Summer planning round 3, ding ding ding. I share a lot of my life because I am part of the Organize 365® brand. I’ve been podcasting for over 12 years and over that time I have shared a lot about me, my life, and my family. Recently I shared how I wanted to spend the next 120 days upleveling the upstairs of my house. Those plans changed when Abby decided to have back surgery. And once again those plans have changed. And when evaluating my boundaries, I asked to share some news on this podcast I’d been withholding to explain why all the changes.

My personal life

A year or two ago I started practicing boundaries. My family has never been upset with anything that I shared but I started thinking they are adults and it’s their news to share when there’s news. I don’t need to share everything. And a year ago I decided to stop sharing vacation/trips with social media and on the app. But then I wanted to share something while I was on a trip and I questioned my boundaries. I’ve decided I have boundaries in place but when I want to share something I will even if it goes against those boundaries. My boundaries are flexible.

Unexpected golden window

When Abby’s back surgery got cancelled, I removed the “When Abby has back surgery” google calendar and my calendar was bare! I’d dedicated about 80% of my upcoming time to take care of Grayson and Abby. Now what did I want to do in this unexpected golden window? People often ask “I have so much to do, but when I have a pocket of time, I don’t know what to do first.” I say all you need to do is just pick. I had lots of options when that time opened up on my calendar. I decided I want to make the PhD a priority. You see, Abby had to do some pre-operation bloodwork that revealed she’s expecting. Yes!! Hence the surgery is off. This discovery led to a cascade of changes for the next 120 days. The second thing I decided I wanted to do was revisiting creating an office upstairs in our house. And I created a little bedroom upstairs for Grayson like I’d mentioned before so our house is ready for this next phase of life. Wanna know how I’m gonna spend the rest of this time?

Italy, a Wedding, and a Baby

Knowing the baby is coming in December, I want to plan our Italy trip for this fall. It’s been cancelled a few times, and I want to go before Abby needs us with baby #2. More news I’ve been keeping private is that Abby is engaged and they’re getting married in the Spring of 2026, so we definitely need to squeeze this trip in. Pray for me as I plan this wedding. LOL So travel, travel is the other thing I want to do for this 120 days. By the time you listen to this episode I will have just come back from Michigan. Greg and Joey are headed to the Keys. When we head to FL I’m taking Grayson to Disney (secretly hoping it becomes our little tradition.) I’m taking an adult field trip to VA. And I’ll be planning this Italian trip for the fall that we’ve talked about taking forever! So I have a few things keeping me busy.

I will not be creating any courses or Sunday Baskets® for weddings, vacationing, or any other courses based on the events currently in my life. I’m not a public figure that is going to try to be an expert in everything I do. When I created Organize 365® I chose a subject I was an expert in and a subject that I wanted to talk and teach about until I was at least 80. Teaching others about organization is my unique gift and I’m going to stay in that lane.

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Life can really get challenging when you lose someone and they owned a business. Emily and I had to face that, with our dad, and I’ve shared about it and now Anna Hall is sharing about her dad. Anna has two younger brothers and she was kind enough to share their experience with settling his estate, taking care of his business and employees, and the family house her father built with his two hands. It couldn’t have come at a more complicated time for Anna. She and her husband had just built a house one year prior to be a half mile between her mom and her dad who were divorced. And Anna was in school for her doctorate, had an almost 2 year old son, and at almost 31 years had no experience how to settle an estate and grieve the loss of a parent.

It’s never planned

None of us plan when we’ll pass although we may know it’s coming soon. Our passing comes with great emotional distress to those we love. How can we make it easier on them? Do like Anna’s dad did. Thankfully he was a meticulous person and all of his paperwork was orderly and passwords were readily available. It saved a lot of time and money in lawyer fees because the lawyer didn’t have to go on a wild goose chase to obtain information. Anna advises to show up with as much paperwork as you can in that first visit. Her father assigned her uncle as the executor but let Anna and her brothers be in charge. He had a will and a separate document for the business. Her father also had titles transferred upon death saving money on taxes and keeping belongings out of probate.

What to do with the business?

Anna called a meeting with her brothers and a long time employee of her dad’s, JR. Her dad’s dying wish was to keep him working as long as JR wanted to. One of her brothers lived out of state so he wasn’t going to be able to help and Anna worked as a teacher full time so they needed to assign roles. It wasn’t too long after that Anna, who was the leader, realized her brothers weren’t paying attention to the reports, she was fine with that but wasn’t going to devote time to that anymore.

Anna led her dad’s company for 4 ½ years but was ready to sell the company. As fate would have it her father in law had a friend with a similar business. They needed a skilled wood crafter too like JR. Anna was able to sell her fathers company, keep JR working, and keep their current customer list serviced. It was such a blessing for Anna who now had two children and ambition to pursue a career as a result of getting her PhD. However, they did not purchase the warehouse. Anna took time to sell off items. It was sweet for Anna to have some of her father’s friends stop by, share stories, and maybe claim an item or two to remember their friend.

There’s something about the 5 year mark

There was something special for Anna to run the company for almost 5 years. She cherished being the one to carry on the legacy of her dad. If you find you just can’t part with some items yet, that’s ok. I always say get a storage unit, give yourself time with those items, and avoid regretting that you got rid of them. And we talked about that significant 5 year mark. I shared in a previous episode how around the 5 year mark I was able to see some of my dad’s items with less significance. You start to realize that person is a part of you and your memories. They aren’t that thing. The material things no longer represent them.

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If you find yourself in this role as Executor of an estate, I want to make sure to support you best during this time by providing a little food for thought. How do you want this time to look? It’s not easy losing a loved one and hopefully this episode provides emotional support in the form of considering your mindset during this time. And we found it is best practice to have ONE executor! Emily and I were both executors but needed to be present for every singing of all the papers and Emily bowed out. She said you do it, I trust you! It’s so much easier with ONE executor!! Here are the things we did to save time, money, and spare our relationships.

Protect Your Relationships

We had about a 9 month heads up that my dad was terminally ill. I lived 3 ½ hours South of my dad but I made a conscious decision that while my dad was alive I would prioritize taking care of him. My sister would call and I would get in the car and head North. On those long drives I would think about the memories I wanted to create with my dad, the moments I wanted to share still, and burning questions I wanted to ask. This would be the time to finish up that Financial Binder if it wasn’t completed. This way you know you are honoring their final wishes. But really? Complete it before this highly emotional time so you and/or your loved ones can focus on cherishing the final days. My Aunts and Uncles were so good to counsel us during this time in respect to what to expect in settling an estate and planning a funeral.

I also considered people I would be interacting with communicating things about dad’s health, his passing, and the funeral details. Out of respect, even though they were divorced, we communicated his passing with our mom first and loved ones from there. It is also ok during this time to set boundaries. I went through some scenarios to think through. How will you interact with your less than favorite relative respectfully? Keep harmony in mind.

Processing Loss

Based on my experience, it seems to be a female doing the bulk of the executor role. Her husband may be the actual Executor but in her supportive role she does most of the tasks. And so how do you, as a female, household manager, and maybe a parent, take time to process the passing of your loved one?You may need to cry it out in the shower. Maybe it becomes “long shower season.” I grieved my loss leading up to and weeks after his passing at my dad’s house. I found when I was home my family needed me. But when I got up to Akron that was a place I had time to grieve. But I encourage you to be selfish and take the time you need to process this loss.

How to Process the “Stuff”

I have this indulgent thing I do. I lay in bed half awake, half “asleep” and I think. Normally I rearrange my calendar and think through any projects. During this time I thought about my dad, my relationships, and all the stuff in his home. It was all going to be Emily and I’s. I didn’t want all of it but room by room I envisioned what I might want.

Then, I developed this elimination process for Emily and I. She didn’t have the bandwidth to sort through each room. I wanted to support her in this time and get the house content processed so we could move forward with selling his home. Each day, I’d tackle one room and set out all the items. We’d go through and claim the things we wanted. The rest would be offered to family and then to donations. This can be an emotionally charged tough season. Give yourself grace, keep harmony in mind, and for the love…finish your financial binders people!

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In this episode, I introduce you to Eve M who lives in Western Ireland with her rescue cat. Eve was first introduced to Organize 365® through listening to another podcast that was interviewing me about ADHD and Organize 365® solutions. Eve became obsessed about this idea of the slash pockets and organizing. She listened to the Sunday Basket® episodes repeatedly. She has a podcast too called Feel Better Everyday that she hosts, author of the book 365 Ways to Feel Better, owns her therapy practice, and is a freelance journalist.

We rabbit trailed about having a podcast. Eve has noticed with organization she’s gained mental capacity to batch record her podcast content. And we joked how funny it is that once you notice you’ve gained capacity you continue to push it to see how much more you can accomplish with such things as batch recording. We also talked about growing business. Once you see you have room for growth, that is a great time to get a VA. Eve has gotten a VA and is surprised by how much more she can do because she’s not focusing on the admin tasks or harvesting content from work she’s already completed. There is less on her plate due to delaying some things according to the Sunday Basket® practice, but it’s all getting done within time constraints. It’s like her safety net to not have things fall through the cracks. And knowing all of the work that needs to be done helps her ensure that she has work for her VA too.

Then we had a really fun conversation about deep dive work. I love my Thursdays when I get immersed in school studies. It allows me time to do productive deep thinking. When we get rid of some of the noise like admin tasks, meetings, delaying things till Sunday, and other distractions, we can really focus and get creative. Eve explained that this is also time to capture all of her pink thoughts. And described deep dive immersive time as being luxurious. It allows us to nourish our unique purpose and grow in it.

She wishes she’d known to build in time for rest. I explained what fun means to me, travel!! But Eve shared her she’s been resting, taking back up scuba diving, and scheduling fun. She said she spent so much time trying to catch up, she has so many ideas though, she has realized she never will “catch up” so she’s resting and having fun instead.

Eve’s advice is, “Keep checking in with yourself. Know that you know yourself best, you know your business best, you know your home best. Trust yourself and just keep asking yourself ‘What would be a kind thing for me to do for myself right now?’”

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As we are having these necessary conversations on how to be prepared for unexpected medical events or natural disasters, I saw a friend of mine Sarah Hart Unger had one of her own. I asked her to come on the podcast so we could talk about what happened, how she handled it, what she learned from it, and how she may improve her preparedness.

I’m Healthy

Sarah shared how she was so excited to get back into running marathons. There she was in Miami in about mile 11 of her half marathon when all the sudden she heard her body say something wasn’t right. She bunked (marathon runner speak for running out of steam) and she was surprised and disappointed, why was this happening? Her friend took her to the medical tent and they told her all was well. She was so confused because she was a runner and she considered herself a very healthy person. Five steps into leaving the tent something told her no, and to go back. Moments later she was on her way to the hospital. She was pleading with them to just let her get to the hospital to be put under so they could shock her heart there, not that moment in the ambulance! Sarah has been diagnosed with a rare condition called Arrhythmic Cardio Myopathy.

What Systems were in place?

Thankfully Sarah was near where her in-laws live so they could support Sarah during her hospital stay and gave comfort to her daughters that someone was there comforting their mom. Sarah appreciated the medical team that took care of her, she felt heard, that they were honest with her, and was thankful for the way they cared for her. She wrote questions down because sometimes there wasn’t anyone to ask if it was like 2am. And she had realistic expectations of how long it may take to get a diagnosis.

She got images in hand for additional specialists she wanted to see for second opinions. She advises to always ask for the images and reports. I feel like digital records help us to be productive and physical records help us to look, analyze, and see patterns. We’re all under this false pretense that our records are digital. And they may be, but, do you want your doctor visit to consist of tracking results down or do you want it to be focused on the course of action for treatment? Remember the mini medical binder is available for free right now. If you even show up with that you are ahead of other people. You can just start putting the medical papers in a pile and bring them. Sarah is a Pediatric Endocrinologist and says that she’d rather have people show up with results and reports messy than not at all.

How to better prepare?

Sarah wishes she had her old labs and EKG’s for comparison sake. I remember being able to show my doctor my cholesterol history and I avoided being put on medicine. I showed that for years my normal is in the “yellow” zone. Sarah also wishes she would have headed the advice to get another EKG years ago but life got busy and she forgot. Sarah stressed that we have to take care of ourselves just like we do our children. She accredits their amazing nanny for being able to step in and fill in the gaps. However, because they always plan their week out and share it with the nanny, they nanny knew how to fill out the schedule for the family. Sarah suggested a family member maybe come observe a couple days at your house to see the day to day unfold and be aware of what they may need to do in your absence. It’s ok if the ship sinks a little like if someone has to miss soccer, that’s ok. Sarah warned “Don’t ever assume ‘I’m healthy, nothing can happen to me.”

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In this episode, I introduce you to Amy L. who is married with a son, daughter, a dog and some chickens. At the time she found Organize 365® she and her husband were working full time and raising cattle. Amy was lured to Organize 365® by the cozy pictures people were posting with a drink and their Sunday Baskets® on Instagram. I had forgotten all about that!! She had to check out what all the fuss was about. Organize 365® became the first podcast she intentionally listened to to learn about organization. Amy was in the middle of a remodel and had hit her tipping point. Paper had always been the bain of her existence but now she couldn’t locate important papers and she felt out of control and irresponsible.

So Amy is in the middle of remodeling her house and her husband planning to start a business, when she gets a call from her brother saying “Something's up with dad.” Turns out something had been up with dad for a while but her brother had been trying to handle it. I don’t talk about it much but it was very relatable to me when Amy shared that her dad had late-onset of bipolar and he was acting manic. Amy was smart enough to get her name on her dad’s bank accounts and she became power of attorney but needed someone to diagnose him incapacitated. Amy was burned out. She explained her life as unmanageable at that time.

Amy decided to quit her job in June of 2024. Her family needed her, especially her daughter with ADHD, dysgraphia, and dyslexia, and her son with autism and ADHD. She talked to her husband and they agreed to sell off their cattle. Amy’s dad ended up passing away in August of 2024 followed by her having a heart attack in November. She called for an ambulance after making arrangements for her kids and informing her husband. She kept saying she was under so much stress she felt like she was going to “stroke out.” She had a spontaneous coronary aortic dissection. We had quite a long conversation about that day and the day I drove an employee to the hospital who was having a heart attack. She accredits the Sunday Basket® for saving her butt because her short term memory had been affected by the heart attack.

And that brought us into a very real conversation about your attitude in your 40’s and 50’s. We aren’t trying to be crass and we love our families. But in your 40’s you stop caring about what others think and in your 50’s you save what energy you have for important things or yourself, blame it on the hormones or lack thereof. I gave the example of when Grayson has an allergic reaction, I don’t need to be at the hospital. I can simply get updates from his mom. I know I am supporting her and if she needs me I’ll be there but if not, I’ll stay and get homework done in the office.

Amy expressed gratitude for the grace I suggest women should give themselves with getting functionally organized not Pinterest organized. She loves that a person can get organized but it doesn’t have to look perfect in the end. Amy loved that it wasn’t perfect but it wasn’t cluttered anymore either during her renovation. She’d had the Sunday Basket® and listened to the podcast for 18 months before she put it all into action. She’d been gaining knowledge and learning how to give herself grace to get started and not need it to be perfect. She feels like the episodes are so relatable. And I added yes, you all are my friends and I want it to feel like we are just girlfriends talking. It’s nice to know that’s exactly how Amy hears it.

Amy’s advice is, “Start small, start somewhere, and listen to the podcast”

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• The Paper Solution®

• The Productive Home Solution®

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On the Wednesday podcast, I get to talk with members of the Organize 365­® community as they share the challenges, progress, missteps and triumphs along their organizing journey. I am grateful that you are reaching out to share with me and with this community. You can see and hear transformation in action. If you are ready to share your story with us, please apply at https://organize365.com/wednesday.