
Non-Toxic Masculinity
Recovering Healthy Male Sexuality
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Zachary Wagner
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Dismissals such as "boys will be boys" and "not all men" are ingrained in our world. And the purity culture of our youth sold the same excuses with a spiritual spin. Can we break the toxic cycle and recover a healthy identity for men?
In Non-Toxic Masculinity, Zachary Wagner tells men, "If you are in Christ, this is your problem—and you should be part of the solution."
Reflecting on his own coming of age in the purity culture movement and ongoing recovery from sexual shame, Wagner confronts harmful teaching from the American church that has distorted desire, sex, relationships, and responsibility. For those—both men and women—who feel disillusioned and adrift, this book offers a renewed vision for Christian male sexuality founded in empathy and selflessness.
©2023 Zachary C. Wagner (P)2023 eChristianListeners also enjoyed...
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- Steven Thiel
- 06-20-23
Time to order some copies for friends
Thank you for taking the time to write this. It hit a little too close to home. It was great to see some clarity around the culture that I was introduced to in my teens. Very helpful as I now have fatherhood responsibilities.
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- Angel Feet
- 05-18-23
Refreshing perspective on faithful masculinity
The book was challenging, yet provided hope for readers who seek the redemptive work of Christ through our masculinity. Grateful for this book!
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- karen gray
- 06-11-23
Very helpful
A thoughtful little ok at what the Bible calls us to live out as humans. Thank you for trying to take back from pop culture Christianity and live for the glory of God❤️
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- Mommareviews
- 07-11-23
So helpful
I heard Zach on Preston Sprinkle’s podcast and was very intrigued by what he had to say. I have a 12 year old son who I want to teach well. I also grew up during the height of purity culture. A friend of mine and I have been waiting on the “middle way”. A way forward that didn’t embrace purity culture but also didn’t shun Christianity altogether. Zach’s combination of orthodox Christian beliefs and willingness to hear another side/find a healthier way forward are so helpful. I plan to listen again and then read it with my son. Here’s to raising a new generation of healthy boys and men! Thank you Zach for your work.
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- Jamin D. Bradley
- 09-01-23
Required Reading for Men
I have read a lot of Christian sex books and this one goes toward the top of my “best of” list. What’s especially remarkable about it is that it’s written by a man, but does not sound like all the other Christian sex and masculinity books written by men. Wagner does a terrific job of inviting us out of the worst of past teachings and he does it with both conviction and humility, making his words actually able to be heard.
Whether you are single, married or otherwise, this is a book that all men should read. Heck, I think it might even be beneficial for many women as it offers a better perspective on men than the macho and super-sexual teaching we’ve all been exposed to. It takes the best parts of the best books I’ve read on sex and complies them into something that I really think is helpful and healing for Christians to hear. I cannot recommend it enough.
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- kalpana s.
- 10-25-24
The author's empathy is empowering to the faith based abused women.
I am grateful for Zachary and his wife Shelby's honesty and sharing their life stories. I found this book empowering. The author explains what we have endured for decades. he has needed fresh ideas that not only confront toxicity but empower those harmed by it and advocate for non toxic masculinity. Everyone reading will find it useful. Thank you for your input in the mutuality movement. Blessings to you both.
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