
The Way We Never Were
American Families and the Nostalgia Trap
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Narrated by:
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Suzanne Toren
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Stephanie Coontz
The definitive edition of the classic, myth-shattering history of the American family
Leave It to Beaver was not a documentary, a man's home has never been his castle, the "male breadwinner marriage" is the least traditional family in history, and rape and sexual assault were far higher in the 1970s than they are today. In The Way We Never Were, acclaimed historian Stephanie Coontz examines two centuries of the American family, sweeping away misconceptions about the past that cloud current debates about domestic life. The 1950s do not present a workable model of how to conduct our personal lives today, Coontz argues, and neither does any other era from our cultural past. This revised edition includes a new introduction and epilogue, exploring how the clash between growing gender equality and rising economic inequality is reshaping family life, marriage, and male-female relationships in our modern era.
More relevant than ever, The Way We Never Were is a potent corrective to dangerous nostalgia for an American tradition that never really existed.
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Critic reviews
"[Coontz] approaches the subject of what we now insist up on calling 'family values' with what is, in the current atmosphere, a refreshing lack of partisan cant."—Jonathan Yardley, Washington Post Book World
"Historically rich, and loaded with anecdotal evidence, The Way We Never Were effectively demolishes the normal, traditional nuclear family as neither normal nor traditional, and not even nuclear."—Nation
"Coontz's strength is in the way she shows that families of every era have been blamed for conditions beyond their control."—San Francisco Chronicle
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However, this book has so much fluff and throws out so many statistics that it makes it feel convoluted, and any individual pieces of meaningful information are hard to remember. I think this book could have been 50-60% shorter and still made a compelling case.
Great book, but...
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Interesting and Informative
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It had a good value production to it too. The narrator was excellent with the pacing and general telling of the book.
If you’re considering this, I think you should go for it; it’s a worthwhile read.
That tracks
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Good info but dry
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wonderfully researched and very enlightening
narrator was fantastic as well
fantastic report on the dangers of nostalgia
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Great book!
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