctions about thy neighbor's wife to the permissible rape of infidels. It is etched in written laws that dictate who can and cannot have sex with whom. Its manifestations shape our sexual morality, evoking approving accolades or contemptuous condemnation. It produces sexual double standards that flourish even in the most sexually egalitarian cultures on earth. And although every person alive struggles with sexual conflict, most of us see only the tip of the iceberg: dating deception, a politician's unsavory sexual grab, the slow crumbling of a once-happy marriage, a romantic breakup that turns nasty.

When Men Behave Badly shows that this "battle of the sexes" is deeper and far more pervasive than anyone has recognized, revealing the hidden roots of sexual conflict - roots that originated over deep evolutionary time - which define the sexual psychology we currently carry around in our 3.5-pound brains. Providing novel insights into our minds and behaviors, When Men Behave Badly presents a unifying new theory of sexual conflict, and offers practical advice for men and women seeking to avoid it.

©2021 by David M. Buss. (P)2021 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.
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Important, informative, and interesting

A well-researched book on the far-reaching consequences of sexual conflict. Understanding these dynamics can actually make your life better.

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EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW THIS INFO

I talk about this book a lot in my coaching business. I know a lot of men don't think they need to read this because they're a "nice guy" but you need to understand what women go through on a regular basis. Being a good person means having empathy for others. This book will teach you, both men and women, so much about unhealthy relationships.

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Perhaps the most useful work on evolutionary psychology

Buss has written a work that comprehensively explores the origins of human sexual conflict. When Men Behave Badly makes excellent use of scientific research - much of which he conducted- to demonstrate the need to view human sexual behavior from an evolutionary perspective. Doing so not only elucidates the origins of many barriers to intersexual compatibility- like intimate partner violence, infidelity, and sexual jealousy- but provides a basis to address these problems. Overall, worth reading twice.

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Reality, Research, and Unfortunate

This is an absolute fantastic compilation and mesmerizing read....and...also sad, unfortunate, and scary in its reality. If you can peaceably hold these two realities this book is a must read!

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Fascinating and informative!

Amazing! Written so everyone can understand it. Answers some fundamental questions I had about differences between men and women. Highly highly recommend this book.

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Another great book!

Mr. Buss has delivered many great books over the years. His work gives us important information in easy to understand ways. Huge fan!

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Incredible book

I had compassion for women before, but after hearing this audio it just went up much higher. This book shed so much light and perspective on the way we interact with women and what they go through. There’s so much facts and history in this book. Will definitely recommend

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This should be required reading in schools

Great pacing and incredibly informative. The beginning is full of interesting insights applicable to both sexes. But subtly inviting to males who may be less interested in hearing about the dangers they pose. Then by the time you’re hooked you’re learning about sexual coercion and it’s many forms and damages.
I hope many women start putting this book as “read this before you match with me” suggestion.
It would also be lovely to see a law in place for dating apps to put together behavioural data for analysis of individuals that show signs of dark triad traits.
It may feel troubling to many to be psychologically evaluated by an AI or data science team. But if people read this book and still feel against the idea; they’re likely exact people to be wary of.

Thanks Dr. Buss and team! The world needs more of this!

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Great read

Extremely insightful I would recommend it to anyone interested in The subject. Once again very informative and insightful

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Interesting ideas, but argumentation incomplete

The posited framework relies on scientific research and logical argumentation, which is fantastic. I love authors who supply sources and multiple validations to their claims. The result, I feel, was a self-consistent explanation of phenomena stemming from human sexual conflict. However, many arguments were not taken to their logical finish and remained unexplained. For instance, "why do women find dark triad men attractive" was given the equivalent answer of "because they fake or have qualities which women usually find attractive, such as confidence, status and wealth". That does not address the critical detail that being impregnated and abandoned by such a man is about the worst outcome a woman can get in the consensual part of the mating market, and so one would assume women would become excellent detectors of dark triad men. It makes no sense to find a man who will use you attractive. The cherry on the cake is the "sexy son hypothesis", which argues by a circle "women find them attractive because their sons, who are similar to them, would be attractive". Such holes in argumentation are found throughout the book. Personally I was disappointed by the (acknowledged) lack of discussion and explanation of sexual violence perpetrated by women, which could certainly be illuminated within the same framework. In short, a great book full of cool ideas, but that could use thorough questioning and gap filling.

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