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Have you ever faced a series of unimaginable challenges and found yourself wondering how to move forward? Join us as we sit down with the extraordinary Dr. Kim Harms, whose life has been a testament to resilience and transformation. Born with missing fingers due to thalidomide, Dr. Kim Harms overcame incredible odds, only to face further heartbreak when her bipolar mother took her own life when Dr. Kim Harms was just 17. Despite these early hardships, she achieved her dream of becoming a dentist and found happiness in her marriage to Jim. However, her journey took another painful turn with the loss of her brother, her husband’s battle with liver cancer, and the tragic suicide of her son, Eric. Listen as she reflects on these profound experiences and the shifting societal attitudes toward mental health and suicide.

In the aftermath of her son’s death and the severe neck pain that ended her dental career, Dr. Kim Harms discovered a new calling as a grief counselor. Drawing on her personal experiences, she provides invaluable insights, emphasizing acceptance, processing grief, and finding a lasting place for loved ones. Her commitment to honoring her son’s memory led her to establish memorial libraries in Rwanda, helping others find solace through community and remembrance. Following her husband’s passing, Dr. Kim Harms continued her work with widows and authored devotionals and a thought-provoking book, "Are you ready? How to build a Legacy to die for." As a death doula, she offers practical advice on preparing for the end of life, ensuring a smoother transition for those left behind.

The episode also touches on the heartfelt initiative of creating a legacy through letters and memories, providing family members with a 'soft landing' after one's own passing. Dr. Kim Harms shares her touching journey to Rwanda, inspired by the resilience of genocide survivors, and her mission to support local libraries with children’s books. We discuss the importance of preparing for the end of life, maintaining a diverse identity in later years, and the impact of meaningful after-death communications. Tune in for an inspiring conversation with Dr. Kim Harms, full of life lessons on resilience, legacy, and the enduring power of community.

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Ready to uncover the heartwarming reality of children’s hospices? Join us as Jules from the Treehouse Hospice in Ipswich, part of East Anglian Children's Hospices (EACH), shares an eye-opening tour of this inspiring sanctuary. Discover how this nature-filled environment busts the myths surrounding hospices by offering vibrant spaces like sensory rooms and lush gardens where children can play and thrive. Our personal reflections in psychiatry highlight how mental health care has evolved, blending seamlessly with the holistic approach taken by hospices today.

You’ll be amazed by the array of events and activities available at Treehouse Hospice, from magical winter wonderlands and festive Christmas parties to the unique Tree Fest, a mini Glastonbury for kids. The crucial roles of volunteers, nurses, carers, and the wellbeing team come to light, demonstrating the extensive network of support provided to families. We highlight the thoughtful details, such as bespoke meals catering to diverse dietary needs and the far-reaching impact of outreach programs that bring the hospice's care into homes and communities.

Listen in as we broach the sensitive topic of end-of-life care for children, emphasizing living fully rather than focusing on the end. Touching stories like the joyful wake of a young man showcase how hospices can create meaningful, celebratory moments even in the face of death. We delve into the challenge of discussing death with children and the supportive environment hospices provide to bridge this gap. Finally, learn about the myriad ways you can contribute, from volunteering your unique skills to donating, and make a substantial difference in the lives of these families.

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
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What if facing unimaginable loss could inspire unprecedented hope? Join us as we welcome Richard and Nikki Bowdidge, parents of the founder of a life-changing charity, a charity born from the heartbreak of their son Tom's cancer journey. Hear their compelling story of transforming grief into action, raising £1.7 million over a decade to support teenagers and young adults with cancer. Discover how they've funded critical research and created welcoming hospital spaces tailored for young patients.

Navigating the waters of loss is never straightforward, but through candid reflections and personal anecdotes, we explore how authenticity and supportive relationships can offer strength during the darkest times. Learn the importance of being real with your grief, discussing death with children, and planning personalized funeral arrangements that honor the unique spirit of a loved one. This segment underscores the power of community support and the healing that comes from open, honest conversations about death.

Fundraising for healthcare and social services presents its own set of hurdles, and this episode dives into the strategies and challenges of managing these financial strains. Discover the impact of skyrocketing demand for social workers and the unpredictable nature of funding. We also highlight the compassionate contributions of organizations such as funeral directors John J Smith and like Co-op Funeral Services, which provide free funerals for under-18s. This episode is a testament to resilience, community spirit, and the relentless pursuit of support for those in need and the unbridled altruism of Richard and Nikki Bowdidge

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
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Discover the tender intersection of hospice and funeral care with Clare Montagu of Poppy's Funerals, where we delve into how her experiences shape a more compassionate approach to saying goodbye. As we sit down with this insightful CEO, you'll learn about the importance of personalized services for the bereaved and the deceased, the profound effects of family experiences on funeral arrangements, and why empathy and transparency are non-negotiable in this field. Join us for a conversation that will not only illuminate the seamless continuity of care from end-of-life services to the crafting of final farewells but will also reinforce the vital need to honor the individuality of each journey.

Embarking on a journey through the nuances of funeral care, we unpack the misunderstood practice of embalming, its true necessity, and the alternatives that can offer families comfort and choice. Clare Montagu enlightens us on the pressures that may arise from within the funeral industry. We dissect the chilling reminder from Hull's unfortunate events, emphasizing the paramount significance of transparency for trust-building and the benefits of open-door policies in funeral homes that invite families into the process, ensuring surpassing standards of care.

Finally, we tackle the cultural shyness surrounding conversations about death and how humor and education can bridge the gap. As we discuss the efforts to engage new generations in understanding mortality, we find that laughter might just be the unexpected companion in breaking the silence. The conversation also spotlights the unsettling lack of regulation in parts of the funeral industry, hinting at the potential for licensing and new technologies to enhance care standards. For those eager to navigate these profound topics further, Clare directs us to Poppy's Funerals' rich resources and blog – a trove of wisdom for anyone seeking to demystify the journey of death and dying.

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Last-Kiss-Romance-Carers-Stories/dp/1919635289/ref=sr_1_1?crid=13D6YWONKR5YH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._59mNNFoc-rROuWZnAQfsG0l3iseuQuK_gx-VxO_fe6DLJR8M0Az039lJk_HxFcW2o2HMhIH3r3PuD7Dj-D6KTwIHDMl2Q51FGLK8UFYOBwbRmrLMbpYoqOL6I5ruLukF1vq7umXueIASDS2pO91JktkZriJDJzgLfPv1ft5UtkdQxs9isRDmzAYzc5MKKztINcNGBq-GRWKxgvc_OV5iKKvpw0I5d7ZQMWuvGZODlY.fqQgWV-yBiNB5186RxkkWvQYBoEsDbyq-Hai3rU1cwg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+last+kiss+not+a+romance&qid=1713902566&s=books&sprefix=The+Last+kiss+n%2Cstripbooks%2C107&sr=1-1

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Dr. Tim Leeson joins me, Jason Cattrell, to unveil the layers of his role as the spirituality lead for St Helena. We delve into the essence of conversations in hospice settings, where the focus shifts from spirituality to heartfelt discussions about what the patient wants to talk about. He deftly explains the importance of person lead conversations that only touch on ones spiritual or / and religious questions. As he says "My team and I are not there to preach, we are there to listen and help reflect.

Our conversation transcends the confines of a typical podcast, touching on the professional dynamics of healthcare chaplaincy and the art of providing both structured and spontaneous support in palliative care. Everyone's needs are different and that is the most important thing for us all to recognise and listen to.

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Last-Kiss-Romance-Carers-Stories/dp/1919635289/ref=sr_1_1?crid=13D6YWONKR5YH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._59mNNFoc-rROuWZnAQfsG0l3iseuQuK_gx-VxO_fe6DLJR8M0Az039lJk_HxFcW2o2HMhIH3r3PuD7Dj-D6KTwIHDMl2Q51FGLK8UFYOBwbRmrLMbpYoqOL6I5ruLukF1vq7umXueIASDS2pO91JktkZriJDJzgLfPv1ft5UtkdQxs9isRDmzAYzc5MKKztINcNGBq-GRWKxgvc_OV5iKKvpw0I5d7ZQMWuvGZODlY.fqQgWV-yBiNB5186RxkkWvQYBoEsDbyq-Hai3rU1cwg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+last+kiss+not+a+romance&qid=1713902566&s=books&sprefix=The+Last+kiss+n%2Cstripbooks%2C107&sr=1-1

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Discover the empowering story of Dr. Liz O’Riordan, a breast cancer surgeon turned patient, who talks about the truth behind her dual identity in the realm of medicine. Our latest episode takes you through Liz's personal transition, delving into her fight against the very disease she once treated. As she navigates the stormy seas of breast cancer, her early retirement due to treatment complications, and the sexism she faced in her career, Liz holds nothing back. She's turned her trials into a beacon of hope and understanding, using writing and social media to connect with and support others, while challenging myths that cloud the realities of living with cancer. She has written Co written The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer with Professor Trisha Greenhalgh and Under the knife, her own personal memoir.

Step into Liz's world beyond the hospital as she shares the joy she finds in exercise, her familial 'jar of joy,' and the therapeutic release of blogging and podcasting. It's an intimate glimpse into how she's reshaped her life around health and happiness, maintaining her identity through fitness endeavors like triathlons and icy river swims, while also indulging in the art of baking (I want that muffin recipe!). This episode is an inspiring look at how she balances self-care, connecting with a community that understands her struggle, and staying active in charitable work, all while advocating for the crucial link between fitness and health.

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Last-Kiss-Romance-Carers-Stories/dp/1919635289/ref=sr_1_1?crid=13D6YWONKR5YH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._59mNNFoc-rROuWZnAQfsG0l3iseuQuK_gx-VxO_fe6DLJR8M0Az039lJk_HxFcW2o2HMhIH3r3PuD7Dj-D6KTwIHDMl2Q51FGLK8UFYOBwbRmrLMbpYoqOL6I5ruLukF1vq7umXueIASDS2pO91JktkZriJDJzgLfPv1ft5UtkdQxs9isRDmzAYzc5MKKztINcNGBq-GRWKxgvc_OV5iKKvpw0I5d7ZQMWuvGZODlY.fqQgWV-yBiNB5186RxkkWvQYBoEsDbyq-Hai3rU1cwg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+last+kiss+not+a+romance&qid=1713902566&s=books&sprefix=The+Last+kiss+n%2Cstripbooks%2C107&sr=1-1

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Can you imagine the pain of losing a loved one to suicide, compounded by a lack of resources, support, and societal understanding? We know this struggle is very real for many, and today's episode offers an intimate exploration of this heartrending journey. Our brave guest and my friend, Jenny Ruffle, shares her deeply moving story of her husband Barrie's battle with mental health issues and subsequent suicide. Her story is full of love, pain, transformation, and the crucial role of community mental health teams.

We also delve into the larger picture of the devastating impact mental health issues and suicide can have on families. The shock, guilt, and lack of support are a heavy burden that many carry, especially heightened by the current global pandemic. Jenny's story punctuates the urgent need for changes in Medical and Mental Health provision as well as increased support for those going through these unimaginable circumstances.

As we end this deeply impactful episode, we extend our heartfelt wishes for a peaceful holiday season and a hopeful new year.

Useful contacts :-

SOBS Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide. 01159 441 117
Papyrus Prevention of suicide by young people. 02920 789 759 or 0800 068 4141
Cruse Bereavement car and support 0808 808 1677
Samaritan's 0115 944 1117
EMDR Stands for Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing and can help with complicated Grief processes. You can look up local therapists but make sure that they are properly accredited.

Lastly, I'm not an expert on anything much but I know a lot of experts in many things so if you get stuck you can email me at djcatrell@hotmail.com and I'll try to respond as soon as I can.

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Last-Kiss-Romance-Carers-Stories/dp/1919635289/ref=sr_1_1?crid=13D6YWONKR5YH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._59mNNFoc-rROuWZnAQfsG0l3iseuQuK_gx-VxO_fe6DLJR8M0Az039lJk_HxFcW2o2HMhIH3r3PuD7Dj-D6KTwIHDMl2Q51FGLK8UFYOBwbRmrLMbpYoqOL6I5ruLukF1vq7umXueIASDS2pO91JktkZriJDJzgLfPv1ft5UtkdQxs9isRDmzAYzc5MKKztINcNGBq-GRWKxgvc_OV5iKKvpw0I5d7ZQMWuvGZODlY.fqQgWV-yBiNB5186RxkkWvQYBoEsDbyq-Hai3rU1cwg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+last+kiss+not+a+romance&qid=1713902566&s=books&sprefix=The+Last+kiss+n%2Cstripbooks%2C107&sr=1-1

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Ever wondered how Catholic priests approach end-of-life care? What role do they play, and how do they navigate it? Get ready for a captivating conversation with Father Rick Fernandez from St Teresa of Lisieux in Colchester. He'll be debunking common misconceptions and shedding light on the profound spiritual guidance that priests provide during these challenging times. From his unique journey as a missionary and a teacher to his current role as a priest, Father Rick's perspective on end-of-life care is not only enlightening but deeply moving.

This episode also takes a fascinating journey back in time, exploring the evolution of the sacrament of the sick, formerly known as extreme unction, in the Catholic Church. We'll explore the teachings of St. Francis of Assisi and the concept of "sister death". Father Rick will provide his valuable insights into death from a Catholic viewpoint, sharing how it is perceived as a natural transition and the significance of facilitating a peaceful and beautiful death. Then, we get real about funeral preferences and discuss the sensitive role of the church in comforting grieving families. Prepare to be deeply touched and enlightened by this rich exploration of the Catholic perspective on end-of-life care.

For those interested in what Palliative care looks like at home there is "The Last Kiss" (Not a Romance)
Available on Amazon now
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Last-Kiss-Romance-Carers-Stories/dp/1919635289/ref=sr_1_1?crid=13D6YWONKR5YH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._59mNNFoc-rROuWZnAQfsG0l3iseuQuK_gx-VxO_fe6DLJR8M0Az039lJk_HxFcW2o2HMhIH3r3PuD7Dj-D6KTwIHDMl2Q51FGLK8UFYOBwbRmrLMbpYoqOL6I5ruLukF1vq7umXueIASDS2pO91JktkZriJDJzgLfPv1ft5UtkdQxs9isRDmzAYzc5MKKztINcNGBq-GRWKxgvc_OV5iKKvpw0I5d7ZQMWuvGZODlY.fqQgWV-yBiNB5186RxkkWvQYBoEsDbyq-Hai3rU1cwg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+last+kiss+not+a+romance&qid=1713902566&s=books&sprefix=The+Last+kiss+n%2Cstripbooks%2C107&sr=1-1