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Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2002) by domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft is a nonfiction book for those who have experienced or are experiencing intimate partner violence and abuse. Why Does He Do That? outlines types of abuse, including physical, emotional, financial, verbal, and sexual abuse, and provides insight to shed light on the underlying reasons for abusive behaviors. Purchase this in-depth summary to learn more.
(Disclaimer: This is NOT the original book. If you’re looking for the original book, it is available from Amazon and Audible.)
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- Dave
- 12-24-21
helped in general
it really is just a summary. not a watered-down version of the book. not many insights to be found here, aside from an outline of what you would in fact learn if you read the actual book. I am especially thankful for the last one minute of this summary, which reveals that the author of the book has a reputation for dating the vulnerable woman he helps to consult. that really helps give me an idea of who is writing this book!
update: since listening to this summary, I purchased the actual book and read it. It is absolutely phenomenal. And I wouldn't have gotten a hint of its greatness from this summary. Do not let the summary turn you off to the book. The book is an unbelievable resource that I feel like is absolutely invaluable for someone in this situation, or anyone who wants to help them. In fact, I would argue that portions of this book should be required reading for every woman getting to be the age where they would start dating. It would save a tremendous amount of pain for a tremendous amount of people every year.
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- Vanessa
- 05-31-21
rather buy the book
the Amount of money is not worth the 30 mins summary,rather buy the book!
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