Listen in as we discuss the complexities of Substance Use Disorder and the resilience of individuals and families affected by it. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of Tami and her son's journey through SUD and recovery. Tami emphasizes the importance of the whole family's support in the recovery process and acknowledges that it takes time and growth to navigate through the difficulties. She expresses her wish that no one else has to go through what they went through. The conversation also touches on the importance of setting boundaries, seeking outside help, and being open to different treatment approaches. The mother shares her own journey of learning and letting go of control, and the importance of finding what works for each individual in their recovery.

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Resources:

Nar-Anon Family Groups – Find a Meeting: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting

Al-Anon Family Groups – Find a Meeting: https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/find-an-al-anon-meeting/

Summary

Sarah Chittum shares her personal story of losing her son to fentanyl poisoning and her advocacy work in fighting against it. She emphasizes the need for awareness and education about fentanyl, as well as stricter punishments for drug dealers. Sarah also discusses the role of China and the Mexican cartel in the fentanyl crisis and calls for labeling the cartel as terrorists. She highlights the importance of closing the de minimis loophole and increasing border security to prevent the influx of fentanyl into the country. Sarah's ultimate goal is to prevent more parents from experiencing the pain of losing a child to fentanyl.

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Resources:

Lost Voices of Fentanyl website: https://lvof.org/

Lost Voices of Fentanyl Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/506404506985344

Texas Gulf Coast War on Fentanyl - https://www.facebook.com/groups/747791399820530

Montgomery County Overdose Prevention Endeavor (M-COPE) https://www.facebook.com/groups/mocope

In this conversation, Hope Aldred shares her personal journey with addiction and recovery, as well as her work in the field of family recovery. She emphasizes the importance of breaking the silence and stigma surrounding addiction and creating a support network. Hope also discusses the need for holding space for others and validating their feelings, rather than trying to fix or minimize their pain. The conversation highlights the messages that children and families need to hear, such as understanding addiction as a disease, knowing it's not their fault, and encouraging open communication. The conversation explores the importance of authentic connection and vulnerability when dealing with addiction. It emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding from others, especially within the recovery community. They also highlight the power of sharing their stories and breaking the stigma surrounding addiction. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the value of connection, support, and honesty in navigating the challenges of addiction. In this part of the conversation, the speakers discuss the importance of owning and sharing one's story, as well as the fear of judgment and stigma that can prevent people from opening up. They also explore ways that friends and family can support someone dealing with addiction, such as offering practical help, like cleaning a room, providing meals, or running errands. The speakers emphasize the need for intentionality and not waiting for the person to ask for help. In this final part of the conversation, the speakers discuss the importance of educating oneself about addiction and offering support to loved ones. They emphasize the need to normalize addiction and avoid judgment. They also talk about the power of asking someone how their soul is, rather than just asking how they are. The speakers highlight the importance of finding grace in people who don't understand addiction and the value of sharing personal stories to connect with others. They conclude by emphasizing that no one is alone in their struggles with addiction.

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Resources:

Nar-Anon Family Groups – Find a Meeting: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting

Al-Anon Family Groups – Find a Meeting: https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/find-an-al-anon-meeting/

Hope Aldred

HopeAldred@hotmail.com

912-541-2002

Alisha shares her personal story of being married to a drug addict and the challenges she faced. She discusses the stigma and judgment surrounding addiction and the importance of supporting family members in their own recovery. Alisha emphasizes the need to find a support group and not isolate oneself. She also highlights the importance of surrendering control and finding hope in the midst of the struggle. Alisha's story offers hope and encouragement to others going through similar experiences. The conversation explores the stages of recovery and the impact of addiction on relationships. It emphasizes the importance of not getting discouraged by relapses and highlights the growth and learning that can occur during the recovery process. The guests share their personal experiences and discuss the role of surrender, faith, and support in their journey. They also touch on the collateral beauty that can emerge from addiction, such as deepening their relationship with God and finding a new sense of purpose.

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Resources:

BOOK: The Complete Family Guide to Addiction. Everything You Need to Know Now to Help Your Loved One and Yourself.

Nar-Anon Family Groups – Find a Meeting: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting

Al-Anon Family Groups – Find a Meeting: https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/find-an-al-anon-meeting/

The Wheelhouse, Deer Park, TX: https://www.thewheelhouse.org/

Alisha Melton's contact info:

www.har.com/alishamelton

832-414-2760

www.Facebook.com/alishameltonrealtor

In this conversation, Pam and Caroline discuss how to set boundaries in relationships affected by addiction. They emphasize the importance of leaning into discomfort, deciding what actions to take, and enforcing boundaries. They also discuss the need for patience, communication, and self-care when setting boundaries. The conversation covers various examples of boundaries, such as not giving money, blocking phone numbers, and setting curfews. They also provide tips on how to say no and use 'I' statements. The hosts highlight the need for individualized boundaries and the importance of safety and emotional well-being.

• "When you're setting these boundaries, there's a mental process that goes with it and a grieving process that goes with it. Because when you set a boundary with somebody, you're changing the whole dynamic of your relationship, and you're letting go of what you thought your relationship was going to be." ~ Pam Moleta

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RESOURCES:

Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions: Feelings Wheel - https://www.6seconds.org/2022/03/13/plutchik-wheel-emotions/

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

Jefferson Fisher – Attorney with lots of 1-2 minute videos on how to handle different difficult
situations, people and conversations. https://www.facebook.com/justaskjefferson/ #JustAskJefferson

Loewhaley – Great 1-2 minute videos on how to set boundaries and handle different situations,
people and conversations at WORK. “How Do I Professionally Say…..?”
https://www.facebook.com/loewhaley/

Sharon Martin, PhD – Great free blog, newsletter and resources on how to set healthy
boundaries and other mental health issues. https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/

Day ONE Journaling App – Free app downloaded from Apple and Google Play
https://dayoneapp.com/

The Well Minded Podcast (Sober Soul Recovery) – Great podcast on a variety of recovery topics
from the substance user’s perspective is invaluable for family members!!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-well-minded-podcast-with-master-therapist-lynn-
matti/id1357979104

In this conversation, Caroline and Pam discuss the concept of enabling a person in active addiction. They explore the roles played within an addicted or alcoholic family and the psychological and behavioral symptoms that both the person with the substance use disorder and their loved ones may experience. They also delve into the difference between helping and enabling, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and allowing natural consequences to occur. The conversation concludes with a discussion on self-awareness and the need to change our own behaviors in order to break the cycle of enabling. In this conversation, Pam and Caroline discuss the concept of enabling and how it relates to addiction. They explore the ways in which enabling behaviors can create a crisis for both the enabler and the person with addiction. They emphasize the importance of setting healthy boundaries and having honest conversations with loved ones in active addiction. They also discuss the role of support groups and self-care in the recovery process. The conversation concludes with a list of do's and don'ts for loving someone with addiction.

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RESOURCES:

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in SE Texas: https:gulfcoastoutreachservices.org

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in Mississippi: https://odfree.org/get-naloxone

To find a Nar-Anon Family Support Group near you: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting

Summary

This conversation explores the challenges faced by a single mother raising a son who struggles with addiction. It delves into the journey of addiction, the impact on the family, and the difficulties of navigating the legal system and insurance battles. The conversation also touches on the mother's initial denial and eventual acceptance of her son's addiction. This conversation explores the journey of a mother, Caroline, as she navigates her son's addiction and recovery. Caroline shares her experiences of recognizing the signs of addiction, confronting the reality of her son's addiction, and seeking help from rehab centers and support groups. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, taking action, and finding support from organizations like Naranon. Caroline also recounts the harrowing experience of her son's overdose and the journey of recovery they both embarked on. The conversation highlights the significance of supporting a loved one's recovery and seeking help and support for oneself.

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RESOURCES:

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in SE Texas: https:gulfcoastoutreachservices.org

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in Mississippi: https://odfree.org/get-naloxone

To find a Nar-Anon Family Support Group near you: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting

In this first episode of Family Recovery Out LOUD, Pam shares her story of growing up in rural MS, the resulting trauma of losing her father as a teenager, her children’s addiction, and the Collateral Beauty of surviving it all.

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1. 1. c-PTSD – Parents Post-Traumatic Stress with Family Drug Addiction | The Meadows

https://www.themeadows.com/blog/parents-post-traumatic-stress-when-dealing-with-drug-addiction-in-the-family/#:~:text=C-PTSD%20was%20first%20described%20in%201992%20by%20Judith,are%20responsible%20for%20underage%20children%20in%20grave%20danger

1. 1. Trauma Bonding – Trauma Bonding: Definition, Signs, and Ways to Cope (verywellmind.com)

https://www.verywellmind.com/trauma-bonding-5207136

1. 1. Melody Beattie books on Codependency – https://www.melodybeattie.com

1. 1. Pia Mellody's book, son Love Addiction – https://www.piamellody.com

1. 1. Last Day podcast – https://lemonadamedia.com/show/lastday

1. 1. Crackdown podcast – https://www.crackdownpod.com

1. 1. Sober Soul Recovery (renamed as The Well Minded) podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-well-minded-podcast-with-master-therapist-lynn-matti/id1357979104

1. 1. Dr. Ruth Potee videos about how the brain is affected in addiction – https://ruthpotee.com/videos